Sexual energy and spiritual energy don’t have much in common, however, the common threads that they do share are very powerful.
The orgasm is a way the body “restarts” it’s sense of emotional well-being. It’s so vital to maintain a healthy sense of well-being for emotional strength in today’s stressed-out world. Sex balances the chemistry so one can continue the spiritual work. If sex is not gentle on both sides, then there’s no spiritual growth in it.
* (This post is NOT intended to cover all the facts about sex, just the ones that interest me; as in “that” which needs to be said.
* When I talk about sharing spiritual energy in this Post, I am really talking about the auric field around the body, which is loaded with information: it contains the full spectrum of color within our personality; our tendencies, desires and lessons that are currently on our table; “that” which is in our face, and pinching our emotions. Asking us to “wake-up”, and change the quality of our lives to match “that” which we seek.
The auric field is the radiance and shine of your spirit. Your spirit and your chakra system is yours and only yours, it can’t be given away, and it can’t be stolen. The same goes for your soul. It’s like the sun is sharing it’s radiance and not itself. “So you are sharing the radiance of your spirit and NOT the spirit itself”.
Because the human mind is so limited, we have to break it down into limiting concepts. In truth, there is no difference. First we learn, then we practice.
* The sexual orgasm maybe contributed as a way of understanding God, it is however NOT a path to ascension. The sexual experience is all about the physical, and ascension is all about the spirit, and there can’t be anything more different or opposite from each other.
* Energy is both seen and unseen, here we are talking about the non-physical energy, or the kind that is experienced through the awareness of The Loving God.
* The sexual orgasm is where we can physically feel the Life-force energy or Chi which is the same as spiritual energy flowing through the body. Spirit; is your ray of light; the all healing and transforming force. Your light-body and your spirit are the same thing, and the chakra system is apart of the light-body. It’s a way of describing the spirit and it’s multidimensional countless functions.
This spiritual energy is a very powerful healing agent. There are many fascinating methods for harnessing and channeling spiritual energy through the act of sexual intercourse, and redirecting it to heal the body, or balance the emotions.
* The sexual orgasm has a way of bringing the hormones into balance, for both male and female.
* This practice comes from Tantra : One that comes to mind, is during sex just before climax, stop and put your attention on the location in your body that needs healing, and this spiritual energy will gather there and begin the healing. This application may need to be repeated as often as needed, and this method requires a bit of discipline from both involved.
* For all you men out there who are looking to create deliberate strong bonds with your lover. Envision your energetic penis extending long and entering the heart space at the top of your thrust. (You don’t need to physically go deep to do this.) Feel the connection and say to them “I choose to bond with you” as you come to climax. Connect to the truth of this statement as you speak it.
* Another deliberate bonding technique is to create a rainbow bridge from your heart to theirs, and this can be done at any distance. This also works on enhancing your telepathic abilities [to connect from a distance]. The page Spiritual Earth Connections will explain this more in-depth.
* Another “deliberate bonding technique” brings us into alignment with sacred sexual intimacy: during sex just as you begin to climax, gently press the tip of your tongue with theirs for the duration of the climax. This completes a circuit of energy [your Chi or Life force energy] that is now flowing and mixing deliberately with your lover, through your body then through theirs and so on, mixing and merging the spiritual essence that you are. What activates it is a spark of sexual excitement by both involved. Deliberately creating this bonding experience is 1,000 times greater than if you don’t. [This deliberate bonding will only take you so far, if you want a stronger connection, it is done through a spiritual relationship with your partner.] During sex there is a merging of energies, yours and theirs, just the act of sex alone does this. The average bond last 2-3 weeks, the deliberate bonding method time last 2-3 months, and a lot of this depends on your sensitivities. This deliberate bonding blends your spiritual essences together, and this heightens your sensitivities for telepathy and empathic abilities between you both. This only works between 2 people, per orgasm, no matter what your sexual preference is. Sexual bonding through orgasm is automatic, it happens whether we want it or not. Simple, if you don’t want the bond, don’t have sex with that person. Or you’re sleeping with a lot of people, and you start feeling “not like yourself”. Then to release yourself from the bond of another person, then go to Cutting Cords of Emotional Attachment. Or cruse through the page Relationships with Boundaries or Energy Shielding when looking for ideas on better balance.
If only one of you orgasm, then you both experience the bond.
Emotional bonding doesn’t require an orgasm, just valuing that person’s attention, or cuddling while being deeply in love, and that nurturing emotional bond has a far more lasting effect. Kissing renews/maintains the emotional bonding. Infatuation is lustful bonding, and not really a good thing.
“So we don’t choose who we share a bond with”? You do, by choosing who you have sex with. And that bond becomes much stronger through the co-created relationship of love, respect and the active practice of boundaries and personal power. Practicing boundaries with our partner provides healthy respectful space. The key word here is “active practice”, not just reading these words, yet doing the work and putting them into action.
The deliberate bonding practice brings you both closer emotionally; which can open doors to intimacy, trust and staying power. It creates the Velcro experience 🙂
Depending upon your sensitivities you may or may-not experience this exchange of spiritual expression physically. Most people can feel this emotionally, as in feeling closer to your partner because of sex. However not all will completely understand how incredible the merging of the “right” personality does to your own well-being instead of the “wrong” personality. A situation in which you both click with each other, instead of someone you have casual sex with, and this someone you click with becomes much more than just eye-candy.
This deliberate bonding technique is a means of building companionship, where love and trust are so woven together that we can’t tell them apart, and where the experience is more “best-friends” than lovers. Being in Tune with Your Partner. And Do You Truly Want To Know What Makes A Relationship Work?
If you are not viewed in the way in which you need by the end of the second date, you are with the “wrong” person, and it is your responsibility to get up and leave the table sooner than later. And if you’re not sure what your needs are, then the last thing you want to do is stand up there and say “I do” on any level. We all have control over who we choose to fall in love with, we just choose who is running the show, our chemistry or our intuitive gut feeling. One pulls and tugs at us and can be very overpowering, while the other grants us full and complete empowerment when we choose to actively follow its advice.
Spiritual Guidance; our intuitive gut/heart centered feelings, seeing, hearing, or knowing it to be true are ways that give us the short-cut in following the “right” course of action. When going on that first date, and meeting them for the first time. “That” very first heart centered thought or feeling you have: “that something doesn’t feel quite right”, or “this will be fun” needs to be what navigates you. Because if you look back on it ten years later, and you say: “I knew something didn’t feel quite right”. Then it’s ten years of your life gone in the indifferent direction, and for women one year is a big deal. So learn how to follow that very first feeling about them, or the guidance of: “does this inspire and energize me”. It’s much, much easier to step away in the beginning, then waiting beyond the time in which our emotions become invested. Because trying to make something work that is not right, is like swimming up hill in sand, there’s no reason to be in it other than the fact that you’ve “learned” to love them, different from that intuitive zing. So be true to yourself by following what is best for you. Just because you’re now a couple doesn’t mean that you give up your faith and happiness to them. If the relationship doesn’t move along the guidelines of your “happiness”, then why are you there?! Learn the ego-less relationship.
* After meditating on love and gratitude, and those higher vibrations for long periods of time, we begin to feel all warm and fuzzy inside. All forms of energy healing will [when done right] give the practitioner that warm fuzzy feeling, of a more quiet Life-force energy flowing through the body. Reiki, chakra healing, and anything to do with chi.
* Chakra healing through sex: Spiritual sex is the art of using the affectionate love, that intense love and connection that is generated by sex, to open the chakras. If sexual love opens your heart and not the lower chakras. Then open the heart as big as you can, then allow the overflow to spill down and fill the next one below. It may take time before you begin to feel that one open up, and when it does repeat for the next one down. Energy can spill up as well.
Amazing things will happen in your life when all your chakras can be activated.
When sexuality is approached from a spiritual perspective it becomes “sacred sexual intimacy”; an ego-less approach to sexuality or more importantly an ego-less approach to your partner, and into the brighter vibrations of sacred intimacy. “Nothing like splashing around in this environment”. When choosing to approach through a higher awareness, we tend to activate the healer in us, and this grants appropriate action. This slows down ego, and because sex is ALL about ego. This is how we bring in the Sacred.
Sexuality can be used as a tool in reaching those higher realms of spirituality, and this can only be achieved if you both are traveling this path together. Otherwise you just grow apart. Transparency is an essential ingredient to meaningful relationships.
You can’t use another person for your gain, it cannot work that way. Sexual climax accelerates your Chi in a way that you can physically feel it. While in that space connect to “the child-like joy… and laughter”. This kind of sexual laughter is very powerful, because it manifests the agent of accelerated healing, so while laughing connect to that part of yourself that needs healing. Sexual laughter is powerful because it’s in direct relationship to your Chi [life force energy is that ALL healing and transforming force]. However, you can use any deep laughter that tickles your inner child. It’s also a key element if you’re into the art of manifesting… anything. Like the Tantra healing exercise mentioned before, can be very effective with this sexual laughter. This laughter is not for anything or anyone, it’s an inner tickle.
Try mixing this sexual laughter and inner joy with prayer and watch what happens.
* We can also channel sexual and spiritual energy into art on any subject, and those creative flows, because they all come from that same field of Source Energy or God space. To think of your lover, and or to think of God, then switch to thinking of that creative project. Bring the energy up from the belly [2nd chakra, “creativity” and a lower vibration] into the heart [4th chakra, “action” and a much higher vibration]. From thinking to acting. When an idea lands in the heart, it becomes action. “Wisdom is knowledge in motion”. When we find that alignment, the experience becomes an exciting ride, because we find we can apply this anywhere.
Going from spiritual to sexual is easy, because we’re going from a higher vibration to a lower one, and there’s no effort involved. Going from sexual to spiritual requires focus and attention, shifting from your ego-self to the god-self while connecting to her god-self, now that takes attention. Letting go of ego and self-gratification, bring the mind into the present moment, lose yourself in the sexy details of your lover, with the end result of creating an incredibly strong bond. This bond is strengthened greatly when this connection goes beyond the bedroom and becomes an action of relating, or a “quality of life statement”. To bring in an angelic-like quality of awareness into your experience is an amazing space to splash around in! The spiritual experience of sexuality comes from having a spiritual practice and that sacred connection, and if you don’t have one, it’s easy to create.
* A telepathic connection is made each and every time we have a sexual orgasm with another person. The strength of that telepathic connection is the same no matter how many orgasms you have. What makes telepathy stronger is practice, can you tell who is calling before you answer the phone? Do you know what your partner is thinking before they say it? Do you have a good read on someone to know if it is wise to get involved with them, or not?
It’s about trusting what you hear, and asking your partner often if that is indeed what they were thinking. Telepathic and Empathic.
If you would rather text instead of face to face interaction, then you may learn from the experience of separation. It’s the irony of technology. We are meant to communicate without technology. The art of telepathy comes through the higher fields of gratitude and compassion, and Not through Will, anger, jealousy or resentment.
Because sex is ego driven and very physical, and telepathy is apart of our extra sensory perceptions (ESP), there is no such thing as telepathic sex. To believe in telepathic sex is about projecting your Will; to Will something to happen, and very ego driven. Not a good thing. However I do understand that acting through Will is apart of the journey to Truth, although it is not Truth. We learn what is truth by what is not.
“Just say there is such a thing, and you have telepathic sex with someone without their permission”, I would call that psychic rape. To shield yourself from those who are doing this is very easy Energy Shielding. To shield yourself from psychic rape it helps to believe in light more than you believe in darkness.
* Sexual bonding combined with emotional bonding is a very powerful experience. If your sleeping with multiple partners in a short amount of time, and you start to feel “not like yourself”. Then you may need some time alone. This applies to everyone regardless of sexual preference. By withholding from sex, the sexual bond will wear off, and or look into ideas of Energy Shielding.
Q: Why it’s important to know about energy exchange when having sex with multiple partners? This is a question for those who are interested in those more refined details of the “power of influence”. Say I choose to be successful in life, and the sexual partner I’ve chosen is someone with very low self-esteem issues. That persons issues becomes entangled with your emotional self, if that person is not working to overcome those issues and therefore not moving forward… then it’s like carrying them over a wall. And all it takes is one encounter to weigh you down for the next 2 -3 weeks, multiply that by a handful of people with trust issues, commitment issues, anger issues… you so deserve someone who moves with you. To have intense love for someone who doesn’t see you is called karma, Karmic Relationship?
This also goes both ways; if you are not doing your part in your emotional healing it won’t matter if they have low self esteem issues or not, the relationship be a twisted mess.
Q: What to do if your spouse has a lower vibration? Be patient with them. There’s a reason you’ve chosen this path with them. It’s not about them catching up to you, it’s about you slowing down to them. If you want a partner of equal vibration, you must start with that. You can’t make the bud flower before it’s time.
Can you raise your partner’s vibration to match your own? No. A person’s vibrational frequency rises with their spiritual awareness. We can’t teach what they aren’t ready to hear. Through their own inner work, they will acquire the receptivity for that alignment.
* Women tend to fall in love with the potential of who the man can be, instead of the reality of what stands before them. During the mating dance he has a tendency to paint a beautiful picture of himself, something way outside of that practical box, and this is where she hears and picks up on the potential of him. He does this both from the competition women provide, and the training of his peers. This is no different than what we observe in nature in the animal kingdom.
A man who is comfortable in his sexuality, and confident in himself will avoid this game. For he who knows himself well is already acting from his potential.
* Sadly when it comes to sex, most women experience pain during sex, and this is due to lack of readiness.
Men respond to physical stimulation to get excited. Women on the other hand need quite a bit of emotional stimulation to get excited. Unfortunately men have little to no experience in this field. This is where it would help if women had the courage to share with men, what they need different from what he “thinks” she needs. This discussion is all about a life choice, because it is a behavior that goes well beyond the bedroom. It’s not just one thing, it’s a whole string of things. And she needs this emotional quality all the way through her life. As he needs physical attention from her all the way through his life.
Something as simple as making her proud for something you did. And or it’s that “can do, want to do” energy about men that stirs her. And or it’s “a lot of verbal” praise, emotional reassurance, she needs to “feel” loved, and discover what makes her feel empowered by him. “To be sexually turned on by him, she “has to feel safe”, and it helps if she is deeply in love with him”.
Get creative in the bedroom, and “avoid routine”. With long kissing, touching, tasting, and getting lost in her sexy details. This is all about “taking things Slow”, They both need to be present, honest, and communicate. Kindness, connection, thoughtfulness… This means you both need to step out of the comfort zone. Women need an emotional connection with him to have good sex, and men have sex in order to create a good connection, and they crave that connection. So there’s incentive here for both sides to be mindful of their actions.
So, not only hug her, hold her until you feel her relax at the end of her long day. Give without keeping score. And delay gratification; in other words dance with her without it ending with sex. Get into the habit of checking in with her about her needs, “are you warm, are you hungry, what do you need from me”? Then fulfill that need from gratitude. Because this has a tendency to come back to you in the bedroom.
A man may take 3 minutes to get a woody, a woman may take anywhere from 20 to 40 minutes to warm up. Which is nearly completely different from how we behave today… All because of ego. And this sadly has been destroyed by porn, because porn Does NOT show the man how to stimulate a woman. This is a major break-down of confidence when it comes to relationships between men and women. Porn is a one-sided relationship, and that’s what we’ve become.
More on the page Relationships.
* Porn sex is NOT love, not even a little bit. If you’re emotionally sensitive, porn can come across as a very violent act. It’s all about men and their self-gratification; all about climax/orgasm. Hard core porn is all about dark ego, men taking what they want without asking permission, there’s no emotional heart connection here. He is not even plugged into what it is that she needs for her own climax, or even what organs maybe being effected. No verbal communication “does this feel good”. Guys that practice this form of sex often have sexual frustration, and that can show up as dominance and control; slapping and pulling hair. Grabbing the throat is no longer about dominance, it’s all about violence. A porn Director who wants this in his film supports a sick society through the distortion of his own brokenness. If he was connected to his sacred masculine, the thought of “the hand around the throat” would never be.
The hand around the throat conveys the message that he has no problem with taking without permission. Him grabbing your throat, is about him not having control with his own life, so he’s reaching out for control over you, and where his sexual frustration has him SO far out there, that, that emotion has him crossing that line into violence. This is where he is turned on by the idea of rape. Men who grab women by the throat are ones who don’t value life. This is what it looks like when he is emotionally out of balance, and in truth, this is his threshold to cross. What he has to discover in his own healing and in himself, is that trust is more powerful than control. Porn teaches us how to make hate, and not how to make love.
Stepping away from this action is a direct consequence of your happiness. And you tell him that , “this is the consequences of me following my happiness”, and if he doesn’t change instantly, then he is not the one for you… Period!!! If there is violence without permission, for a woman the consequences of such actions should lead her away from him without thought. Because when we merge violence and sex together, what we have is rape. If she values her life, she needs to understand that he is turned on by anger, and this can easily slip into rage and real violence. This behavior should not be acceptable by any means. This is not something she can ever fix in him. This is his threshold to cross. And it’s okay if your choice for him, is to not learn this avenue of hard knocks through you.
Anything that is an expression of not getting enough, comes through a dysfunctional expression of power through control. Sexual frustration comes from a need to heal a hole in one’s heart, and when we try to fill that empty space with more sex, more alcohol, more money we discover more frustration. Sexual frustration can be healed by embracing emotional connections. Sexual frustration doesn’t come from sex, this frustration comes from other places like lack of acknowledgement at work, feeling like an unproductive person, and so on. Sex is where it shows up.
So when your with your partner, take time to let go of the past and the future, and just be present as in the present moment. Let go of the need to climax and get lost in the physical sexy details of your partner, and you may discover your climax to be more potent. And yes, this takes time, don’t expect results after the first time, just get lost in the practice of it.
When he / she starts to get frustrated because the climax is not coming, that simply means that they are not “present”. Their mind is getting in their way. They’re too focused on themselves and their performance.
Because of porn SO many young men, and older men at this point have forgotten their sacred sensual sexuality. It’s become about “getting it in, getting it on, and getting it out”.
There’s pockets of good men here and there who do understand, and have a strong connection to their sacred masculinity. It’s when it comes to sex they strive for connection, because “that” is where they understand empowerment as a tool for both involved. They understand that this is what makes their loving union tick. What women love most about good mature men, is self-control; they are NOT influenced by outside substances. They are guided by their core integrity, that is the strength within them all the way through their lives.
* If we have a practice of cutting cords of emotional attachment with our sexual partners, as well as a solid practice with healthy boundaries we will have a more emotionally harmonious life style.
* People who fall into porn fall out of love with the personality of their partner, because they’re more interested in “just” sex. Online porn becomes a catalog of sexual fantasies, and that person becomes more interested in what’s on the screen then what’s in the other room. This in-turn brings on a sexual greed. Where they are never satisfied, just going from partner to partner to partner to… ending in sexual frustration.
* Porn has your perceptions wrapped up in the physical features of the body, and turns off everything to do with the face, and not to mention the personality.
* Does the look in her eyes give you the signal that she’s having fun? Does she have the look of trust? If she has the look of concern, then he needs to step out of his mind, and connect to her needs. Or you have the look of anger on your face, than you’re trying too hard. Become immersed in those sexy details that they are. Because through the practice of boundaries and personal power there are far better ways of processing personal challenges than through sex.
* MEN PLEASE LISTEN: having sex with a woman who is twerking on you, means she may NOT be aware as to where you are in her, and if she comes down on you while you’re NOT in her she can bend, fold, and break your dick. Which when heals will Never work the same again!!! So, twerking may be fun to watch, it may not be however fun to participate. So ask her to slow way down.
* Hands-free sex for most women comes across as a form of emotional betrayal. Women and most men need physical touch. Some men who practice hands-free sex can become very aggressive, often to the point of becoming harmful. Simply because he’s all in his ego, he’s forgotten his spirit (his strength of being gentle), and he’s lost his fire (connection to his sacred masculine).
* Anal sex is the guy’s idea, very few women actually like it. It’s just another place for him to put his pecker, there’s not much of “what do you think of this idea, and would you like to try it”? It’s more like “ready or not”. Some guys get off on inflicting pain, and a lot of men secretively get off on “being some place they shouldn’t”. If men had the same anal sexual experience as the women they have sex with, and with the same action of thrust, they would have a lot more compassion for women. Men will go to amazing extremes to justify this experience. “So sweetheart if it’s not what you want, it’s absolutely okay to say no”.
The anus is not designed for the same kind of action as the vagina is. Because the anus doesn’t produce lubricant like the vagina does, nor does it expand as easily. It’s very important to be gentle, and make sure it’s what she wants. Because there’s no lubricant in the anus, he can tear her insides causing things like cancer. So women “keep him lubed”.
Guys that have a beautiful woman before them, and all he’s interested in is stuffing it in her “boy hole”. These guys completely miss the point, “that” emotional connection creates a stronger and more intense orgasm.
* When a guy chooses anal sex he takes the risk of being shit-on. Because anal sex gives her the sensation of “needing to go to the bathroom”, and by this she can’t tell the difference between the stimulated feeling, and the actual “need to go”… Until he pulls out, and she instantly dumps all over him or not. So if this does happen to you, “it is NOT her fault“, and all because you chose this hole!
* Deep throating a woman or fisting her is all about violent control; “As a relationship with a slave”. His sexual frustration has him SO broken that he finds himself crossing that line of no-return. Women who agree to these acts are also broken from that great need to be accepted. Healing this comes from the realization that trust is more powerful than control. “Know this”: when he is deep throating her, SHE IS NOT BREATHING. There are men in jail doing time for killing women through this act!!!
* Anal sex with a woman comes from his need to learn, and discover himself and his own sex first. Men who miss this discovery from their childhood (Sexual Energy in Spiritual Life childhood sexual development), tend to use women like in playing “Doctor”. It is okay for her to choose that he NOT learn his avenue of “hard-knocks or hard lessons” through her. By this, it is perfectly okay for her to leave him if he is not being gentle and kind; those actions that build trust.
* Sex is all about trust, and if he goes where she says “no”, then that deep miss-trust can be challenging to heal. And he creates sexual karma for himself. If he is having anal sex with her and she is in tears, that is rape. And that creates a ton of karma for him: can a karmic relationship work?
* If the moan she makes is out of pain and not of pleasure, because you’re choosing not to pay attention, you will have a woman who resents you. And as a spiritual person your abundance will dwindle to a trickle. Once we cross that line into spiritual awareness, we have to honor that operating system, or chance losing what we have.
* If he is pressuring her into sex before she is ready, that is a sign that he is only there for himself. If you really want it, and they are simply not ready. Then go find someone who is ready.
* For someone to have sex with their siblings or with their parents, “that” person who sees this act as okay is emotionally broken, and something that cannot be fixed within this current lifetime. There is a god shield in each of us that keeps us away from this act with our immediate family. For a father to have sex with his stepdaughter crosses the line into cheating and terrible boundaries, and that person should never be allowed to be around children again.
When a parent punishes their child by having sex with them, that crosses the line into a sex-crime. Sex-crimes in terms of karma is more intense than just murder, because it is SO personal.
* If you want to leave an abusive relationship, first notify someone you trust, or document it on your Facebook page. Documentation will explain the steps taken. God forbid, if anything were to happen to you, there needs to be a trail to follow. Names, places and dates.
* For women to do the action in sex is very unnatural for them. The masculine is about action, because he is the motor. The feminine is about receiving, because she is the vehicle and fuel for his motor of action. When he always wants her to do the action, then to him she has become less a person and more an object of sex. For him to lose his motor, his vital energy of action (that “can do” energy women find SO sexy in men), or a limp dick comes from a mental block; insecurities around performance, and all he has to do is get out of his own way. A way of turning off the mind is to give it something else to think about. Like putting the left shoe on the right foot, then have sex.
* If he is having difficulty in getting a woody, he is too much in his mind. He has to get out of his own way. His attention on his egoic performance is highly acute. Let go, get lost in their sexy details.
* The skin of men is 3 times thicker than that of a women’s. So touch for her is that much more sensitive. If he is a 10 for himself, then she needs a 4 or less from him… In pressure of touch.
* There are a lot of women out there who will go through great pain, and even become very sick just to please their man: Going from anus to vagina can make her very sick. The bacteria in the anus does NOT belong in the vagina.
* Soap should not be used as a lubricant. Only use products that are designed for it, or something natural like honey.
* If she is not wet, she is in pain. If she is not wet he can tear his skin as well as hers, so it pays to keep her wet. This is also a situation that will tear a condom. When she is in physical pain, and if he’s not plugged into those needs, miss-trust is created, and the relationship begins to unravel. And a way back is a practice of: “what can I do with them today that is positively different from yesterday”, everyday. Communication; keep talking: “are you okay, does this feel good”? Have the courage for transparency.
* If you’re having sex, and your partner needs to play with her clitoris to climax, then he’s not doing enough. He helps her to climax, and she helps him to climax. Does she have a clitoral orgasm or a vaginal orgasm? Learn this, know this, act on this, and each woman is different. And yes, there is such a thing as too much stimulation. Too much can often make her angry.
* Blowing her up like a balloon will be very, extremely painful, and may cause death. A little air during intercourse is okay, a lot is not.
* If an open bottle is used as a dildo, the in and out action creates a vacuum inside the bottle, and will suck her insides into the bottle, and can be a very painful death.
* Only an overly testosterone fueled fragile ego is concerned about size. Nothing like sitting on the toilet and having your ding-dong dangling in the water. Porn is all about ego. What you must do to receive love. Porn creates an environment where women feel they can’t be satisfied without a big dick, and where guys can’t perform well without a tight pussy. All this has absolutely nothing to do with love, of course as you mature, you will discover all this has been a total wast of time, and at the end of your life those “big dick pills” are going to kick your ass with a side-effect you didn’t see coming.
* Her need to have a bigger and bigger dick desensitizes her, so latter in life she comes across an amazing guy, then discovers his average dick doesn’t turn her on.
* If he is 14 inches you can bet she is not, and it is very painful when he pushes her beyond that point. Not all women are the same depth, as not all men are the same length. Most women need verbal emotional praise/reassurance to become turned on, and when she becomes turned-on she dilates, and can better accommodate his size. If you experience pain nearly every time during sex, then it’s Not love! “Love is where he is paying attention”, and where her pace becomes his pace. A union built upon trust.
* She should always be allowed to be in control of how deep he goes, most men go deep right-away without having the sensitivity of how she lubricates. It takes about 3 to 5 slow strokes to get her wet from one end to the other.
* If she doesn’t quite like the position he is in, she can move her hips forward or back to change the angle of his thrust, and if he doesn’t allow you to do so then he is clearly not the one for you. The “right” man is going to move with you.
* If you got her pregnant because you felt you couldn’t pull out, “that is incredibly selfish”, because his need for his own gratification was grater than his need to protect her well-being. Men can always pull out on time, or be responsible to wear a condom.
* Myth: The more you blow your load, the weaker you become – faults. Course a sex marathon will wear anyone out. You instinctively know when you’ve been having too much sex, because the idea of it feels forced, and it begins to loose it’s luster.
* Phone sex: does not create a sexual bond, it does and can often create an emotional bond. Phone sex is all fantasy, the voice on the other end is real, the personality that they are portraying is not. It is created just for your fantasy. Sorry, there is no sexual energy exchange during phone sex.
* Women don’t date, women have relationships because they are emotional beings. So for a woman to have casual sex with someone they don’t know, don’t trust, and clearly aren’t in-love with… May find themselves in a twisted heap of an emotional mess. Know your emotional boundaries and honor them, and you will have a better sense of how to navigate your happiness.
* For a woman’s first sexual encounter: the man starts slow; kissing, touching, and tasting. Verbal communication: “you are beautifully perfect”, touch or kiss those places that she may feel are imperfect. Move slowly, as in letting her know what your next move is, and be okay with her saying “no, not yet”. When entering her for the very first time, he goes in and out 3 times, each time a little deeper, and only as deep as she allows. On his last thrust, he goes deep and stops, and holds it there for a few moments while kissing her face. Then he pulls all the way out, and stays out for at least three weeks to a month, for her to heal. The quality of her first encounter is going to profoundly effect her following relationships, until she learns how to navigate those emotions. You do have a choice in who you have sex with, choose wisely.
* A woman who is sexually yielding is ready to be taken. And there is a huge difference between yielding and flirting. Yielding comes from a trust in that person, where flirting can happen anywhere, and with anyone. There is very little trust in porn, so therefor there’s almost no yielding. Yielding promotes love, trust, and emotional bonding.
* Does porn lower your vibration? Yes. It transforms an awareness of the beautiful personality that you are, into the sexual object of instant gratification, as well as all the dramatized judgement around that. It’s very ugly, NOT a good thing.
* What does porn do to spiritual energy? It transforms from a very high spiritual energy to a very dense low energy. Porn shreds spiritual awareness and has a strong tendency to bring out a sexual greed. As an intuitive relationship consultant: the addiction of porn and sexual greed is by far the darkest, and the most stubborn to transform. Porn is as dark as sacred sex is bright, two opposing sides of the same coin, and the extreme strength being equal in either direction. Choose wisely.
* If you’re someone who takes your spiritual development seriously, hard core porn and the act of loveless hands-off sex will hold you back from becoming an Ascended Master; the realm of Jesus, Buddha, Mother Mary, Master Saint Germain and many others. Cocaine and other hard drugs will pull your spiritual path backwards, and this includes handling it or even handling the used wrappings of it.
* What is the difference between porn and lovemaking? Porn is just hands free-loveless sex, where men rip through the line of trust by taking without asking. Where it’s all about instant gratification for him, and fast. “Get it in, get it done, and get out”. Lovemaking is face to face, full body and eye contact, gentle sensitive touching and tasting, reflecting upon beauty with verbal communication, connected to the needs of each other, and slow. Everything to do with heart-felt emotional connections, and a very empowering experience. Complete night and day difference. It’s completely different when it’s happening with you, instead of just to you. Sex is not the end of the act, it continues with touching, cuddling, and falling asleep entwined in each other.
Lovemaking is a life-statement to your partner, it’s a quality of how we relate to them which goes beyond the bedroom. It’s a commitment in ways that will extend the Velcro experience throughout your life. Being in Tune with Your Partner.
Romance is all chemistry and lust, very loud and un-grounding; we tend to do stupid things, we tend to act without thinking, and we are everything and not ourselves.
Real love is not invisible, however it is quiet and very gentle. It has everything to do with the true personality that you are; good healthy boundaries, yet no walls; no hidden places, simply because trust is SO potent. Lovemaking is about giving, and porn is about taking.
* She looks to you to provide physical protection and the action of emotional support. “Are you warm, does anything hurt, are you still hungry”? Or “you are going to be okay, you are going to make it through this because I am here to walk with you”. He protects and provides.
She provides emotional nurturing because she is an information gatherer, and by this she is the book of his physical and emotional needs. She knows what your needs are before you do (if he thinks he is hiding something from her, it’s not a matter of if, it’s a when, if she doesn’t already know). When these qualities are not provided there is a trade.
* Trades are a very subconscious act, until you become very conscious of your own behavioral attitudes; why you do what you do. Trading sex for protection, or sex for financial support, or trading spiritual healing and emotional clarity for emotional nurturing, or… There are countless ways in which trades function. Know who you are, and more importantly know your emotional behaviors. Life is fluid, embrace the winds of change, and life will move with grace and ease. If you want a deep meaningful relationship, porn is NOT your avenue.
If you are self-aware, and understand the action of self-emotional-care, then the need for trades will move out of your field of awareness.
* “I am absolutely amazed at how many men really know nothing about what women need from sex, or from relationships for that matter”. This vital information needs to be shared/taught to kids between 0 and 13. Shared through verbal communication and a demonstration by responsible parents. Children are full of questions, and responsible parents give clear and unemotional answers.
* Men/boys that are unaware and “asleep” tend to take ques from what they see others doing, like on porn sites, and not by how they feel, or even in reflection by how she feels. A man who hasn’t discovered his self-awareness can tend to be incredibly violent when it comes to the sensitivities of sexuality. In the past millennium, women have absorbed so much pain from men through sex. Each man has the opportunity and obligation to change that, one relationship at a time. Or come back in your next life as a woman, to have that receiving experience over and over again, and learn the value of compassion through physical experience. If you are having an experience that can not be avoided, then it is a karmic experience. Karma describes a situation in which you have done something in the past (past life, and not a good thing), that is provoking this experience in the present.
Pearls of Wisdom, and Boundaries and Personal Power, then Egoless Relationship or Karmic Relationship?
* A parent that tells their child at age 5 through 18 That they aren’t allowed to have a boy / girlfriend, is a parent not reading the signs, or willing to answer the child’s questions about intimacy or sex. To which that child’s only option is to learn it from friends and or porn.
What is it that we want to pass on to our children? How do we want to be remembered by them? “What can I do with my child that is positively different than how my parents where with me”?
It’s so sad to see a whole generation of parents so uptight about their own sexuality, that they’re incapable of answering questions without attaching their own personal emotional experience to it. Hence, passing on their pain. Instead, teach positive self-worth to a child, giving them a lifetime of making the right choices.
* In choosing a partner, one person will look at someone and see wonderful physical attributes for fun and games. And another person will see the potential merging of two amazing and powerful personalities. Sex is a bonding agent, a merging of not only two hearts, it also mixes emotions and mixes the personality essence you are… his and hers [you are what you eat]. If you’re in a good emotional place in your personal development, look for someone who is also conscious in theirs, and the relationship will move on silk.
If he’s had a bad day and is now a bit grumpy, you may want to hold back on the sex until he’s processed back into being happy. Otherwise he’ll just be dumping into you, and it’s not yours to process. And yes, this goes both ways.
So remember this: when you merge your body into theirs in the act of sex, you’re doing much more than inserting item A into Slot B. You’re taking in that person’s energy [the quality essence of who they are in that period of their life] and their state of being [their current emotional status]. “Accept into your body only someone you would want to become“, because there’s nothing so influential as a person’s energy as transmitted through sexual intercourse, for the quality of life your choosing to lead.
Sex is a wonderful form of release, and a way for the body to reset it’s sense of well being. For people who are in professions of heavy stress, sex is a great nurturing release. These people have sex buddies, and when they want to shift and call it a relationship that shift will require a lot of focus and attention to turn it into a relationship. Relationships that start from raw sex rarely survive this shift, simply because the element of friendship carries so much of the understanding and clarity of what nurtures the relationship. Skipping that lesson and growth removes that “staying power”.
Sexual energy… Lust, drive just for climax is egotistic sex, the ONLY spiritual part is that fleeting moment of the orgasm. Everything about sex is all about physical chemistry and egoistic thinking, and there’s nothing wrong with that. It’s the flip-side to sacred sex, which is what happens when we bring spirituality into sex. It’s a higher quality of relating where there’s no more anticipation of what-if’s or resentments, and the freedom of knowing it’s okay to act from the authentic self. There’s a very distinctive difference, the first has animal energy, and the second has engaging thoughtful connection. Polar opposites of each other, and two sides of the same coin. The first is quick and just in there for the rush and release of the climax. While the second may take hours and is not attached to climax… is only attached to the hearts depth of connection.
The difference between sexual energy and sacred sex is by practicing ego-less relationships which in turn brings forth sexual empowerment, and that has a very distinctive difference once you’ve experienced it. One has you acting from your ego-self, while the other has you acting from your god-self. Your god-self is that part of ourselves that is protecting and governing our well being; that part that tells us how wonderful and important we are. Our god-self doesn’t come from over thinking because it doesn’t come from our mind, it comes from our heart center, and that wisdom that comes forth comes from stillness. The moment when the body is not thinking and all is quiet.
Sexual energy comes from chemistry, that “turned on” feeling we get, that’s chemistry, and that need for the climax release is chemistry. Chemistry is loud so it can get your attention for procreation. Real love comes from clarity of thought or a quiet spirit, and with far less ego in it. Sacred sex springs from that stillness, and from there comes the power of being vulnerable… comfortable with being emotionally transparent creates incredible connection from trust.
* Whats the difference between a spiritual connection and a sexual one? A spiritual connection has you connected to your ethical-self; your higher-self; that part of yourself that governs your good-will. So during sex, sex becomes a co-created loving experience.
The loving relationship with all it’s healthy intimacy, and heart felt connections create emotionally safe sex. This ingredient builds trust and lasting connections. That’s what makes porn so destructive, because it goes so completely the other way. Knowing the contrast between the two, helps to steer us in the desired direction. Emotionally safe sex creates a nurturing and happy home, and needs to be the guiding force in our relationships. When our home life is happy we are happy, and then we are more productive in life; less stress, and more deep meaningful connections with everyone.
[(This gratitude we express to people through these meaningful connections, is the same gratitude we find with the Loving God. Very different from the god we find when we are afraid. Think about this when you’re working with the laws of attraction.)]
When men and women, boys and girls get turned on, how they each experience being horny is very different. What they each need from the sex act is very different. Women need emotional connection, they need to see and feel that he is invested in her emotional well-being. As in asking “does this feel okay”, and making the right changes if it doesn’t. They need this all the way through their lives! In the act of marriage when he says “I do”, he is then agreeing to being that wonderful person she met continuously throughout her life, as she knows she will for him.
Women take much longer to become sexually “ready” than men do. A man just has to get a “woody” and he’s ready. It takes invested interest in her physical sexy details to help her to become ready. In other words “slow down”!
What gives most women sexual pleasure, is when she feels he is emotionally tuned-in with her experience during sex. This is a way to merge your rhythms with each other. You are listening to her motor, to be sure it’s running right. And she finds this incredibly nurturing, and feels emotionally complete. Verbal communication, gentle, trusting… Learn what their love language is, (bottom of the page Relationships)
How a woman recognizes a good man is marked by what she needs/values the most. Women speak the “emotional language”, and when she comes across a man who also speaks it as good or better, she takes notice. Women love men that have that “can do” energy, whether it be intellectual, emotional or physical.
Women are also very aware of men who don’t perform what they promise, and women are also keenly aware of men who don’t make plans and promises for their union. Women are information gathers, “that” is their instinctual behavior. So if you think you can get something by her, think again. They see all, know all (generally speaking). Remember when mom would yell from upstairs, “get your hands out of that cookie jar”! How did she know?
My blessings to you all.
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Notes: the creative side of spiritual sexuality.
* Spiritual, where do women hold all their energy? It has to do with awareness, belief and focus of where you are. If you’re a mental person, all up in your head, very analytical, then you have a disconnect with the rest of your body. As in “I don’t know what’s wrong with this body, I don’t know why it doesn’t behave itself?”
If you’re a heart centered person, your awareness comes from your chest, and therefor your relationship with the environment is all inclusive. If your highly sexual, the higher awareness of the heart center keeps lines of communication open regardless of condition. So we move with our partner instead of acting out self-gratification, which comes from the lower self and all those tribal issues.
All women don’t hold all their energy in one place, like not all men are acting from one place in their body. It’s a person by person case. Ultimately one wants to have awareness for the entire body; an open awareness for all the chakras, and not just the heart center.
* Friends-with-benefits has that easy-come easy-go expression about it. Where spiritual love simply “is”. Friends-with-benefits was again created by people who are terrified of intimacy and commitment. It was also created by people who have very low self-esteem; who feel this is the ONLY love and affection they will ever get. Feeling stuck in this situation also comes from karma, can a karmic relationship work?
* The orgasm is non-descriptive, in the same sense that God is non-descriptive, however the best way to describe the experience of the orgasm is like “liquid light”, as in the “Light of The Divine God”. The orgasm is a reminder that we are much greater than just our physical self. And the other person is NOT doing this to you, you are allowing yourself to open up to it. The other person is a reminder of what you’re capable of.
* When we tend to have more fascination in their personality then in their physical form, the relationship has more depth, and more presence…
* The difference between sexual energy and spiritual energy, is sexual energy comes from chemistry, that sexual super charged magnetism is chemistry, and has that “gotta-have” energy behind it. Spiritual energy comes from stillness and when it’s mixed with self awareness, it becomes sacred sex. Because of the stillness influence, the sacred sexual expression has more presence [ you want to know what presence is, look into the eyes of a one year old.], as in you’re in tune with your partner’s experience, and you’re matching her rhythms. Which opens doors of intimate communications, and creates more lasting bonds. Sacred sex begins when you can begin to see the other person beyond the physical flesh, and into the magical gift that they naturally are. When you’re in there and focused on your experience and therefore focused only on your climax, then that becomes a one-way street. Sacred sex is all about being in-tune with each others rhythms, because it’s a shared experience.
* When we’re having a spiritual practice it doesn’t mean our sex drive is less, or that the love we express is diminished in some way. It just means that our sexual experience and our quality of relating to people is filtered through our God connection, and not through our emotionally wounded places. This helps us to learn how to step out of the victim role.
* The physical need does not fade away with the spiritual advancement. “You still get up in the morning and brush your teeth”, the body will always have physical needs. What changes is the quality of approach to each other. When we ask our Spiritual guardian angels what it is that we are meant to come into alignment with for the day, or moment by moment. Then our connections with people become more rich; more present, because there’s Divine purpose involved in our daily activities. We find deeper reasons to support each other in our personal pursuits. And therefore our sexual encounters also become more creative. More on Intimacy, the life blood.
* Food? A little Nutella smeared in a sensitive place, then licked off… yummy.
* Spiritual love relationship is quiet devotion. It’s something like sex with a best friend in which it happens to work. You both find it easy to be responsible with your emotional needs, as well as the responsibility with one’s own dysfunctional ego.
Spiritual love is open and free, we step into the relationship because the intuition lights up in an unusual and profound way. Not at all like that hot and steamy attraction felt in high school. It’s that nudge from that quiet inner voice, and when we’ve learned what it is that we came to understand, we thank them for the adventure and move on to the next. There’s not all that drama in the separation of parting ways, because spiritual love doesn’t really experience separation. Parting ways is a gratitude for the experience, lessons and adventure of time well spent. Your Ex is someone you remain friends with, because we continue to see the value beyond what doesn’t work. Eyes wide open.
* Sexual energy for most feels like a powerful spiritual experience, however, what separates sexual from spiritual is attachment [attachments are “conditions of love”]. When we have such a strong need to connect to our lover, so we feel all these powerful feelings because of this other person… this is attachment and this is chemistry. There is nothing wrong with this. However, if you’re seeking a spiritual experience through sex it helps to let go of attachment, and practice an ego-less relationship. Ego-less relationship is a love expression in its higher forms. Spiritual love is loving someone in a way that is without judgement and without expectation; without conditions of love. It’s the lost art of acting from your ethical-self. Disconnect from self-gratification, and connect to a higher expression of your inner potential. Understand? Now “stay there”.
* When we transform sexual energy into spiritual energy we do one of two things: 1) We sit quietly and remove ego by elevating our awareness into the higher self or higher awareness. 2) Slow down, let go of your needs and focus on your partner. What can you do to enhance their experience, as they will with you. This exercise has a far more positive outcome if both participate.
* Sacred sex from a spiritual perspective is a personal journey, anything spiritual is personal. When your off by yourself and you’re reflecting on this powerful energy that sacred sexuality stirs, remember that each understanding is a stepping stone leading to something greater, until you arrive at that place of stillness. Stillness is a place where there are no conditions, no judgements, far less ego, or you’re not pushed or pulled in any direction. It becomes a sacred presence. This journey moves in cycles… understandings, empowerment’s, enlightenment’s.
* Almost EVERYONE wants to know what is it that will give them great sexual power. [Read post “Power and Being Powerful“] The things to remember are: “No one has an effect over you”, has power over you, can make you feel, can take away from you, is the reason you feel, simply because of Free Will. You can’t change another person, although you can change yourself, and the only way another person can change you, is if on some level you allow it… this is Free Will, and a God gift to us all.
* There’s absolutely no difference between men and women in terms of amount of spiritual energy / spiritual awareness. It is however, a personal victory to how much spiritual connection you can bring into the room.
* Young people up to the age of 26 to 28 respond through emotion. Anything that doesn’t work out has a strong emotional response. A new relationship interest and the emotions are very intense. It isn’t until the late 20’s and early 30’s do we learn how to navigate these emotions, and some mature faster through this. So when the emotions are high, it’s difficult to know the difference between sexual and spiritual, and that is okay. There’s a time and a place for everything. It’s when we learn how to navigate the emotions, and be less reactive and more active in our dealings with the world. This quiets the emotions which quiets the mind, and clears the ability to sense the needs of our partner [or the world at large].
* Did you know that women are really horny only 30 hours a month, it has to do with the timing of her ovulation, and in her mid to late 40’s this lets up dramatically. So when your girlfriend/wife comes on to you sexually, take her seriously, because that moment will pass.
Men are on nearly all the time. This is how amazingly different we are.
Men are like fire; they burst into flames, burn up quickly and are out.
Women are like water: they take a while to come to a boil, and once they do, they can stay hot for quite-a-while [generally speaking].
* When a woman has a hysterectomy, a lot of what is taken out are glands for hormones that promote sex drive, and 7 out of 10 women will lose their sex drive because of this. If you love sex, please look for other alternatives than a complete hysterectomy.
* Gay men are learning how to navigate and process sensitivities/emotions.
Gay women are learning how to navigate and process power/emotions.
For couples of gay women the orgasmic energy patterns move differently, they move within the individual as a single circle. However, because they’re bodies are physically close together, the energy exchange is still experienced. During orgasm the Auric field expands 6 to 8 feet, and anyone within that field may experience the bonding. A wall is not a barrier, spiritual energy does not recognize those limitations. Still, intercourse is the best form of energy exchange. Although the emotional bonding is by far the strongest, and longest lasting connection we can have with another person.
* Q: How do I feel spiritual as a gay? You do like everyone else. Spiritual is a personal relationship with God/Spiritual Guardians, religion is an institution that relates to the masses. Nothing Jesus ever said was about separation, as in “us and them”. So if you hear words or statements of separation, then slowly step away, and give them space for their own experience. For they are speaking from separation. So if you step into the arena with them, in trying to teach them as in you being “right”, you too will fall into imbalance. Your relationship with God is yours and only yours, as it is very unique and beautiful.
* Bonding: masturbating with someone and coming to climax behaves the same way, if they’re physically close to you during orgasm, they will experience the bonding. Still, not quite as intense as sex.
* There is no difference between chemistry and just being horny, it’s all chemistry. The body instinctively knows when it’s time to reset “the bodies emotional well-being”, and this is done through the orgasm.
* Without masturbation, the fibers of the bodies sense of well-being begin to pull apart. The orgasm is a release of tension, and stress. Those who said that it’s immoral to touch one’s self in such a way, had the intention of describing where the mind goes to create such a release. So in your fantasy, have love tickle all corners of the experience.
* For some the sexual experience energizes them, and for others the experience calms them enough to just fall asleep. All a part of knowing who you are. If sex energizes you, have sex in the morning, and what a wonderful way to start the day. And if it puts you to sleep, do it before bed.
* Emotional bonding is by far the strongest connection we can have with others, far beyond what sex can create. Because it can last SO much longer, and telepathy can be very intense with those kind of connections.
* Becoming emotionally balanced starts as children. The actions of our parents are demonstrations to us of how things work in the world, and they set the stage for healthy mental and emotional patterns for us as adults.
The kiss is a reflection of sexuality, father to son and mother to daughter. For us to have a healthy and mature sex-life in
*** For more on challenging relationships, go to Karmic Relationship?
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Questions & Answers
* Sex DOSE NOT hurt your spiritual energy, as long as you do it in the environment of Love.
* Psychic sexual encounters… Is an indication of the strength of your telepathy; you are able to tune into the strongest thought forms being directed at you. The way to transcend this experience is to “ask Arch Angel Michael to surround and protect you from this invasion”. Surround yourself with good people and happy times; be proactive in a life that creates and expresses the opposite of that “bad dream”.
* Spiritually speaking why do I have to be drunk to have sex with my boyfriend? This has to do with your belief systems; a belief system is a habit of thought. Think of belief systems as clothing handed down from your parents, to change that style, and make them your own you have to be the one to make that change. No one can cross that threshold for you. Drinking or drugs is about hiding from your true-self; authentic-self. And that can be quite a challenge to take on especially when those close to you are also doing it. This is a question about your inner integrity. Are you ready to face your true-self? Facing this part of you is accepting your authentic, beautiful, and unique self, because it’s very different from everyone else. This maturity will separate you from those who aren’t good for you, and instead it draws in the right people who are interested in your uniqueness.
* An orgasm will NOT balance your chakras.
* Do spiritual people love sex? Of course! We are in a physical body on a physical world, and sex is the highest physical expression with a strong personal lesson to learn. The lesson of ascension while in the physical expression; the continuous navigation of those emotions.
* Does use of condom lower sexual energy in men? Men will say just about anything so they don’t have to be responsible in wearing a condom. If it’s important for her that he wear one, and he says “no”. Then he’s made it clear to you that he is not the one for you. A good man in love will make sure your needs are met.
* Why would your moods effect someone’s spiritually? The reason the bonding takes place is to open the door to the understanding of choice. Without this experience you would not wake up to the realization of the potential of who you truly are, or what you’re capable of creating.
* How to tell if you & your guy’s energies are aligned? When the love you both have becomes so entwined with trust, that you can’t tell them apart. When loving actions become louder than words. When the act of devotion becomes a spiritual quest / a life path. So much more than something you just share. An alignment that goes beyond the bedroom. The sacred masculine is all about Action, providing, lifting… “He creates the canvas for her expressions”.
I watched a couple walk across a parking lot. She is carrying a child in one arm, the groceries in the other, and he is staring at his cellphone. If there is this lack of participation in the relationship, then you need to think carefully as to why you’re in it.
* Why do men leave after having sex (spiritual)? All these men are here to help you to grow into yourself, because all resentment is a Red Flag signaling to you in all the ways that you have crossed your own boundaries. So if you have resentment in him having sex with you, and never calling back. That is you not taking responsibility in speaking your needs in the very beginning, and sticking to those principals until you strongly feel he is ready for that level of commitment. In other words, don’t have sex on the first, second, third date, or… Until you feel confident that he is going to support you in the ways you need. “The right man will wait for you and support your needs, the wrong man will push your emotional buttons or leave you”. Sex is ALL about trust, and if you don’t feel trust in yourself about him, you WILL experience resentment later. More on the page Relationships.
* Can someone on earth stop a spirit from crossing over because of so much love for them? No. when we leave our bodies we separate from ego, and enter the world of spirit. There is a slight hesitation in the very beginning, however separating from ego means we completely detach from conditions, because conditions are based in egoic expressions. They will always love us, and be supportive of our evolutionary growth, this does not change. However, we as spiritual beings become more interested in our own path, and what’s next.
* Does sexual desire lessen after spiritual awakening? No, not at all. What does change is that we become easily more selective in who we choose to sleep with, and the “why” comes from your own inner knowing of yourself, and less of ego’s chemistry because we have more self-loyalty and therefor more self-control.
* Is sex a spiritual act? No, only the fleeting moment of orgasm is. Sex is powered by the ego-self, spiritual experiences are powered by the god-self. However, when we choose to follow the ego-less love-relationship, we can accelerate the quality of the orgasm and the overall experience. The orgasm is a reminder of what it’s like to be in the presence of God. And when we start having loveless, and hand-free sex, we are withholding from the development of the spiritual self.
* Does sex drive reduce ascension? Well, is the act one of love expressed from both you and him? Is sex your idea or theirs, and if you’re not in the mood be okay with not giving it. Is the quality time you give to others the same that you give to yourself? It helps when God comes first, and that is an action, and not just a concept.
God has absolutely nothing to do with sex in any context, simply because sex is all about the physical. Jesus talked briefly about sex as a reference to the sacred self. The message of Jesus is all about the sacred self, who we really are and how to ascend no matter what stage of life you’re in. He was all about freeing the mind of suffering, by demonstrating what a guiltless mind creates. It is the church that wants control over the people, and therefor has changed the wording, and created concepts like “sin”. Jesus didn’t talk about sin, because in his language there was no such thing. The closest concept was a person missing the mark, “oh I’m doing it again”, correcting the pattern and returning to balance. This fire and brimstone is the church steeling the power and replacing it with fear as a means of control.
Sex is a beautiful thing regardless of who you’re with, as long as love is the core focused expression. The Christ energy is the expression of love. To have Christ energy is to have obedience to your own higher-self as an expression of love.
* Do spirits have sex with each other? No. The way in which they express love for each other is far more intense. Because sex is ego-driven and a reaction from the chemistry of the physical body, sex is not the form of heart felt expressions in other realms. Sex is unique to Earth and the physical realm.
* When you have sex with someone do souls connect? No. Because sex is ego-driven, it’s of a very low vibration, and your soul is of a such high vibration that it doesn’t respond to those limiting concepts. The human idea of what “soul” is so incredibly small. What does connect during sex is the shine of your spirit, a space that can be shared like self-awareness. So, because of the sexual bonding, within my self-awareness I see/feel/acknowledge you in my (field) sense of self. The sun shares its radiance and not itself, in the same sense that I share my radiance, my sense of self.
* Can someone direct psychic sexual energy at you? No. When someone mentions psychic sexual energy, what they’re really talking about is having sex in the Astral Plain [the place of our night-time dreams] while having an out-of-body experience [OBE]. Which by the way has absolutely nothing to do with the psychic self. OBE is a one-sided experience; the receiver of your experience knows nothing of the encounter. Dangerous things happen when we mix dreams with reality.
Someone can look at you with sexual hunger with their mental energy, and you can feel and pick that up. And for most people this reaction is a response from the subconscious mind. Becoming conscious of this requires a person to open their extra sensory perceptions through the higher-self / higher awareness. And the irony of this higher awareness, is that when we arrive we see the dysfunction of psychic sexual energy, the ugliness of it, and therefor completely shift away from it and instead shift into sacred sex. Higher awareness doesn’t allow us to continue to participate in lower concepts. Once you shift up, you’re not going back.
* Does orgasm distance you from God? No, quite the opposite. For that brief moment we step into the radiance of God. It’s the quality of how we relate to the other person that makes the difference. How ethical is your approach? How gentle can you be with both you and them?
Navigating a relationship as a spiritual person simply gives you an extra tool in your toolbox, and that is the lesson of coming back to the emotional clarity of stillness before we act.
* What spiritual gains do you get from sex? If you have some understanding of the chakra system, then the sexual drive will show up in different centers according to your mood. This helps a person to learn to activate different centers as needed, according to the life situation presented. The sensation of being in love can help a person connect more readily with other cosmic forces, such as Masters of Planetary Balance, or other Nature Spirits. Until a person can activate their own inner sense of love, sex is a motivator for the sensation of love. Sexual love and romance is a platform for discovering yourself, first we learn in what ways can romance motivate us, how can we harness and channel that energy? Through art; the craftsmanship of your occupation. Through personal growth, transformation and inner success. Or devotion to God [or whatever that language is for you]. A nurturing and loving relationship opens the heart in such a way that we can begin to experience a love for everyone. This flow; this high connects us to (God), and from there we begin to sense our own self worth as co-creators of our universe. At some point the sexual experience will not take you any higher, where meditation on god-awareness will continue that journey beyond those sexual boarders.
* Can a guy love you on a spiritual level and not on a physical level? Yes. Physical love is very superficial, “here today, gone tomorrow”. Spiritual love is far deeper, and more consistent. Spiritual love has little to no conditions to it’s expression. Where as with physical love it’s loaded with conditions.
* She gives me physical pleasure but no spiritual connection. She doesn’t “give” it to you, you open up to it within yourself. You feel and experience it because you’ve done the work to heighten your sensitivities to be able to sense those higher frequencies. She is one of the faces of god, and through that devotion we find that through those intense experiences we can connect to the God-energy. If you don’t understand this concept, then let this one go.
* Why do i feel like sex is sacred with my boyfriend? Simply because you’re in the perfect alignment for this experience, and if his perceptions of you are the same, then “god bless you”, you are part of the 38% who are getting it right. And it’s okay if this experience doesn’t last forever, because it will carry you up the mountain to the next level; showing you something greater about yourself.
On a deeper level: because of this experience, if you feel like your boyfriend is the only one in your life that is sacred. Then your experience of him is karmic. Please read Can a Karmic Relationship Work?
* How to get over someone you have a spiritual connection to: Take your attention off of them and direct it toward your own welfare, follow what “inspires and energizes you” separate from them. Bless them, and move on. An egoic connection makes it challenging to walk away from. A spiritual connection doesn’t experience separation, so leaving them is just like walking into the other room. Because no bridges were burned, it’s like thanking your best friend for an amazing summer, then going off to collage. You don’t actually cut the cord and say good-by, you do however get on with your life.
* How can i find a spiritual sex partner? In looking for a spiritual sexual partner, look to connect to someone who is spiritual. The order in which we look for a mate is sex, money, family, and the last to come along is spiritual, when it should be the first. “Do you speak my spiritual language”? If they don’t than simply move on to the next. If you want this kind of quality connection, be patient and give it time to come into alignment. There are many hundreds thousands of people to fill those shoes for you, it’s all in finding a way to connect to them. Use your discernment; as in the art of choosing. Let your intuition / gut feeling guide you. Be clear as to what your personal balanced needs are, and practice healthy boundaries.
* How do you feel about sex before marriage? There are sensitivities that a lot of men are unaware of when it comes to sexuality, it’s very clear that the woman needs to understand his motivation around sex, and the sex act itself will clear up any questions she may have. Sex is the one act where men can’t hide themselves from a good woman. So yes, I feel strongly that sex needs to be experienced before marriage.
* How do you connect to someone spiritually? You allow them to trigger your inner god-self, higher power and or good-will. And through the act of boundaries we nest with them in that space. A spiritual connection is where we allow the winds of heaven to dance between us; trust is the air you breathe, love is the space you express. Your spiritual experiences is yours and only yours. Your spiritual path and (his) is similar enough that your shared experiences are understood, and together you learn better ways of healing and growth.
* Is it sacred to have sex with more than one person? If your approach is sacred, then yes. And if you have “many relationships” going on all at once… if you can be honest to each one them about the others, and have them be okay with it all, then yes.
* Sharing men does it mix up your spirit? No. The essence that you are, and the essence that influences you are 2 very separate things. Nothing can touch your spirit without your permission, this includes God. This is what Free Will is capable of. Only you can change it. When sharing sexual partners, if you’re sensitive to subtle energy and or you live in a very quiet environment. You may be able to sense your friend, in your energy-field, just by sharing the same partner. This experience comes from you both having an orgasm with this person, and the second person feeling the first person. All within a week to week-and-a-half, after that the energy begins to fade. Sexual bonding only lasts for a couple weeks, emotional bonding lasts years. This is why the Masters tell us to only have sex with people we are in-love with.
* So am I spiritually connected to everyone my partner has ever had sex with? No, only at best everyone they have slept with within the last 3 months, and even that will fade away. A lasting bond happens by renewing that connection. A sexual bond is very potent, even though it may only last anywhere from 2 weeks to 3 months. The emotional bond on-the-other-hand will last years, and emotional bonds are not effected by other people. It’s always a connection, regardless of other peoples involvement.
* I have such strong sexual desires for someone who does not want me. Karmic Relationship?
* Does sex make telepathy stronger? Yes. Telepathy is apart of the extra sensory perception [ESP] triggered in our light-body through the act of sexual intercourse, and one of our countless functions of our multidimensional Spirit. Yes, telepathy becomes the strong ingredient in the sexual bond.
* Are there telepathic sexual experiences? No.
* Can you have power over someone through your thoughts? No, not at all. Fear can push us around, and give us the feeling that someone does. In truth and reality, no it’s not possible.
* What is spiritual significance of sexual energies?
* What do you look like through the eyes of Spirit, when engaged with your lover?
* What moves you in becoming whole within yourself, and how would that effect your relationship?
* What does it mean to you to be able to be your true authentic self with your lover?
* Connect to the core of the person you are, if applied how would this change your relationship? If applied how would this change your $job? The reason I ask this question is more-often-than-not we are one person at home, and a very different one at work. It’s when we have the freedom to merge the two, do we discover another level of personal power in outward application.
* How powerful is spiritual energy? The human concept of power is in having power over another person. Spiritual power is consciousness, or the ability to see than act beyond illusion. Spiritual energy is the action part of intuitive thought; there is the intuitive thought of something, then there is the action of the follow-through. Spiritual energy works outside the confines of the laws of men. It’s not something we can give away, have stolen, lose or trade-in, and there’s not a limited amount of it. It’s vast and can exist in mufti-dimensions. How powerful is spiritual energy? Well, how determined is the mind that belongs to it? And you will know where it can take you. Doing our spiritual work is learning to transform anger into joy, hate into love, and this raises the consciousness. This can also trigger your own inner god in action, and from there we start receiving His abundance and His loving protection and that is power.
* What are spiritual attachments to sexual intercourse? Attachments are “conditions” of something. Spiritual is the “clarity of thought” in which there is no attachments.
* Where does a spiritual orgasm come from? The orgasmic climax triggers and lights up our light-body; our spirit, and the merging of the light-bodies during orgasm opens our perception for telepathy. And opens you up to the spiritual cosmic connection, or what I like to call “God connection”. For that brief orgasmic moment, is what it feels like to be in the presence of God. And because God is not physical, we seek that same connect in people.
* Can someone else use your energy if you’re spiritually connected? Yes. There are a lot of people who unknowingly tap in and suck emotional and mental energy from others to fill their own tank. If you feel drained after being around such people, this is why. Spiritual energy [different from emotional and mental energy] is a constant, no one or no thing can take it away from you. Read my post Energy Shielding.
* Can men obtain power through having sex with a spiritual woman? No. No-one can take away your God-gift. Spiritual power is spiritual awareness. It’s your awareness of your god-self in action in your life, and more importantly it’s your ability to activate your god-self at will. This is your personal spiritual power. A man can’t take from you what you don’t give! And spiritual power is not something you can give away. Spiritual awareness comes from doing you inner work (changing a fear response into love).
* Can energy transfer to a woman by cheating? “Oh yes”, if you cheat on your (wife), she will pick up on it almost immediately, because someone else who is not her will be in your field (the quality about you). She may not put the pieces together right away, and it’s not “if”, it’s “when”. There’s no place in this solar system where you can hide from this truth!!! Our extra sensory perceptions have that reach.
* If I don’t have sex will I have spiritual power? No.
* Is being horny wrong spiritually? No. It’s all apart of the human experience. If you’re following a spiritual practice, you can learn to channel those sexual urges into something creative instead. Masturbation will always be a form of healthy release when following a strict spiritual practice. If you have no release, that need of expression will find an avenue of release, and it may not be a good thing. If we have a need to express something and we don’t give it a voice of some kind, it has a tendency to manifest in the body as stress, and prolonged stress in the body can turn into disease. Direct it in a positive fashion and the outcome will be gentle. Withhold and your dam may burst. Like water in motion, it will always find it’s way. The orgasm is life-affirming, and not something “we have to” get from someone else.
* How to get more spiritual energy. There are many methods, and they all require dedication to practice. Creating more spiritual energy comes from a consistent practice of acting with clarity of compassion with everyone and everything around you. This rising of consciousness enters a space where ego, anger, resentment all falls away, and you connect to bliss, love, gratitude, Spirit. Practice, practice, practice… amp up your energy, blow it up like a balloon, fill the room, fill the house. Meditation can be a form of prayer and can become a very powerful tool for connecting to clarity. Ask your Spiritual Guardians to come in close, ask them to help you raise your consciousness up into god-space. Tool Box.
When a challenge feels impassable, meditation can open one’s clarity of thought. How to get more spiritual energy? Focus on God or whatever your language is. Transform all your anger, hate and need to fight, into love. The more compassion and love you have for EVERYONE, where you see (God) in EVERYTHING and EVERYONE the more spiritual power you’ll gain. Only on earth do we see this as power. In any other realm we see this as “clarity of spiritual awareness”. Power is ego and clarity is love. Power with balance, is power over your own emotional faculties.
* Does sex makes you lose spiritual power? No. If there’s that crazy emotional drama in a relationship, or a third person as in a love triangle, and you’re trying to stay spiritually focused, it may become an issue of holding you back. You can not lose it, give it away or have it stolen. Your spiritual power/energy is a constant, like God is a constant, it’s the energy/vibrational frequency signature of who you are. And that my friend doesn’t change; that is your spiritual finger print.
* Does having sex without condom bring a closer spiritual connection, or effect an emotional connection? No, the spiritual or emotional bonding happens with or without a condom, when your spiritual energy/awareness reaches into those higher fields, it does not recognize those limitations.
* What does spiritual energy feel like? It’s an ego-less high where anger and hate don’t exist. It’s that “falling in love high”, although this love is not for anyone, it’s a hug by Spirit… wrapping you in the warmth of bliss [there are no words for something that has no contrary]. This bliss puts us into a space of clear perception, clarity of understanding, and an ability from love to see into one’s own shady places. Connecting us to spiritual wisdom and creating an avenue of appropriate course of action.
* What is spiritual sex like? It comes from spiritual love and it’s the experience of Oneness, however, because it’s spiritual the energies are subtle and very quiet. You become very aware of the energy movements within and between you both. Everything slows down and you become very present. Creates far less anticipation of feared what-if’s, your not driven by all that “gotta have or can’t live without”. Spiritual love once it’s activated stays lit. You may discover that the orgasmic energy can open psychic centers, and quietly give you the ability to perceive into places not seen before. This experience will be different for each person. Because it’s so quietly spiritual, we may see the changes as in “after-the-fact”.
* How do I know I’m having sacred sex? Do you feel empowered by the entire experience? Do you feel emotionally connected, nurtured and well cared for? Do you feel emotionally satisfied? Do you feel that your partner is connecting to you in the way that is fulfilling to you? Do you feel whole and complete by your experience? And does this experience go beyond the bedroom?
* What is the difference between someone who is spiritual and someone who channels? Spiritual is perception through connection and experience. Channeling is perception through information of spiritual wisdom. One is feeling the experience, and the other is explaining the experience. Healers Light.
* Can a spiritual medium pick up on my sexual thoughts about her? All spiritual mediums are different, and “yes”, honesty is very easy because it’s either on or off. We can’t tell just what those thoughts are, we can tell that you are having them, and if she asks advise her on an appropriate course of action.
* Spiritual sex, can it be one-sided? No, it always takes two. If you masturbate by yourself it can be one-sided, and by doing so you can keep your energies clear; nothing is piled up [backed-up], and nothing is stale.
* Spiritual bond stronger to first person you sleep with? It is because you have cracked the mold, as it is with any first time thing. First child, first car, first house, and yes first sexual encounter. When we identify with our ego-self, then that first encounter is the only big one. When we identify with our god-self, then each one is big and expansive; unique onto itself.
* Where do you feel energies between another person? When your mother walks into the room, how do you know it’s her, and where do you feel that connection? It’s the same thing, except NOT with your mother!
* Can you feel the person spiritually after having sex? Yes. However, the most of us live in the part of the world that can be very busy and very loud. To be able to tune-into those subtle shifts, one has to slow down, quiet the inner chatter in the mind, soften the spirit. Chemistry, that excitement and rush we feel when our eyes meet for the first time, or after that first kiss. That is chemistry, and chemistry is VERY loud. Anything spiritual is very quiet, and to get to that place in which we can tune-into that spiritual essence of them, we will have to wait until the chemistry has worn off. There is a time in all relationships in which it shifts from romance to partnership, and that is when chemistry fades and the intuition becomes louder. Where the vision of that person’s essence of who they are becomes clearer.
* Is there a spiritual connection during intercourse? Yes every time, with or without a condom doesn’t matter. God gave us a multidimensional light-body with countless functions, and we with our great knowledge have just scratched the surface. The spiritual side of intercourse is a reminder of connection and the reality of Oneness. Whether or not sex is beautiful or ugly, through the connection of it we find healing and balance. We seek trust and deep emotional connection, the same kind of connection we see with God. And because God is not physical, we seek that same connection in people. Through the relationship and connection with our Light-body and chakra system, we discover only true validation of deep connection and trust can come from God. So through that connection with God, we validate ourselves stronger than we validate our partner’s, which puts us in a space of living in empowerment of self value. And the birth of the ego-less relationship begins. Without ego we don’t need another person to complete us. And some things are more fun doing them with someone else.
* Is sexual energy spiritual? If you practice the ego-less relationship, or during the orgasm itself. Otherwise, before that when you are sitting across the room from each other and have sexual feelings, that is all chemistry. The feeling and expression of sexual chemistry is loud and wild, so it can get your attention. Spiritual energy is quiet and comes from stillness. To have an emotional connection and spiritual experience in a sexual encounter, it helps to quiet the loud and tame the wild.
* Can a kiss transfer spiritual connections? Not like you want them to. I’m sorry and no. If that where true we’d be scattered all over the place. A kiss maintains emotional bonds. Spiritual bonds are maintained through compassion, and spiritual connections have little to no conditions of love.
* Is there such a thing as feeling someone’s energy through a hug? Yes, however it helps to disconnect from the expectations of what you want that person to be. It takes a clear mind to open the intuitive doors to see what is.
* What do you call a strong sexual connection? Karma. Karmic Relationship?
* Does having sex with someone connect your energies? Yes every time. It’s your spiritual bodies or your light bodies merging… there’s no way around it. If you cheat on your wife and have sex with someone else, depending on her sensitivities, she will pick up on someone else being in your energy field.
* When you have sex and don’t connect with someone? It’s okay, all your intuitive sensitivities are telling you that “they’re not the right one for you”. This is about you, so own it. Bless them and let them go.
* Do people put out sexual energy? Yes, all the time. We pick up on it through our mental field; when you turn and look at someone who is already looking at you, “that” is you picking up on them through your mental field. To know that their attention is sexual, you can either see it in their eyes, or through the stillness of your intuition.
* How to create intense sexual chemistry? Do your inner emotional work; transform your fighting instincts into loving instincts. And become it so much that it becomes your life. Stay humble and watch the chemistry build. Connect to and build your self-confidence: she is looking for his confidence as a provider, he is looking for her confidence as an emotional nurturer.
* Can you send energy that you want sex? No. To send a clear message through telepathy to another person, you must enter the field of Source Energy or God Connection. And the only way sex and God happen in the same space is through the orgasm. If you send a message, the other person also has to be in the field of a strong intuition at that very moment you send it in order to receive it. And if they don’t know who you are, they’ll not have a point of reference to make that connection.
* What type of energy do you get from the one your sexually involved with? It’s the quality of their essence; if they move forward in life with ease and joy, so will you. And if they don’t, that essence will slow you down. “You are what you eat”. What is love to you? Is it where you will take the good with the bad? Or, is it the devoted path of moving forward?
* During sex is spiritual transfer one-sided or does it go both ways? Yes, if Bill is having sex with Lisa and Bill is the only one who comes to climax, they both have the experience… every time. Most people are completely unaware of this exchange of energy, it takes focus and attention to quiet the mind, quiet the spirit, and connect to that inner stillness well enough to feel that subtle energy mix.
* Is there spiritual bonding in anal sex? Yes.
* Can someone use sex energy to watch someone in the spirit? No. Everything you see on TV or in the movies is ALL about fantasy, there’s NO truth in it what-so-ever. It’s ALL about Hollywood selling movies.
* Can one person enter another person’s body through energy? No.
* How does sex connect two persons spiritually? At the moment of climax the orgasmic energy we feel brightens the Auric fields and lights up the chakras, and your light-body vibrates at a much higher frequency. If you could see the energy in light, the orgasmic experience and expression is very bright, and about the size of the average stadium. It’s a pulsating energy, or it can feel like ocean waves. Each person’s experience may be different from the next.
* Do animals spiritually connect when having sex? No, for 98% of animals it’s chemistry and all about instinctual. Animals like dolphins do it for emotional bonding. Animals are not here to grow through their experiences like us, so they don’t have a spiritual life. However on a spiritual level they have agreed to be here to teach us compassion. As the Earth has agreed to be the vessel of our learning. Animals don’t have soul, they do however have a direct line to Source Energy/God, and we don’t. We have mental/emotional walls, boundaries and Free Will, and animals do not. Often what we perceive as spiritual is the influence from the interactions with animals.
* Where does sexual energy come from? Sexual energy comes as a response from our primal reactionary brain, or it comes from instinct, and chemistry is instinct. We get the urge because our chemistry is asking for balance. As our light-bodies awaken, we begin to process more information through centers like the heart, instead of just the mind or just the chemistry. So we are moving into a time in which our focused need for sex will become more balanced between climax and connection. More balanced between masculine and feminine powers in play. However to answer your question directly, sexual energy comes from chemistry. Orgasm is a spiritual energy flowing through the body and lighting up your chakras as it goes. We can choose to ignore it, or feel the rush and excitement of being influenced by it.
* Why does a guy run out of energy during sex? Because he is the motor; he is the one doing the action, and the orgasm calms the emotions, sometimes enough to put them to sleep.
* Is sexual energy a strong force? Not compared to spiritual energy, no. It’s like comparing the flea to the elephant. Sexual energy is like a flash, where spiritual energy once you connect to it… it stays on forever. Sexual chemistry is a very strong force. However the human spirit is stronger, and can overcome those urges. And if you give-in, it’s simply because you’re “wanting to connect” was bigger than “the need to keep it to yourself”. Old spiritual teachings tell us that physical urges are a sign of weakness, and that spiritual awareness is strength. This is no longer truth. Positive balance between the two is strength. The old way is valuable because it teaches connection through practice, loyalty through obedience. However, what triggers complete devotion is self-awareness, self-love and self-loyalty, and sex is also a huge part of that awareness.
* What does love feel like? Love is not just a place for him to put his pecker because he’s bored and you’re looking for something to do. Love is: having the feeling, knowing, hearing that, and seeing them being responsible with the care of your welfare. Love is getting lost in the sexy details of your partner. Love is doing what is right over what is easy. Love is not connected to being “right” in a communication, or its acts being seen, or even being heard by anyone. Love is the presence of your awareness that’s engaged with the clarity of action. Love is you acting from your God-self instead of your Ego-self, so love is not tangible; not something you can grab a-hold of. Love is an experience; a reflection of God, and because God is not physical we seek that similar experience and connection with people.
For her, he is thinking about her physical needs while speaking her language of emotion… are you okay? Are you upset? What can I do to make things right? Are you hungry? Are you warm? Before I leave for work, is there anything you need from me? What do you need from me today? What are your dreams? Give her the freedom to fuss over you.
For him, she is thinking about his emotional needs while connecting to him through his physical world… your behind this morning, let me make your lunch. A touch on his shoulder; an emotional connection helps him to release tension like nothing else. Being touched. Giving him the freedom of space to process his concerns. Giving him the space to build metaphoric castles around you; That being something unusually special just for you.
* What does sexual energy feel like? It is emotionally extremely powerful, even for those of us who are experienced. It’s a feeling and need to curl-up in the arms of the one who triggered the response. Sexual energy to me is all about connection, heart connection, spiritual connection, and for some it’s about release of tension. As a first timer, I would say from experience, choose to have sex with someone you’ve loved for a while. The emotional power that sex changes in a relationship can be a bit overwhelming at times, so this is not to be taken lightheartedly. It’s such a powerful experience that it can easily become addictive. Over all, this experience is unique to the receiver.
* Feeling intense sexual chemistry sitting next to a male friend is the energy mine or his? Is he somebody that turns you on? Then yes it’s yours. In describing telepathy: if you’re minding your own business and fully focused on something completely different from that person, or in this case sexuality, and that thought pops into your head that’s unrelated to what your focus is. Then it’s the other person who is thinking of you. If you become horny and think of someone, then those feelings are yours. Still just because you have those feelings, doesn’t mean they have to experience you.
* What can I do if I have a lot of sexual energy? When sex with another person is not possible, masturbation is a wonderful form of release. If you masturbate just before you go out on a date, you won’t have that sexual drive bothering you, and you can just enjoy your night out and the company of the other person. If you don’t currently have a partner and you don’t satisfy yourself at least once every few days, you will become an angry and bitter person. Part of the essential human experience is sexuality. When we cut that part out of life, we find disharmony and dysfunction, and it can become extreme as in murder. Sexuality is life affirming, whether it be with yourself or with a partner.
* Does masturbation block your psychic powers? No. It keeps the chemistry from ruling the emotions.
* Does masturbation lower your spiritual vibration? No, not at all. However, if you keep your thoughts clean, as in how the story unfolds in your mind; the story that brings you to climax. The reason being: the Chi or the climax energy we all experience in an orgasm, is a very powerful manifesting agent. It doesn’t draw to you the person in the “story”, however, it will draw to your life experiences the flavor of the story. In-other-words, if the story is about taking what you want, then you may have experiences of people running from you. Or if the story is about including heart connection, you may have experiences of people wanting to be close to you. Those qualities begin to manifest into your life experiences. Manifestation goes from thought to emotion to action. Choose wisely. Masturbation with positive thoughts is a good thing, sex with someone your in love with is a good thing. The flow of Chi or Life Force energy is a constant, the orgasm whether it’s triggered by sex or masturbation, opens a door and allows us to experience the physical sensation of that flow.
If you have a strict spiritual practice without a partner. As a person goes through emotional cycles, and finds themselves in a low spot, masturbation restarts the bodies emotional sense of well being. It also keeps our chemistry from running our emotions. Masturbation is emotional and body care, and after the release one will have better attention for continued spiritual care. Monks have learned to move their Chi and balance their emotions without sex. However for the average person the orgasm is essential for emotional balance.
* What’s the best spiritual image to masturbate to? A faceless / nameless person, and as you come to climax release them and step into light. As you are in the moment of orgasm the Light of God is your focus.
* Does masturbating decrease chi energy? No, not at all. This cannot take Chi or spiritual energy away. Chi is a constant, and we are here having the experience of it. We can’t lose it, or even keep it for ourselves. We can however fine-tune the experience of it, as to feel the experience more or less than. It does however keep your Chi clean by resetting your bodies sense of well-being.
* What does masturbation do to your Chi? It keeps it moving, and it keeps it vital and fresh. People who are edgy and tend to be angry a lot are those who don’t have enough orgasms. Withholding from the sexual orgasmic release lowers our vibration and creates drama in our lives. The same goes for having too much sex. Spiritual energy is awareness, awareness of God in action; love in action.
* Can someone feel my sexual energy from a distance? Yes. Only through the mental field.
* Can others sense when you masturbate? No. Not unless you smell like it, or they hear you in the other room. Energetically it’s made to be very private.
* Can people send their sexual energy to other people while masturbating?
* Can I connect with someone I masturbate to spiritually? They may only sense you if you ARE currently in a sexual relationship with them, or if you’re highly clairvoyant. If you masturbate to someone where they don’t have an emotional sexual bond to you, then they will NOT sense you.
* Can we pick up on sexual energy of others? Or can you feel when someone is thinking of you sexually? Not like you want them to. If you’re a sensitive empathy, while meditating daily on the high frequencies of love/god connection, and they are someone you intimately know… then yes, through telepathy it’s possible. If your out in nature and your in-tune with your own inner rhythms, where you feel open and free. If you get the sense that someone or something is watching you, that person or animal is within your mental-field. At best your mental-field is about the size of a large stadium if you’re standing in the middle. The sense of someone watching you comes through your mental-field, the sense of it being sexual comes through your telepathic field. Both can come through as an uneasy feeling, if the person watching has inappropriate intentions.
So if you’re masturbating while watching the person you’re passionate about, and they have no knowledge of this. If your sexual urge gives you the feeling of “gotta have” or “can’t live without”, then the person receiving will feel the urge of “warning”. To turn this around, hold them in the open space of love and gratitude. No story, no conditions, just hold them in that open space.
* Does Reiki make sex incredible? No. Reiki has nothing to do with sex.
* Can a ghost influence a person’s sexuality? No.
* Love is spiritual energy? YES!!! 😉
Spiritual energy; awareness by itself is many 1000 times stronger than when we add sexuality to it. Spiritual awareness through meditation can take you to far more places. Alternative healing without sex will always be the stronger way to go. Spiritual sex or sacred sex is a way of relating to our partner from our god-self. Spiritual sex is a way for us to explore our multidimensional light-bodies, and the experiences from the unity of that bond.
I know there are many questions that are the same, however the answers can be very different, because I tune into the intention of the question at the time it was asked.
Gentle blessings from the sweet essence of the rose.
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Jul 23, 2014 @ 04:28:02
Why is it that some older men will look for a younger woman to marry? Example, a 45 year old marrying a 30 year old or a 35 year old man marrying an 18 year old? And does it usually last?
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Jul 23, 2014 @ 04:34:38
Read the Post “Light Bulb“!? She may also have Daddy issues to work through. Or she likes the security of the older man. And yes, everything has the ability to last.
Women go through 2 natural fazes in life: one – in which she is fully focused on the relationship and family. Two – being a shift away from him and family, while connecting to self-ministry. So men still needing attention will seek out the younger woman who has that energy for him.
Thank you for your inquisitive question.
Blessings to you…
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Sep 29, 2014 @ 20:13:07
Thank you!
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Aug 01, 2014 @ 21:45:30
This is awesome thank you 🙂
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Aug 01, 2014 @ 22:13:14
thats cool about fantasizing it always stressed me out an hurt that a partner was connecting or energy cheating by connecting to other peoples energy whilst thinking of other women rather than mine an then maybe i was picking up other peoples energy then during sex like porn energy an the elusive sacred sex was again further from me
…but your take on it is all about intention manifesting in reality ty really opened up my block here 🙂 thats if i understood it correct 🙂
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Sep 29, 2014 @ 22:33:16
You understood it correctly, and picked up exactly what you needed to hear for your progression forward.
My blessings to you…
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Dec 03, 2014 @ 23:12:43
My husband and I often do some kind of really intense spiritual connection when we are intimate. Neither of us knows just how it happens but there is no doubt that it happens. It results in some really “wow” experiences. I hate to say they are sexual – they involve sex, but they are much, much more intense and there is a definite spiritual/soul connection going on. We both believed such a thing was possible and never experienced it until we met and married.
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Dec 05, 2014 @ 03:04:19
Bless you, and thank you for sharing.
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Dec 14, 2014 @ 21:35:14
This was enlightening reading. Spiritual connection or a sense of deep love and communion is far more fulfilling than using sex for physical gratification alone. I argue that murderers conflate rage with sex and may be sexually addicted as opposed to abstinent. Murderers and rapists seek to possess and overpower their victim, whereas ego-less people allow others their distinct space and avoid violating another’s body.
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Dec 17, 2014 @ 20:49:47
My friend and I live in different parts of the country, but yet I can sense them. It is not anything I am trying to do, it just happens. Why?
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Dec 18, 2014 @ 17:37:32
Telepathy is apart of our extra sensory perception (ESP) of our Light-body or Spirit. Intuition is also a sensory perception of our Spirit, and it’s the pituitary gland in the middle of the head that connects intuitive thinking with the physical mind.
If you were to be walking down a street, or standing in a crowded room, and you get the feeling of being watched. That person’s or animal’s attention is focused intensively on you, and by your own awareness of your mental field, you pick up on their focus.
Telepathy works a lot the same way. When you think of them they pick up on that, and respond by calling you by phone. Or finishing your sentences. Your telepathic field is bigger than the solar system, how much bigger I’m not sure. Telepathy can be fine-tuned as far as you want to go with it, it just takes focus and attention, and it becomes stronger through emotional connections.
My blessings to you…
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Feb 08, 2015 @ 22:42:30
But all excesses (which = imbalance) become their reverse. Too much sex (& orgasm) weakens the kidney chi (which can manifest in different ways, as in weak teeth and knees).
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Feb 08, 2015 @ 23:07:11
There is a balance to everything we do. However if you believe that it can harm you, then it will. The belief of thought is just that powerful.
Blessings…
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Feb 09, 2015 @ 00:48:04
I was speaking of excess. =)
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Feb 09, 2015 @ 05:25:53
Yes, excess; too much of something, and there needs to be a balance to everything we do. I get it, I don’t doubt you.
My belief is that I create my own circumstances, I believe so therefor I AM. “The unmanifest becomes manifest”.
Besides I’m not the one having excess of sex. This post is an attempt in teaching sexual balance, sacred sex and correcting misunderstandings.
My blessings to you…
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Feb 09, 2015 @ 14:54:12
Yes, I appreciated the thoughtful post on the sacredness. =)
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Mar 09, 2015 @ 07:18:55
With havin so much content and articles do you ever run into any issues of plagorism or copyright violation? My website has a lot of completely unique content I’ve ither authored myself or
outsourced but it looks lke a loot of it is popping it up
all over the internet without my agreement. Do you know any methods to help
protect against content from being ripped off?
I’d genuinely appreciate it.
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Mar 09, 2015 @ 15:24:58
Getting something copy written takes a lot of work, it’s like getting a Grant or a Patent. When I publish something here on WordPress, there is a time that shows up on my records, and a date at the top of this page next to the title of this article. This is legal and can be used in court with such disputes.
I, on the other hand, I work closely with Angels, Archangels and spiritual Master Teachers to bring this information to light, and through them I put my trust in them to guard and guide this information to those who need it. The way in which I write this, comes from my clarity of understanding this material, and has my vibrational frequency in it. So if you were to ask “that” person a question of this material, the quality of their answer will be of a different vocabulary than my own. So therefor I have no worries.
The same goes for the Energy Wheels I create, no one creates one quite like me. I know anyone can build one. However, when spiritual guidance and myself put one together, the end result will be very different from someone else. So through this I feel protected by Spirit.
I’m not sure I answered this question in the way you expected me to, however, this is my approach to life.
You could personalize it; put your name through it, making them go back through it and edit.
I’m not sure, and I think you can get a watermark for a digital page (?)
Here’s a legal way to do it:
When you write something new, put down time and date. Put it in an envelope and send it to yourself. Then the ONLY person to open it is a Judge or a lawyer in a court of law. Because the Post Office will date it.
Blessings to you…
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Apr 17, 2015 @ 11:24:14
Thank you so much for such enlightening information.
I am curious, is it possible to still reach the same type of sexual spiritual connections when making love to your polyamorous loves at the same time during a threesome? (When all three have the same spiritual mindset & not focused merely on physical gratification).
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Apr 17, 2015 @ 13:50:24
Greetings Cynthia,
if you’re referring to the spiritual sexual bonding mentioned towards the top of this page, we can bond to just one at a time, because the energy is so focused and so deliberate. And because sex is ego-driven and very physical, which is the complete opposite of spiritual awareness. That the spiritual bonding is exclusive with the one who is giving you the orgasm, regardless of who’s kissing you. If we were to bond with multiple people at once, our experience would start to resemble chaos, which again is the opposite of spiritual awareness.
Emotional bonding can happen to multiple people at a time. Where we feel close to others, very different from experiencing their state of being within our own field of personal awareness.
We can have a spiritual experience with many people at once, which is very different from sexual bonding. Where we share the same space with others while having a person experience.
Spiritual anything, refers to a personal experience that brings a heightened awareness; clarity of thought.
My blessings to you Cynthia for your kind words, and inquisitive question.
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May 28, 2015 @ 14:41:41
I get really engrossed reading your articles , yesterday I stayed til 5am! OML! they are so enlightening! I am very happy I came across your website! A true gem!
Now, my story…
I´ve been in a 3 year relationship with a guy. He was the first year all the time after me, and I didn´t like him much … after some time I began to connect a little bit with him ,however, there was never a very strong connection on my side…Overall the relationship felt all the time kind of shallow. I knew we were not meant from the beginning ,my intuition told me he was not for me, but for some reason we stayed together. I guess he had sth to learn since he was quite persistent.
Round November 2014, I left him for one month and he slept with somebody else , we got together and had sexual relationship again. It seemed he wanted to try again with me , because he missed me when he was with another. However ,I began to feel negative and with bad sensations the days after we had been together, once I knew he had slept with this girl, and even form before. Could it be that he transferred the girl´s energy to me and this gives me and awkward feeling? I have not been feeling very well after having sex with him, for quite a long time. I think this is because he has been growing apart and connecting better with some other girls and I sense this .I believe emotional cheating is cheating as well, more because of negative energy flow that cheating itself.
The point is he has been sleeping with other/s but keeps coming back to me since he connects sexually better to me. Could this strong sexual bond on his side be reveling something else? Is sexual strictly sexual? He says he has learned everything he needed to learn from me, that it is only sexual attraction…however I read in one of you posts that if there still attraction , there is still learning…I have always find it very weird, that he wanted to be with me even though there was never much connection in higher levels, (spiritual, emotional, …)Three years is too much time , just to be with someone you only connect sexually…
When I tell him I can´t be with him because something is broken given that he slept with sb else , he says I don´t understand his liberal spirit…, I mean ,I understand we were not together when he slept with her. However, I don’t feel well about sleeping again with him now…it is as though he were dirty!!! I told him I felt I was sleeping with Dorian Grey haha. He is too dirty for my pure spirit!!! He is more sexual , shallow and animal whereas I am more spiritual , deep and connecting I look for intimacy , connection , trust , bonding…but it feels he never wants to go into higher plains with me. It feels as if he lacked humanity…like more of an animal than a human!
I don´t feet attach to him , and don´t want to sleep with him because he might transfer all his rubbish to me( and all the rubbish from the girl/s he slept with)…and because I don´t like him anymore since he proved to be a bad person, inhumane (I became aware!)I realize I am better off when I am not with him…and besides if we keep sleeping together I will be forever bonding with him…
I apologize for such a long comment, I hope you can understand…
and thank you for sharing all this knowledge with the community and make us more conscious and aware!
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May 29, 2015 @ 04:08:36
Florencia, seems to me you already know just what it is that you need to do for yourself. You’re right “he is using you”, his only interest in you is sexual. If it were just sex 2 or 3 times, I would say “fine”, 3 years!? You knew in the beginning he wasn’t right for you, that knowing is your intuition and it is here to guide you through life. Now if you choose not to listen to it, you can expect your life to become a mess, like this is. Or you can learn to turn up that volume so you can hear it better, and that just means practice.
The more that I tune into him, the more that I see that you want so much more than he is capable of giving. So set him free, and march on, brave one…
My blessings to you.
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Jun 10, 2015 @ 23:17:25
Can Chi be transfered through oral sex?
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Jun 12, 2015 @ 04:07:05
Chi, different from “the deliberate sexual bonding technique” as spoken of toward the top of this page.
Chi can be moved throughout the body, and with focus can be delivered to another person from any part of the body. Chi is not apart of your spirit, it’s an energy that is flowing throughout the universe, and as it moves through us we harness it and transform it. Chi does not belong to us, it is borrowed. So there’s an unlimited amount of it.
The Flowing Chi
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Jul 18, 2015 @ 14:42:49
Hello dear. I msg. from Mumbai, india, where in there is a lot of things, pertaining to sex, energies, healing, and the gurus, and disciples also. i have a guru. he is nice. and his meditation is really good. i always felt good and learned a lot from him. i introduced my wife to him. and we had joint meditation sessions. I, my wife, our 3-4 friends, and the guru… all used to do such meditations. my wife, definately got inclined towards my guru, and told him that she liked him. the GURU ( 25 years older to my wife of 30 age ), immediately lip kissed her. and from there on, sexual inclinations started between them. Once they had full sex. The girl, then felt bad, and asked the GURU to stop and terminate the relation. The GURU, didnt. he convinced, did all spiritual tic tacs, gave all bull shit reasons ( for eg… your house is very negative energy, and your husbands karmas are also very negative…they all can be healed, if we both have sex, if i and you become one etc etc ). The girl literally avoided him for one – two motnhs. Yet one thing…. the girl, I, and all us really loved him like a father. He would be very good at most times. And my wife said, He would be mad and very much taunting and convincing her for sex.
The GURU ( I will use this word with respect, since yes, we learnt, a lot. Literally he made us fully confident. i donno it was our TRUST on him which worked, or was it…his energy. I think both. ) convinced her. and they had an ongoing relation for 4 years. The girl talked with me very openly, and said to me…she just likes the emotional bonding things…and hates actually… to get physical and all those bodily things. She said, she always saw her dead father in him… He also used to call her DAUGHTER in front of us all…. but…. the girl said VERY CLEARLY — SHE WAS DRAGGED INTO THE SEX ACTS…however she was happy with this otherwise love and care. ( I think, guys dont mind to show full love and care, if they get the best of best sacred sex. ).
But some how, this GURU, got so dominating… and like…so much possessed up by the feeling of love for this girl…he would always remain a lot heavy. She wasnt allowed to meet any one or talk anyone etc etc ( So that the energy which was put in her by fuck thing, shouldnt be wasted or drained must be his funda ). But poor girl… who didnt like sexal acts, was pleasing his daddy figure just for the other love and cares of him… who had the sense of CHEATINg on her husband….she said to me….she literally prayed to god….to let her out of this thing.
Here on other sides, Myself, was his RIGHT HAND. he would treat me as a son disciple. my wife said… i had no OPENING, to open out. It was… like… ok…submit to him….twice in a week….and rest all the week, its GOOD and BEST for the whole of group. THIS ALL continued like this for 4 years..until the GURU started being VERY HEAVY and TOUCHY and EMOTIONAL for her. The girl just went out for a movie with her old friends group, the GURU blasted like anything. And the torturing load etc.
She got sick. and was like… not good lastly. And I got a glimpse from the universe, to directly ask this question to her. And she… initially after refusing…gave up. And I could know all.
I fought angrily with my GURU. and BROKE up. Me and My wife.. both.
The GURU now of course is hurt.
We both are hurt.
Everyone is hurt.
I would love to have my girls ( wife, gfs, or whatsoever related with me ).. to be in LOVE with some one, and definately explore out GOOD LOVE and SEX VIBRATIONS. I dont mind, being multi partner for this. or even cheating for this.
My questions :
1) Did the GURU made a mistake. In BHIRAV and BHAIRAVI sadhana.. where in.. intercourse of a male and female seeker, is regarded as a pivotal workout for liberation… it demands UTPMOST RESPECT, LOVE and SURRENDER to the female i.e. bhairavi ( a girl who has accepted to cooperate the act with full dedication and love ).
Initially the girl said, she had inclination. She was totally hypnotized by this all. She said…she totally trusted and submitted the guru. AFter the sex was like..forced on her…she said…she was OK, and enjoyed that too.
But later on, last 2-3 years…just DRAGGED.
Cant an enlighten GURU understand this thing..Cant he see, that tthe girl is not ok.
I want your expert comments on this.
2) My criteria is very simple sir. In India, we put GURU…more pious then GOD himself. God is afterwards. Guru is first. Thats what we have in our DNA.
I and my wife… will tell u very unbiased… are very good… and fellows of god.
Even the GURU says to all others… The two gems are these two only. Now I have no mood to teach anyone. If they couldnt digest me…no one else can.
It gives us a feel of GUILT. I was literally moved by one sentence…the wife said to me… she was praying to god, to get her out.
I made her out. and I also got out. ( To be with my wife. rather then to be with GURU ).
I really didnt like… that my wife was even ILL – TREATED for ONE SECOND atleast.
am I right to leave his physical abode ?
3) OSHO used to do such things with his disciples. My GURU has remained with OSHO also. My point is very simple… WHICH DISCIPLE OF OSHO ( amongst the 1000s of those women who slept with him ) has attained liberty. or become Jesus. I havent seen any. This is what I argued with GURU also.
He says… I am detoriating his game. and I am harming my wife the most. I really dont understand. He is a highly psychic dominating lover. that i have known.
4) The GURU is in a way caring, and very nice fellow. Rather he was. He would show very deep and to the level of psycho like love for this girl. Love is there.. but it is suffocating…it is like…very much dominating..and not giving space. He would care for us like a dad. That also is there. just FYI neways.
One more thing.. The GURU has tried to be sexual with many women. Many resisted. And some submitted. This also i have come to known.
I donno.. what is my question. I want that… NO OFFENCE…NO PAIN should be given to anyone from our side. I really dont like, my GURU makes a LOVE HURT face in front of others.
bloody situation… The immense love for the guru…..and the immense fucking act of the same guy….. I donno what to do.
GOD, Please help me.. Please
Rony.
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Jul 18, 2015 @ 16:00:25
Rony dear one, your intuition and instincts are correct.
The true definition of a Guru: is someone who finds it easy to move beyond earthly desires like sex while they are teaching. They DO NOT have sex with their followers. A true Guru always creates trust, because trust is the language of God.
This man [Guru] you speak of, is using the status and class of “Guru” to fulfill his sexual greed, and therefor he is way out of balance. He may say the right things to have you feel and believe that he is in balance. He is in fact NOT what he says he is. If he had a wife, or one person that he was devoted to, then sex would never become an issue outside of that sacred circle.
Rony, for you to find peace and joy, you must release this man, walk away from him, and no longer give him your attention. Give him the physical space to reconnect to his clarity of heart. He is here to show you what is illusion, and he points away from himself, at what is truth. And if you stay with him, you build karma with him that says “I don’t deserve trust”.
Your karma with him is asking you to stand tall to what you believe is Right. Karma is always showing you how dysfunctional your Ego-self is, from the messes you get yourself into. When we see the dysfunction, we can then begin to see the balance of acting from our God-self. I know this is not considered normal in your country. When you act from what you know to be “right and important”, you will be released from this karma.
Go with peace.
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Jul 23, 2015 @ 13:01:52
We all have the lessons that bring us back to self- balance, self-awareness, self-love and into the perfection of self-loyalty. This is a natural cycle, it happens whether we want it or not. However, it’s up to you if you want this unfolding karma to last many lifetimes, by waiting for God to change your physical circumstances. Or in just a moment, by allowing God to act through you by your own action of change (as God In Action). All cycles lead back to the self – your amazing self.
Blessings…
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Aug 02, 2015 @ 00:33:27
hey im currently in a relationship and im not married. I was wondering if oral sex and partner masturbation could lower my soul vibration to hers, and if that is a sin, which i dont think it is because if all that happened i would still be a virgin but i would like to know what you have to say about that. and amazing page! im am very grateful that someone would put the time in to make this!!
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Aug 04, 2015 @ 13:29:45
Greeting Alexander.
You are an extension of your soul, not the other way around. What lowers your spiritual (power) awareness, is to act upon something that is not of love, and you know in your heart when you are not acting out of love.
In the language of Jesus there is no word for “sin”, and if you must know, “sin” is simply a moment when someone misses the mark. Humans have created thousands of sins as a way to have control over other people, and that is all about Ego’s fear and nothing to do with Spirit’s love.
So act out the love in you, and you can not go wrong. Other people will always have their opinions, please don’t let that sway you. Your active love is God acting through you.
Go in peace.
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Sep 20, 2016 @ 04:08:21
Thank you very much! Sent from Yahoo Mail on Android
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Aug 10, 2015 @ 22:16:55
Christopher, I disagree with you that there cannot be psychic sex. I knew of a man online preying on women who had a history of sexual abuse, especially those Kundalini-active. Once connected with them through chat or messaging, he could easily push his way into her consciousness. I experienced this firsthand, and he was very powerful. One of the women who knew him personally reached out to me and helped me develop psychic self-defense practices from what was basically psychic rape. I just want you to know, because you are speaking with authority on a subject and perhaps are lacking some information or experience on the matter.
That criticism aside, thank you very much for this article. Lots of very helpful stuff in there. 🙂
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Aug 11, 2015 @ 00:16:02
Experiencing psychic rape is the same as experiencing an evil spirit, it happens simply because you have the belief that this is possible, or part of this Earth life for you is for you to have this experience so you can transcend it.
When you plug into God [or what ever that word is for you] in such a way that the only time you look at yourself is through His eyes, not another person. Then nothing that is not of god can touch you. This maybe a challenge for you to wrap your mind around, unless you’re there. Belief is just that powerful.
I have a Post on Energy Shielding for those who need it, it may not have everything, it does however cover the basics.
This psychic sex you speak of, only a very few can do, and out of that few less than 1/8th are abusing it. I said what I said because not everyone can do it, it’s not that common.
Blessings be with you along the path you follow…
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Aug 11, 2015 @ 18:25:17
Thank you for the thoughtful response! Take care, Christopher. 🙂
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Aug 12, 2015 @ 13:40:54
I know that wasn’t the answer you were looking for, you want me to acknowledge the dark side of psychic energy, which there is none. I think the dark side of anything is there to teach the Truth of the illusion in it. I’m not here to belittle your experience.
For the sake of discussion, in your mind, how did Jesus walk on water?
Blessings…
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Aug 12, 2015 @ 21:54:51
When your belief system is more about God/love/gratitude and those higher vibrations then it is about darkness, then darkness doesn’t want anything to do with you. Darkness only wants people who believe in darkness, or are curious about those experiences. And what shields you from those experiences, are the actions that promote God, love, gratitude and those higher vibrational frequencies. Move your belief into God-awareness and your experiences of darkness will end.
Psychic attack is like a ghost invading your personal space, and again, shifting your awareness to God, love… will shield you. Psychic is of the spirit, and sexual is physical. A sexual attack comes from the contact of another body. I think the terminology is not psychic sexual attack, it’s sexual emotional manipulation through the power of suggestion. And if you’re someone who doesn’t have good healthy emotional boundaries, then it’s easy to pull you into it.
My blessings to you…
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Apr 19, 2017 @ 03:15:53
I agree that Physic sex is very real. The passion that is derived from the sexual/ root chakra can hit hard. Stories of children thinking they were raped when in reality they merely felt the sexual energies of their parents in the next room and didn’t know how to deal with that energy. Or of course the online relationships, wanted and unwanted alike are very powerful. Take away the Physical and what is left but the Auric body to focus on.
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Apr 19, 2017 @ 05:32:10
When we are sensitive we can feel the feelings and emotional urges of others, and that is having empathy or being empathic. Physic implies spiritual, and sex is physical. Spiritual and physical are complete opposites.
Jamie dear one, you really need to learn the correct terminology for what you’re trying to describe, before you start throwing around accusations.
The auric body has no form, so what are we focusing on, or are you simply talking about the imagination?
Blessings…
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Aug 31, 2015 @ 02:43:26
How can you get rid of the feeling ? And how can you tell if the person really in live with you or just wanted you to feel what they felt ? Could this be abuse ? Or could it be a blessing ? Even or even you dont want it . And when there is no sexual intercourse going on .
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Sep 02, 2015 @ 00:31:27
To get rid of a feeling when ever it involves another person, is always done through forgiveness.
To yourself: I am spirit, my body is only an illusion, it has nothing to do with what I really am.
To the other person: You are spirit, whole and innocent, all is forgiven and released.
Repeat this as often as the feelings arise, in a way that brings you out of anger and back to compassion, and or back to an emotional neutral space.
“How can you tell if a person is really in love with you”?
Do you feel empowered from your time with them?
Do you feel emotionally complete by those tender moments?
Are you sexually satisfied nearly all the time?
If you have the feeling that this could be abuse, then it must be true. The more that you trust that little feeling you have and follow it, the more that it will lead you to where you want to be. And of course that little feeling isn’t going to amount to much, unless you follow it.
That feeling will be true when your emotions are quiet, and not until then.
If you are having strong feelings for someone your not having sex with, then you need to read my post: Can a Karmic Relationship Work?
My blessings to you.
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Sep 18, 2015 @ 18:30:17
What a about strippers? Dark as porn? Or more grey
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Sep 19, 2015 @ 13:30:31
Greetings…
Going to a strip club is another place where men reprogram their minds to what beauty is, we learn to ONLY look at the physical self. We are no longer looking at the mental self, the emotional self, let along the spiritual self.
From this fantasy, we do one of two things: 1) Every woman we look at we want to see her sex; we undress them with our eyes, which removes the sacred. Because she is no longer beauty and mystery, she is now a sex object for my pleasure. The “we” and “us” have been taken out, and replaced with “me” and “mine”.
2) It conditions us for sexual greed, it gives us that “gotta have” energy in our field of presence, and women pick up on this and the good ones want to run.
Blessings…
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Sep 21, 2015 @ 12:45:54
What an enlightening article this is, with so much clarity on spiritual and sexual energy! I enjoyed reading it.
My question: Is it possible to drain your partner from energy, without consciously knowing it and no intention of doing so? How come my partner feels like I’m draining him, especially when holding hands, putting my hand on his lap or just touching him? I’ve always thought of me being a giver, wanting others to be happy/relaxed and easing other’s pain. How can I prevent or overcome this feeling of my partner that I’m taking his energy?
My partner and I were schoolmates a long time ago, we’ve been through different life experiences and painful situations, and connected two months ago. The chemistry, love and deep emotional and sexual energy is so intense and really touching, we can hardly believe this deep connection. I’ve been doing spiritual transformation since two years, doing yoga, meditations, pranic healing, attending spiritual seminars etc. and focused on my own intuition and gut feeling. I know that my partner is a sensor and also spiritually vibrations, he can feel/read other’s vibrations. He’s also stands firm in his believes.
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Sep 21, 2015 @ 14:31:33
Greetings Rosa.
What gives you excitement, what would you say is your first passion in life?
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Sep 21, 2015 @ 14:38:35
Pursuing goals with a truly optimistic enthusiasm and an enlightened heart gets me going, every day!
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Sep 21, 2015 @ 15:12:02
How come my partner feels like I’m draining him? Men act from independence, they need space to process life. Women need emotional contact, they process life by talking it out. If your enthusiasm is in his face a lot, he may perceive that as you taking his energy. Not that your enthusiasm is bad, it’s not, there’s a time and a place for it. If you treat him as if he is going to fulfill all your needs, he may also see that as draining. Read my page on Boundaries and Personal Power, and especially the section on processing.
Blessings…
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Sep 21, 2015 @ 15:25:46
Thank you, Christopher. Have also read that page, Boundaries and Personal Power. I actually doubt it’s my enthusiasm being in his face, most often he feels being drained when we’re in a still, relaxed moment or sometimes when tired state. He often feels my energy, mostly through my hands meaning them being very warm/sometimes cold which then bothers/interferes with his own mood or state of feelings. Why I inquired about this, is because I want to understand what’s it all about and how to handle this.
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Sep 21, 2015 @ 15:54:31
What I get: is this is all about him and not much to do with you. Talk to him, get him to describe to you what his needs are? Maybe he’s trying to tell you that he’s not the one for you, that you both make better friends than lovers? Most men are are terrible communicators, so trust that “little feeling” you get. And take it one day at a time.
My blessings to you Rosa.
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Sep 21, 2015 @ 16:12:08
Many thanks. I will talk to him, and I will listen. Maybe it’s both fear and hesitancy. We both had our fair share of failures, sadness and sorrow. For us it’s very young and unexpected, never foreseen when we were peers. We do enjoy it and there are great deep feelings involved. I’ll take it one day at a time. Again thank you!
Namaste
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Sep 25, 2015 @ 01:41:22
I have a question for the author.
Lately I’ve been looking at sexual energy and the difference between the physical sexual energy and spiritual sexual energy.. which you outlined very well, thank you.
I’m trying to find a deeper understanding of the purely physical energy and where it comes from.
Obviously, it’s from a bunch of hormones building up, that’s the chemical side of things. Why do these chemicals build up? Is it a purely biological process that we can’t control?
I ask this because I’ve been finding that my sexual energy has been coinciding with a body/mind/spirit imbalance.
When there is no trigger from another person my sexual buildup tends to arise if I’m not feeling well in my self, it feels like it’s from the same source that drives the urge to eat when you’re not hungry.
When I’m feeling this, I’ve found masturbation or sex is like a bandaid, it temporarily fixes the desire but deep down it hasn’t gone away.
Recently I’ve tried something different.. I practice yoga, getting out in nature, journalling and meditation to rebalance my chakras and release any negative energy. When I realign with my true nature, the urge disappears and any sexual energy resets to a “healthy”, love-driven (not physically-driven) state.
Do you think there’s any truth in this? I would love to hear your opinion on the spiritual nature of physical lust, if you believe it occurs from imbalance or if it’s just a bunch of hormones.
Blessings 🙂
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Sep 25, 2015 @ 14:37:22
Greetings Debbs.
Having a bountiful sexual drive requires a creative outlet; creative expression. Quiet activities just magnifies it. So it would help to apply something of your self-expression, something loving, something that reflects that true nature of yours.
I have this same issue, so I walk nearly every day. The point is that we are sexual beings, and it is so important not to deny that part of ourselves. So I give a lot of hugs as often as I can, make a lot of eye contact… while also respecting my physical and emotional boundaries. Because hidden expectations can create amazing chaos.
You can also allow the abundance of your second chakra to overflow into your first. A healthy first chakra is what promotes physical abundance.
This chemical build up is the body seeking emotional balance, it’s the instinctual physical body, and sometimes all it takes is a hug.
My blessings to you Debbs.
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Oct 09, 2015 @ 20:02:00
I have a question, I was in a negative abusive relationship with a false twin flame for 6 years and when we broke up 4 years ago. I stayed away from sex to find my inner intuition and cleanse myself from the spiritually transmitted disease that I had caught as a sensitive empath, be a me much more in tune with my body, healthier and have developed an incredible instinct for things esp being able to tune in to someone energy and deciding if I like them or not. I thought that coming this far after years of cleansing would guide me to my twin flame as I believe we all have one but currently fancy a guy who is very attractive and wants to take me on a date. Because it’s my first time I 4 years, will I be making a mistake to have casual sex with someone? I feel guilty for some reason and cannot decide if I should be complete clean before meeting my twin flame or not. Thanks.
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Oct 10, 2015 @ 17:42:12
Nina, I get that this man is not your twin flame. However having casual sex with him would be fine, as long as you know it’s NOT a relationship. If you decide to have a relationship with him, than make sure he wants what you want.
If there is ANYthing that he is doing that you don’t like, know that he will have a very tough time changing it, because it’s so much apart of who he is. So remember, you deserve what you need. Be sure he has it in him to give it freely to you, or move on to the next man. It’s just that simple.
My blessings to you…
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Jan 31, 2016 @ 12:52:04
Christopher, this post is truly amazing and I am so grateful to have stumbled upon in whilst researching sexual energy on google. So thank-you for your wisdom.
I am going through an very intense and interesting sexual awakening right now. It has been going on a week, and it appears that a spiritual practice I was involved in last week-end (around full moon) has triggered my kundalini, and I was woken from deep sleep in the middle of the night on Monday evening to find myself in a state of high sexual arousal and orgasm. I wasn’t dreaming of sex or masturbating, this feeling was coming from the divine and I have been in this same feeling for 7 days now!
What happens is the kundalini (if that is the right word to call it, I am trying to figure out what it is!) seems to “react” like an internal dowser to my thoughts and actions.
I discoverd this when sitting in bed thinking I should do something and it shot up through my body sending me into an orgasm! Then I thought of something negative I should do and it was quiet and I have been testing it and using it as a guide!
I am enjoying this experience but also am quite confused by it and not sure what this means for me and my life. I connected with my higher self and true essential nature of the week end that has triggered this to happen, so I assume its all positive.
The interesting thing, is I have been married for 5 years to one of the most amazing men I have ever met. He personifies goodness and kindness and is a truly amazing soul. The challenge is he is not into sex. During courting and dating, we made love a few nights a week (living separately) but when we moved in together to live, he announced to me that sex drained him and he didn’t want to do it regularly. I was devastated at the time because I adore sex and have always loved it and I nearly terminated the relationship but then he produced an engagement ring and I was so delighted he wanted to marry me I decided that the sex thing didn’t matter so much and he told me he had read in books that too much sex drained his energy etc etc.
So 5 years into a marriage, we make love maximum once every 4 weeks, and when we do make love, I am not satisfied. We have the intimacy which we enjoy together and I feel better after making love, but he is not truly sexually satisfying me and it used to really upset me that he didn’t seem to care or try to do so.
How can I maintain the strong emotional bonds with my husband and also express my true essential nature and feel loved by a man. I don’t “feel” loved by my husband right now but I KNOW he loves me if that makes sense?
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Jan 31, 2016 @ 16:26:50
Greetings Nina.
This kundalini experience your having is your Spirit Guides coming forward establishing a connection with you, they want you to follow what feels good for you. They feel your life has gone on far enough, and now it’s time for you to follow the course you came here to do, and this is their insistence.
Your husband does love you, just not in the full capacity that you need him to, and for your life to flourish in this next stage, it’s beyond important for you to have the experience of your inner potential. Being loved in the way in which we are designed opens doors of expression, which helps us in interpersonal transformation. So when our self-love tank is full, what we have the capacity to give back is the full richness of our intuitive expression, and a healthy sex life feeds that out-pouring of energetic attention.
The kundalini experience will open other centers than just your belly chakra [which is sexual], it’s opening your 3rd chakra – solar plexus which is all about self-worth; self-loyalty, and others the heart for loving expressions, the crown for Truth, and so on. The question is: are you going to allow this experience to transform you, or it this just an amazing physical situation?
This is your life, your choice, your threshold to cross.
Your husband says that too much sex drains his energy, “that is what he tells himself”, and therefor it is his belief. However in truth, it is more of an excuse than a condition. You both are great companions, more so than sexual partners, and he does not know how to tell you this. So he is passive-aggressive; he tells you with his actions and not his words. He is full of excuses for the lack of action.
Marriage is meant to be a two-way street, not a one-way or a bike path. It’s an environment for healing and growth. It’s a gentle space for fulfilling expressions. It’s both an emotional and physical sanctuary, when the rest of the world is going crazy.
When we settle, or sacrifice something we “need” for something we “want”, we often suffer, simply because we are not following the guidance of own intuition.
The bottom line in all of this, is “who are you”? What makes “you” happy, what gives “your” life fulfillment, and how important is this for “you” to experience life’s fullness?
This is not a time to look at your husband, he is showing you what you don’t want. Look to yourself, “what do you want”? Or what you want-DO!!!
My blessings to you Nina.
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Jan 31, 2016 @ 20:21:50
Thank-you Christopher for that wonderful insight. Can I ask you, where can I learn how to use this kundalini experience for my Spiritual Growth so I can reach my full potential? are there books you would recommend or is this all about Direct Experience and figuring it out as I go along?
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Feb 01, 2016 @ 01:08:44
Nina, you can Google kundalini serpent power, and there are many wonderful books on the subject. Personally I don’t have any, my spiritual guardians are very close, and they are my book.
Kundalini energy is your personal life force energy waking up, and as it spirals up through the body it awakens and energizes the chakras.
Spiritual wisdom speaks with simple truths, so look for books on both the kundalini and the chakras that are explained in simple terms. Don’t pick a book that implies dark energy, because it’s serpent energy does not make it dark energy. I wish I could be more helpful.
Blessings…
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Feb 01, 2016 @ 05:16:54
Nina, perhaps that’s what I will do, create a Page called The Book Shelf. Offering suggested books on all these topics that people like yourself can use as a point of reference. Check back in a bit.
Blessings…
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Jun 10, 2016 @ 01:47:24
Hi, I am still puzzling over an experience I had several years ago. Back then my partner and I were involved with another couple and on one occasion during sex with the other lady I seem to have initiated a deep and profound mind & body fusion experience between us when we climaxed.
We were face to face in the missionary position and the room was totally dark. I put my forehead to hers and just ‘opened up’ I suppose. There were no drugs involved. Thinking about it later I recall that I consciously embraced and entered her consciousness just before climax and the result was that we had a total sharing of mind and body sensations. We felt like we could feel each others sensations and orgasms, like our groins, genitals, lower bodies, and minds, were one and the same.
She asked me a week later how did I do that ‘thing’ so we tried it again but it wasnt quite to the same level, perhaps we were a bit apprehensive? I dont know. I have only had sex with about 4 women through my life but she was more experienced but had never had that sort of experience, or anything remotely like it.
I would be interested to know how others would define this experience so I can learn a bit more. I am going through a period of self exploration as I have known for many years that I have some sort of latent abilities but have been a bit scared of using it, sort of in denial I guess.
thanks.
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Sep 28, 2016 @ 14:47:45
So many people come to me with this kind of question, because they have had a similar experience. So this is what you want to hear different from truth: You became present; as fully conscious into the room. When you are in your higher-self, “that” which governs your good-will. Then anyone who experiences you in that moment, has a profound experience.
Everyone has this ability, not everyone has this practice.
Blessings…
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Sep 29, 2016 @ 03:30:19
If you want to exchange webpage links please by all means set up your own site for such activity.
Blessings…
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Feb 12, 2017 @ 15:37:50
Reblogged this on Earth Star Love and commented:
Since I work with bodily energy and spiritual energy, here is an article that is absolutely informative to me, and sharing this may help others become informed as well. Plus, this is an interesting read for those who are interested. 💗
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Feb 14, 2017 @ 15:22:40
Truly Interesting article ,Thanks & May God Bless.
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Mar 10, 2017 @ 21:22:25
What are your thoughts on sex before marriage?
Do you believe in soul ties and the importance of not creating them outside of the context of marriage?
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Mar 10, 2017 @ 21:59:41
Steve, can you be a little more specific on what you mean by “soul ties”?
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Mar 11, 2017 @ 02:08:10
A soul tie is like a linkage in the soul realm between two people. It links their souls together, which can bring fourth both beneficial results or negative results.
The positive effect of a soul tie: In a godly marriage, God links the two together and the Bible tells us that they become one flesh. As a result of them becoming one flesh, it binds them together and they will cleave onto one another in a unique way. The purpose of this cleaving is to build a very healthy, strong and close relationship between a man and a woman.
The negative effect of a soul tie: Soul ties can also be used for the devil’s advantage. Soul ties formed from sex outside of marriage causes a person to become defiled:
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Mar 11, 2017 @ 15:31:19
As I read through your comment here Steve, it comes abundantly clear that you are already firmly set in your beliefs about sex and marriage. The message between the lines reads that you want to pick a fight with me, to which I have no intention. When you’re belief system is as strong about this as you clearly are, it is inherently dangerous to talk to someone who you know will think different. Furthermore, in the post above I answer this question with clear intention.
Blessings be with you Steve.
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Mar 11, 2017 @ 18:25:14
Hi Chris,
My intention is not to provoke or pick a fight with you. I am very open to your perspective. I read the entire blog and found the content to be quite informative and relatable. I found the definition of a soul tie on google. It is not my definition, however, I do believe it is accurate. My ex-girlfriend recently broke up with me after a seven-month relationship. We were trying to wait for marriage but it didn’t happen that way. We slept together a few times during the relationship but I always felt a sense of guilt due to my religious beliefs. She was sexually frustrated and she expressed this in anger and resentment towards me. In the end, she broke up with me in a very dramatic way. I guess my question is do you think sex creates a stronger bond (soul tie) in the relationship and if it isn’t frequent enough is it easier for a partner to walk away? Do you think sexual frustration can be channeled through anger and resentment towards a partner, hence the reason she broke up with me?
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Mar 11, 2017 @ 23:02:36
Sex is the emotional (trust) nurturing part in a relationship, without it there is the deep grief of the separation from emotional security. Without sex how would you create that warm blanket of emotional security? And remember, the woman is the representation of the language of emotion. So how would you fill that need for her, and to a woman the words of a man are empty, she’s looking for action. Which sadly fewer and fewer men are able to comfortably perform.
I would strongly suggest that for your next relationship, you be honest with her about what your religious beliefs are, as in what exactly that means for you,
and that also you purpose marriage within the fourth month of dating or end the relationship. If you’re withholding sex because of your beliefs and not purposing marriage, then you can expect the rage of her sexual frustration. And your resentment for having sex should tell you that you need to redesign the relationship (as in purposing marriage or step out), because you have clearly crossed your spiritual boundaries. Not honoring your boundaries often creates incredible chaos in relationships. For her, not having sex crossed her boundaries around emotional security, and look at that chaos it created.
Blessings…
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Apr 06, 2017 @ 07:51:10
hi chris,
i am a gay man and i had to marry a girl due to all social pressure . i like her as a person as a friend , but the sex is never satisfying for either of us, though she never complains about it, probably she has accepted it the way it is,
i do sleep with random guys , as a release which happens once a month kinds .but every time it happens it takes away my energies , i have started feeling that lately .
can u tell me how do i balance this . i have started feeling pretty frustrated and i want something so that i can keep my and her energy in harmony,
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Apr 06, 2017 @ 14:27:40
Losing your energy can be one of two things: 1) It’s showing you what you need to relax, then when you wake up you’ll be refreshed and renewed. 2) If sex gives you energy with one partner and not the other, then it’s showing you a crossroads where you can either accept what’s going on and find ways to enhance it, or follow what feels good.
To enhance any sexual encounter comes from inside you, in other words, when you feel happy and whole within your own being, then you have more to share. Being gay maybe your orientation, however who you are is SO much more. So when you’re in that balanced place within yourself, then they receive your shine which is equally powerful with either sex.
With her: what will enhance a woman’s experience is to kiss and touch with words of affection those places that she feels is ugly. Actually this will work on anyone.
If you practice the “deliberate bonding technique” as described at the top of this page, and you are NOT interested in actually bonding with them, they will feel it and know it. However it’s another wonderful way to enhance any sexual relationship.
Out of all this my only question is: does she know that you are stepping out for that “once a month”?
Blessings…
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Apr 12, 2017 @ 08:05:54
thank u so much for a reply ,
she has a hunch about it but she is in denial .
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Apr 12, 2017 @ 12:55:17
Each person has a different level of appropriateness around the idea of sharing their partner with another person. Not knowing it, then discovering it for herself maybe quite devastating for her. Or very different for her if you shared as if you were discovering for yourself for the first time.
Or bring up in casual conversation about people who have more than one partner, and through this conversation “keep things in the hypothetical zone”. Just to find out where she’s at. Most people can be quite gentle in their approach when they grow to understand something like this. I would however suggest that you keep to yourself your “once a month” thing. Sharing that out-of-the-blue as it where, creates more confusion and chaos then it’s worth. Read Cave of Darkness.
Very different when growing into the idea of it over time through discussion. I guess it all pins on how much you care for her.
Be safe, be well.
My blessings to you.
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Dec 11, 2017 @ 16:07:12
what if you have sex with a boy but he doesnt want nothing serious, but you fall for him but he doesnt fall for you and he lets you know this.. but you still like having sex with him, does that kill my energy? lowering my slefesteem? giving sex to a soul that is lost and stuck on negative thoughts, like alchol, drugs, sex, partys, does that affect me? i am opening my chakras, and i think i have opened muldara does this affect me in any way? is it like i have to start all over again? i need help! Please! thanks!
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Dec 11, 2017 @ 17:45:29
Brenda, if you have a practice of opening your chakras, while also having unsafe emotional sex with a hurt person, you are opening yourself up to a long list of pain. And it’s not his responsibility, it’s yours to manage. If you want to be happy, then look for someone who is also happy most of the time. People who drink a lot of alcohol are trying to hide from something in their lives that they don’t like.
Having sex with guys that are doing a lot of heavy drugs and alcohol, are guys that are unhappy, and confused about who they are and where they want to be in life. Having sex with these guys will pull you into that kind of environment. If you want a different kind of environment it’s up to you to hang out with different kinds of people.
When we connect with people through our stories of alcohol fueled experiences, then we are choosing to stay in that kind of environment. To shift gears into something different, choose to connect with people who are into chakra healing and opening, hang out with them, and stop talking about alcohol. Shift your thinking. Know that your friends will change, and find that place inside yourself where that is okay. This is a big step for you; a big deal – you have everything you need already inside of you to do this.
REMEMBER: all the blame and shame that your old friends will throw at you is their shit, non of it belongs to you. It is your light inside you that wants something better, and your old friends will try to put that light out. To protect your unique and precious self, sometimes we have to physically move away from them to give you space to shine, and give them space to be angry. I went to the extreme, and moved across the country without telling anyone. Still it took time (2 years) to shift away from telling those party fueled stories, and found something else to feed my life with. So be gentle with yourself. When ever you make a decision or choose to get involved with someone, every step you take ask yourself “does this inspire and energize me?” And by following the “yes” of that question you will keep yourself on that bright path. Even if you’re in a relationship with someone keep asking yourself that question, and follow it’s guidance.
My love and heart felt blessing to you Brenda, for this amazing life journey your on.
Read my other Posts… Boundaries and Personal Power, and Ego-less Relationship…
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Jan 09, 2018 @ 03:43:52
Your wrong about there not being telepathic sex, its real and unfortunately i’m in it right now. Unfortunate because it creates problems in real life, will not get into it. You cannot just break ties in any way..just like any relationship break up you have to move on, and not until you mentally move on and forget do the ties break..you cannot sheild yourself from the rape. It happens but you may not feel it. Telepathic sex takes two minds..you may be light brushing but until you focus on it it will not really feel like your being raped or having sex..you will just get horny or feelings down there. But its real..and I was never psychic, it just happens if you focus on the person with enough intention you can make them feel something down below..once they tune into you then they in turn will feel something..then you can play and thats how cords are formed, thicker and thicker until you full on communicate telepathically, sexually, and many other things..I do not recommend it because there is always one person who wants to quit and one who is not ready.. not good.
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Jan 09, 2018 @ 15:40:09
Donna, I don’t doubt that your experience is not real. I am aware of the fact that the terminology is not correct, that’s all. Telepathy comes from our “thinking” centers, and not our “feeling” centers. We cannot connect to someone physically through telepathy. We can get their attention through telepathy, however to touch their physical form we have to shift to something else like astral projection and or remote viewing to connect to the physical.
Blessings to you Donna.
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Jan 10, 2018 @ 02:34:13
You do sound like you know what you are talking about and I am not doubting that either.. but .. I am not remote viewing that I know of and I’m not astral projecting. I became connected with one person inparticular, I cannot do it with anyone else. NOt sure what created the whole thing..but..we can touch each other and make each other feel just about anything instantly with our minds. I can be sitting on my couch watching tv and do it. I do not have to be in a meditative state at all. Anything I create in my mind, wind, cold, heat, energy good or bad it is felt just as intended.. what do you call this. I think confusion comes by labeling things. You may not think its telepathy.. I call it that because Allie Theiss who is experienced in it wrote the book on it through her own years of experience..I only call it that due to her knowledge. If it can be labeled something else, i can accept that. But I read about remote viewing and do not think its that or the other thing you mentioned.. any other ideas let me know. It is becoming a pain. I do know if I can just stop obsessing over the person and he I. Then it will probably fade. I’m really curious to know more so if you have any other ideas let me know.
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Jan 10, 2018 @ 15:11:56
Donna, what do you mean by ” anything I create in my mind wind, cold or heat…”?
Blessings
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Jan 10, 2018 @ 17:30:22
Whatever I think about.. like the sex..same thing..if I imagine it, he can feel it. Most of the time. His attention has to be there most of the time or may not feel it but a light brush. I can make him hot or cold just by imagining it happening. He does the same to me. Also any emotions I have. If i cry or get depressed or even get goose bumps, he feels it and vice versa.. I figure this is something he created as it did start with him and it was very minor but when I started to tune in it got stronger and stronger and I was able to send him it all back. I have never been psychic although I have been able to heal animals in the past but I believe everyone has that ability they just need to focus. I just want to know what is going on with me. I read a lot and cannot find anyone with this type of connection. Its not just what Allie Theiss writes about which is telepathic sex. Its so much more than that. The connection cannot be broken easily. I have tried all recommened things except a ‘break ties spell’ which I may be doing soon. But there is a chance it will get better and I have hopes. But if i knew what this was I could better deal with it. I try to send other people energy to help them but he feels it instead. Playing around i tried to tap someone else ‘my friend’ on the shoulder to see if I could do it with others but he felt it even though I was thinking of her. I just picture our cord connection is so thick. I do not know him very well so i cannot say if he is into white magic or the occult who knows..he isn’t very nice to me these days so its hard for me to get any info from his end. I had a nice calm normal life prior to this and I just want it back.
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Jan 11, 2018 @ 02:45:37
Donna, I sat down and tuned in, and you dear one are wakening to the strength and awareness of your god-self. Some of us have had past lives devoted to different healing modalities, or lifetimes in realms that provide practice of creation.
What will get you out and away from this guy is the practice of boundaries (page), which is really discussed on ego-less relationships (post). Your so-called “break ties spell” may rebound back to you in ways that may not be a good thing. So picture closing a door that keeps him on the other side of it, and every time he shows up, “close that door”. He is abusing his god-gifts by taking from you without permission, and by this he is creating intense karma for himself. So if you want your life back, you will need to have a practice of keeping people like him on the outside of that door. This guy wants this connection with you for his own instant self gratification; you’re his toy.
Throughout my life I’ve always had a connection with god. It’s not about the church or any traditional method, it’s my own personal way that I do it, and this connection has given my abilities purpose. As in knowing which is good or bad, and by putting my trust in his love my gifts have grown a 1000 fold. Because in truth your god-gift when expressed in a positive way becomes a co-creation between you and Spirit / God / Spiritual Guardians… Your abilities are unique to you, so in finding a description for this is your “god-gift”, and in time you will learn how to better use it. Right now you are learning how to protect yourself, and NOT by turning it back on him. For when you do this you become no better than him! Just keep on with the practice of closing that door. If you want to continue to practice sending thoughts, then work with animals, they are very susceptible to thought impressions.
And this gift of yours, is by no means an obligation to be given freely to others.
My gratitude and blessings to you Donna.
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Jan 11, 2018 @ 17:48:30
Thank you for your insight and I will check out the lists you mentioned. Not sure I am wondering if the videos on Youtube about opening your third eye and clearing all your chalkras had anything to do with this happening. As it just never happened before with anyone. It may be a sign for me to some day do distant healings on people and animals. I always wanted to but doubting my abilities although I do believe I have helped my own animals I have doubts about others due to the emotional part involved. Until I am either with this guy or we break our link I probably will not be able to practice this. The boundary thing you mentioned I have tried but will keep trying. I have found a few things that work but I doesn’t work on the energy only the body parts(energy body parts that is).. well thank you again..blessings to you as well.
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Feb 10, 2018 @ 00:54:46
Great read !!!
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Feb 12, 2018 @ 10:40:55
Wow what a beautiful article about energy, you have good knowledge and wisdom.
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Jun 15, 2018 @ 01:41:13
But…I can only orgasm through clitoral self-manipulation and can finish with anyone around me… 😶
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Jun 15, 2018 @ 02:42:21
Yes. However my point was that your partner learn this about you. So during foreplay, he uses that to get your motor started.
When couples learning these little details about each other they can be more spontaneous, instead of going through that uncomfortable guessing game.
My blessings to you…
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Jul 26, 2018 @ 15:19:08
earthconnections.. what kind of energy is when holding some I in love with and suddenly it feels like our heads were lifted up a suuss the energy come from above really heavily feeling
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Jul 26, 2018 @ 23:43:23
I’m sorry annelise, I’m not understanding the question.
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Jul 28, 2018 @ 03:14:38
I don’t like how you see animals…..they do have souls…plants, trees, crystals, our cells even our planets have a consciousness..Animals are very wise and intelligent but reading that part makes it seem you don’t really understand or you underestimate them….as you see them from a biological perspectivd and not from a soul/heart centered perspective.I had a animal psychic who communicated with my male budgie just to see what he wanted or how I could make him happy, and she said that he wants me to get him a female, he said that he felt lonely and wanted companionship.
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Jul 29, 2018 @ 02:57:36
Yes Julie you’re right. Turns out my answer is partly right, however it’s not the whole picture. Animals do have soul, yet it’s very different from us. Animals come from pure god energy consciousness, and completely in the present moment. Which allows them to act out loyalties that we can only dream of.
Animals are here to teach us the actions of compassion, and the behaviors of animals reflects back to us our own insecure emotional madness.
An animal like a dog will take on the stress and insecurities of it’s owner, and take it on as a disease.
They are such amazing creatures, and we are still so far from understanding them fully.
Blessings.
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Aug 25, 2018 @ 01:38:15
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Sep 08, 2018 @ 10:39:09
Wonderful stuff! Learned a lot by reading it.
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Jul 10, 2019 @ 20:59:07
Loved it.I love the details, detailed answers,the choice of words.Everything.
I have no idea if this comment will be seen n answered to.I have a question. About some being spiritual people,connecting n experiencing n others channeling,understanding,expressing,explaining the experience…I do fit the second,channeling option.Seing the auric field,light,etc,some things I come across I never experienced them.Can one be both? I see as the one experiencing has more facility in also channelling or so it makes sense.But can a channel also experience? Is there anything one can do for that to be possible?😊😅I’m a wannabe everything😁
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Jul 18, 2019 @ 18:31:51
Yes! We can have many talents, they will often be grouped. Like for me I work with environments: the environments of relationships, of healing old mining/oil sites, transforming and releasing negativity from businesses and personal spaces, and/or bringing new influences into these places, ect.
There are places around the country in which one can attend classes, like from https://www.barbarabrennan.com/
Talents that have the real juice of magic in them, or what I like to call God Gifts come from intense inner work and healing; transforming inner discord into clarity, compassion and inner light.
My blessings to you Gabriela.
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