chris&standing stones001In relationships there’s no magic pill, no X marks the spot, and no secret pass word to make a relationship automatically work smoothly. Earth is a classroom, and it’s up to you to “want to” pay attention, do your inner work enough to learn and overcome the lessons, and pass the class into becoming the best person possible for yourself and your partner.

On this page I share many of my “lose ends” that didn’t find their way into the many Posts on relationships throughout this site. Take in what you can, and if it’s over your head… Just let that one go. And enjoy.

Relationships are always about two people, and the relationship describes the part of that gentle dance that works. The part of the relation that doesn’t work is not a “relationship”, it’s the ego’s dysfunction, and this we can change, heal, and grow beyond.
All good relationships are ones that ask us for inner self discipline, a willingness to change, and or dare to be different. Discovering where you think your limitations are, then discovering where your limitations really are, and even then when we’re dealing with real love/trust those walls are just another illusion.

* When working on relationships, the one thing to be mindful of is where we create separation. Because once we understand where the mess is, then we know where the healing needs to be, and as partners… Keep talking. Cheating happens faster when we stop talking, so keep that line of communication open. Dare to say what’s on your mind, like you once did when you were friends.

* “If we want designed results from life, it requires us to participate in becoming the balance we are asking for”. Because likes DO attract. When they say opposites attract, what they are looking at are all those things in life that we “do” that are similar. Very different from the emotional status we are currently experiencing. What ever emotional status our life is expressing will be exactly what we attract!!! So, when you are ready to find your lover, take some time to also confront your inner dragons, and get into a good emotional space. As in learning to “process” anger and hurt in a way that creates a more harmonious outcome, and we will attract someone with a similar method of processing.

* Romance is a chemistry explosion that gives us the euphoria of passionate love when in fact it’s really lust, and after a few months of that it shifts into compassionate love and partnership. Most relationships either can’t get past this shift, or die trying to get back to that hot steamy romance.
Everything changes, everything is on it’s way to some place. Real trustworthy love springs from partnership… If you have courage for the adventure.
In partnership is where we discover staying power, because staying power comes from “that” trust that has no jealousy. The very act of jealousy shows NO staying power.
** Staying Power… That which bonds us to the relationship.

* “Traditional relationships demand that the other person knows exactly what it is that is needed for the growth and nourishment, without anything ever being said out-loud”. Yet when you want something outside those traditional lines, you end up being the one that has to be responsible. If I want different results in myself or in a relationship, I know I have to be different to get something different. I can’t behave the same way and get different results.
From my growth and understanding I find: traditional relationships to be destructive, because it supports the victim. What we call “the old ball and chain” in marriage is an attitude that’s all about our victim-hood. The opposite of acting out your empowerment. Or when ever we use our spouse or partner as a reason why we can’t do something, we are speaking from the victim, and not from a place of personal empowerment.
When we grow out of the victim, finding a new partner who has a better understanding of empowerment can be an adventure, because SO much of our culture thrives on the victim.
However with determination and dedication to that someone special we can move beyond all that, and grow into something supportive and ultimately empowering.

There are different schools and teachings that lead one to truth and growth:
* The school of obedience is the most appropriate for Baby Souls.
* The school of “hard knocks” is the most appropriate for Young Souls.
* The school of intellectual pursuit and non-identification is the most appropriate for Mature Souls.
* The school of love is always appropriate and the only school consistently attractive to Old Souls”. –*The Michael Teachings* (book)

* When wanting to understand relationships it also helps to understand that men and women are complete opposites, and to fully grasp the intensity of what that means. Instead of fighting this, and trying to make them more like us… Embrace the differences, and let those pieces become the strength in the relationship.

* The focus of young women is that they’re giving their attention to the relationship, to him, and to the family. Meanwhile, young men are all about themselves; adventures in self-discovery.
The focus of older women shift their attention away from him and the family, and bring their focus in on their own self-discovery; self-ministry. Meanwhile, older men are settling down, and their focus is turned to the needs for her and family.

* Women carry the emotional issues in a relationship. Women provide emotional nurturing, because she’s an information gatherer about the emotional status of her environment.
Men carry the physical issues in a relationship. Men provide and protect physically.
She is the architect, and he is the builder.
She is the vehicle, and he is the motor.
* The feminine is here to experience beauty, and the masculine is here to experience accomplishments. The truth is every person carries within them both properties of masculine and feminine. Of course in different percentages.
* Women are the encyclopedia of emotions, and if she hasn’t quite figured it out… She will, if she hasn’t already. Men have all the knowledge of how the world works. So the feminine has a tendency to protect him in the world of emotion, and the masculine protects her in the physical world. Both are equally an amazing service to each other.

* Women tend to fall in love with the potential of a man, instead of acknowledging the facts that stands before them. (This comes from “I see you“.)

* What women need most is for men to be present; giving her his intimate attention through her love language or her spiritual language or, and not because he wants sex. Because he also wants “that” from her.

* Men/boys who insist that women care for them hand and foot; cook, clean, raise the kids, and even bring home the pay check… Are men with no fire.
Men who open doors both physically and metaphysically, do all the lifting… Provide loving support for her creative well being consistently all the way through her life, are men connected to their healthy sacred masculine fire.
Sacred Masculine   Sacred Feminine
Logic                           Intuition
Reason                        Nurturing
Action                         Healing
Firm                            Gentle
Survival                      Expressive
Loyal                           Wise
Adventurous             Patient
Rational                     Emotional
Strength                     Flexible

* Physical violence in any relationship/marriage breaks trust and creates fear in he/she. Once it occurs, the path to renewed trust is slowed. Trust is the keystone to any functional relationship. Violence in a relationship is an expression of weakness, and the first time it happens you should exit without thought.

* You “made” the pencil draw. She did not “make” you do anything. You have Free Will, so no one makes you do anything, instead you allow. Then through emotional responsibility, and boundaries we separate the two.

* The moment you find yourself in an emotionally reactive hole… Stop digging!!! Before life becomes a real mess.

* My thoughts of physical violence provokes a rage within, one to which I don’t wish to confront. Yet through forgiveness, I find compassion.

* When a man does wrong by a woman, then wants her back. To have her he must apologize by explaining his wrong, then owning his responsibility by allowing his amends to alter the course of his life. “We can’t behave the same way, and get different results”. Women love a man who can grow from his mistakes, and not stay stuck in them. It takes a humble heart to see personal growth as a beacon of strength.
This goes both ways, as in owning his responsibility, or owning her responsibility.

* When a woman yields and opens herself sexually to her mate, her surrender must be taken as a sacred trust and respected as such.
Because reputations take years to build, and only seconds to destroy”.

* A woman should be supported in all ways. She should not be held back in any form. She should not only be seen as fit for domestic tasks. Some women are unfit for those tasks, they may be better suited for intellectual or spiritual work. However, it does not mean they should not be wives, a wife is not a servant.

A good husband should not abuse his wife/partner physically or mentally. He should take her feelings and interests into consideration at all times, always treating her with the utmost respect. Such a husband will gain the cooperation and affection that comes with a healthy and balanced relationship.
A husband who abuses and who is insensitive to her concerns and sentiments, will find a woman who resents him. His union will be unhappy, and he will find his sky falling.
So a man of wise intellect, an intelligent man will be sensitive and respectful to the needs of his wife. Their union will be a loving one, felt by all those around them.

* A good partner is someone who will help us through our darkest moments, and push us beyond our most challenging issues. This person provides support to grow into our greatest potential, and a byproduct of this kind of support has us ultimately grow tighter together as a couple.

* We are only limited by the depth of our imagination, and the access of our heart’s compassion.

* When a man relates to a woman with the intelligence that she understands, then he has the possibility of having a profound relationship with her. It’s when (he) acts stupid to an intelligent woman does she walk away in total disgust.

Marriage: is a best friend you want to be with All the time.
Through the dating process you both have supported each other in becoming the best of yourselves. Marriage is a milestone for a celebrated ritual that explains how the two of you are going to continue to support each other in the enrichment of your combined inner potential.

* A marriage comes in two parts: love; sharing that fun adventure, laughter and joy. And healing… Someone who shelters us from that North wind, so we can heal our woundedness.

* Some people are attracted to the lustful fire of romance, while others are more drawn to the partnership of relationships.
There are two kinds of people no matter what your relationship status is: some behave from “the married one”: in being settled and content, authentic, looking for ways to connect in deeper and more meaningful attitudes.
While others respond from “the bachelor”: always searching not quite satisfied, shying away from commitment on any level; a challenge with owning responsibilities, makes excuses why it can’t happen, embraces the short-term.
The bachelor will often over-lap relationships, where the married one will clearly end one before starting another.

Beyond that there are two other kinds of people: Those who aren’t “in love” with women or men, they are just interested in their sex; they’re just interested in intercourse. These people are pretty easy to spot, because they’re phony about being interested in who you are. They’re more interested in: “come over to my place, we’ll get to know each other”. They’re more interested in what’s in your pants, then starting off as friends and finding what’s in your heart.
It’s about learning how to read another person’s intentions.
And then there are those who are fascinated in who you are. They don’t care what you decide to do, they just want to be with you in your company, and where they see sex as a bonus.
* Do they own their emotional issues, or do they dump them onto you, and make you responsible for their unhappiness?
* How they deal with anger, and more importantly, how they “deal with you” while angry.
* In the area of sex, some people have a very crude understanding of the sensitivities that need to be shared in sexuality.
These are valid issues you want to be clear on, before saying “I do” on any level.

* Your partner is not here to make you happy, you are. You are in this relationship to learn how to navigate your own emotional tidal wave. The other person is ONLY here for the enjoyment of hanging out in your company. However what we’re looking for in that other person are deeper qualities like staying power, a good listening ear, a nurturing provider, support and encouragement, confidence and integrity, “that can do-want to do” energy about them…

* If you traveled to an exotic island, looking for love, you’re not going to find it unless you already have it in you. Love and happiness doesn’t happen to us, it happens from us.

* A good partner is one who helps us in our heart’s healing; one who has the patience to be a guiding light, for us to find our way through our darkest times.

* If you want to be successful at this Earth thing, then learn to turn off the noise, and access the world through your heart. And anyone who tells you that the heart is evil, is telling you how the world works through their own emotional experience“; through their own hardship; their woundedness.

* If he is out chasing adventures with his friends, and only comes home for what seems like a visit. Then that is not love.
If he wants you to stand steady for him while he heals, yet still doesn’t understand what it is that you need. Then that is not love.
When you know what your needs are, then you’ll know what kind of love to look for, and the best person to invest your most precious energy in.

* Whatever you did to win her heart, to keep her, you have to keep doing “that”. Plans and Promises 

What does it mean to “hold space” for someone else?
It means that we are willing to walk alongside another person in whatever journey they’re on without judging them, making them feel inadequate, trying to fix them, or trying to impact the outcome. When we hold space for other people, we open our hearts, offer unconditional support, and let go of judgement and control.
Holding space is just like having faith in someone, there’s no action required.

* Emotions:
Strength is not about holding back emotions. Strength is about feeling good enough about yourself, as to not be governed by others in what they think when it comes to your emotions.

* Givers are attracted to Takers, as in the Giver needs someone to give to, because Givers aren’t very good at receiving, Takers are. What gives balance to that continuous out-pouring to someone who’s not in the habit of giving back, is the Givers personal activities of self-love.
“A relationship between two Givers can thrive, when a conscious attention is given to the joys of receiving”.

* Most people really don’t know themselves, so they’re not plugged into being able to name their needs moment by moment. The emotional holes that we have in ourselves, are ones that can ONLY be healed or filled by ourselves.
Most (not all) women have a hidden imprint fantasy from childhood, of the man fulfilling each and every need that they may have. This has been handed down generation to generation, mother to daughter, and distorted from fantasy. This belief system creates incredible chaos in relationships, because it in itself creates non-breathable space between partners, and happens from our projected expectations. Healthy boundaries will bring in that balance, especially for him.
Women that are able to know just what it is they need moment by moment, and can ask for it by name are keepers for men that can also do the same. This knowledge that is an active ingredient for both partners, creates a relationship of bountiful blessings. Because it gives the relationship direction, and takes out all that expectation, and that guessing game of what they think they need. As in the ways we say “I love you“.

Package vs personality: when I meet someone for the first time, my heart seeks to connect with the quality of who they are… The person behind the mask, then I connect with the physical. Someones looks will change over time, yet the inner self is more consistent, and in fact gets better over time.

I Get It:
* In a relationship, the stronger the physical attraction is, the stronger the karmic lesson will be. The physical attraction [chemistry] was designed by God to keep us with that person, so they could help us push through our darkest issues. Because if I truly knew of the pain I’d go through with this person, then I’d run from the room screaming!!! Yet the strong physical attraction holds me steady, so the lesson can unfold.
Can A Karmic Relationship Work

* If you want a man/woman of quality, become a person of quality. If you want a loving mate, be in a loving place in your emotional life. And of course use your discernment, just because you’re in a good emotional place, doesn’t mean the first one to come along is the right one. Choose wisely.

* women are turned on by a guy’s integrity; his can-do, want-to-do energy about him. His leadership skills; a man who understands the clarity of a balanced Alfa approach in his relating.

* If you’re in a committed relationship or marriage and you have an affair without the consent of your spouse, karma is created; spiritual debt… If I have sex with Lisa who is married to Nick, I create karma with not only Nick and Lisa separately, I create it with myself as well. The debt paid may come in a variety of forms, and Not always a good thing.
When you’re the one who’s been cheated on, even if you resolve the issue through communication, these emotional feelings can burn for a long time in the unkempt corners of our spiritual psyche, and can come boiling up latter. When one betrays our trust in this way, it shakes us to the core. So much so that, that shock wave shatters our spiritual psyche. Most people will say that they forgive and in time that may be the case, however, it takes a LOT of inner emotional work, healing and growth to overcome this event. If we pay attention to the way we use our words, and how we react when our emotions get stretched, it will show itself and give us a path to follow in the healing. If unresolved, this emotional energy Will seek an expression, and often times manifest in the body. A heart attack is unresolved emotional issues dealing with heartbreak. So take time in between relationships to process all the experiences.

The weight of a vow registers in our spiritual psyche in a similar reflection that the Divine is absolute; that our spouse is absolute [I absolutely trust my spouse in a similar fashion that I absolutely trust God] . So when we get shaken to the core, this is what’s being affected, and this is why we fail. Because relationships are unpredictable, and only God is absolute.
It’s a dysfunctional ego that wants to make this act okay. Everything that creates disharmony anywhere is caused by the ego. And the way back for either side is simple, “what am I going to do today that is positively different from yesterday”, everyday. The Cave of Darkness
Attraction starts from what is seen and heard, and that triggers the chemistry in our bodies that give us the feelings of attraction. For most people, when the attraction is mutual between two people, often they feel they have no control, and must have. This is largely a byproduct of not learning the navigation of emotions. And I realize not everyone is here for that experience.
Real love is spiritual love, something that is far beyond control… Something we tenderly call trust, and trust is the absence of jealousy.

When couples are trying to get back together, and she is angry with what she needs that he is not giving. If he doesn’t see that it is “that”, that he needs to learn to give, then the relationship has no chance of reconnecting. This goes both ways; for him as it is for her. It’s like picking up right where you both left off, with these same issues that had you part ways in the first place.

To love with balance
* Puppy-love or that hot steamy magnetism and chemistry brings us together in a very strong and powerful way. The intensity of this connection creates an environment in which we want to be together ALL the time, share everything ALL at once, and feel the excitement that this one person will fill ALL your needs. This is what the intensity of romantic love blinds us with, and if we want a balanced, healthy and meaningful relationship, we will find paying attention has its rewards. So all that “together time”, and all that “shared experiences”, and all “your needs from them”,  ALL that is coming from the extreme of up-close and personal. To bring meaning into a meaningful relationship, is acting from clarity with the balance of time together, and time apart. Shared experiences with your spouse, and shared experiences with your friends. And not ALL needs are met by your spouse/partner, some are met by friends and some by outside activities.
Couples that have very successful relationships understand this. He has his bedroom and she has her bedroom. He has a shop for his creations, and she has her studio where she can be creative. A hot tub for ladies night in, and a movie room for guy’s night in. Having a desire for depth in relationships, sometimes means creating the environment that supports it. Because too much face-time can burn a connection.

The dating game
* It’s a game people play, mostly men. Women don’t date, the moment she gives up a way for him to contact her, the relationship has then started for her. Internet dating was a concept that was created by men, it was a way for people in cities to meet, now it’s a way for people to have sex with multiple partners without real commitment.
If dating is a sensitive subject for you this may help. If your plugged in and paying attention to your intuition or gut feeling, you’ll Know the outcome shortly after meeting them. The “key” is to follow and act on those feelings. If not you will most likely land in a pile of it.
How eager is he to get into your heart? Or is it your pants he wants to get into? Does she pay attention to the quality of who you are and your history, or does she Always want something from you?
Paying attention to Red Flags [something that doesn’t feel quite right], and feeling deserving of something wonderful is the key. Feeling deserving and setting our standards around that, brings in a higher quality. “God brings to you a mate, of the value that you feel for yourself”.
Not wanting to rock the boat comes from that fear of losing them, when in truth we do want to rock the boat just enough to see if they are the one. Because the right “one” will stand firm, and the wrong one will run. If you’re serious about finding the right one, you have to be willing to ask the tough questions.
How they exit from their last relationship, is the quality of relationship your going to have with them. So you’re on your first date, and you’re sharing your story, casually ask them “how did you leave him/her”? And you will know the quality of relationship they know how to give. Did they just walk out, was there a lot of resentment expressed, or were they able to express their deep gratitude in all that was shared. Set your standards and stick firm to those principles, until the person that respects those principles comes along.
Sex is a bonding agent; the Velcro experience, it’s how the emotions get invested. It’s when we choose to think with our intuition instead of our chemistry, that creates the clarity and balance in our experiences.

A lesson I learned a while ago and happy to share it with you…
When I lose myself in a relationship; when I put the other person ahead of myself so-much-so that I forget who I am and what my dreams where, and she becomes the reason for everything I do. I’ve then given to her a sacred part of myself. The tearing in a heartbreak, is when she is walking away with that part of myself.
To avoid this gut-wrenching experience, I strongly urge you to support the wholeness within yourself [wholeness; self-love, self-loyalty, following one’s own interests, having healthy boundaries, being a complete person first – then coming together], while also connecting to both her passions and yours. So by keeping whole [complete] in yourself, there’s not much to be ripped away. The ripping feeling in a break-up, is us responding from fear and believing in the ego, “that there is separation”. When we listen to the Spirit and stay connected to responding through love, we find there is NO separation [love doesn’t experience separation, what has changed are the conditions of the relationship], and a more gentle release from that person.
Here’s another way to look at it: You have a job and bank account, he has a job and bank account, and separately you have a joint account together. Your account is for your self-love, self-trust, his account is for his self-love, self-trust and your joint account is for the overflow of love that you share. So if and when the relationship comes apart, you’re not reduced to total rubble, because your account is still full. Being whole within yourself first; your self-loyalty comes first, and when your self-love over flows then come together as a couple. Practicing boundaries is a wonderful way to bring healthy balance to any relationship. It’s also an ingredient by which finding wholeness is exciting. Having healthy boundaries and being whole within yourself first, you don’t get knocked off-balance by your partner’s issues, so when he crashes emotionally, he won’t take you with him, and you can better connect to that which resolves the issue.

* People who are abusive in relationships are ones who haven’t figured out how to navigate their ego’s emotions, and in truth you can’t change them, this is their threshold to cross. What they will discover in their own healing and in themselves, is that the gentle layers of trust is more powerful than the hard edges of control.

“In any case, just know that everything they do or say is all about them. Demands upon you are simply their need for change in themselves. So don’t take anything personally as they figure themselves out”. And if they really want to take it out on you, then give them physical space. This is their threshold to cross, and your responsibility is to stay in focus with following your happiness. Can A Karmic Relationship Work?

* A lot of people say we don’t have a choice in who we fall in love with. I say it is the power of your Will to follow the course of your own heart. Lack of will-power is just lack of personal responsibility. That’s why we make the other person responsible for our happiness or unhappiness, because we lack the will-power to do so for ourselves.

So you chose to marry a man who doesn’t understand you very well, and you thought that over time he would learn to see you the way you see yourself.
One of the points I express on this site in the arena of relationships, is if he doesn’t see and understand you in the beginning within the first 3 dates, then it’s not in him to understand you in this light. This has to do with his personal development and personal growth. You have already flowered and are now flourishing, he is still in the bud, and I’m sorry to say you can’t force him to catch up. So either accept them for where they are, or go find someone who is already at your level of clarity.

* Most people today are reactive in relationships, instead of being active in finding a meaningful relationship. They fall in love, then when the relationship takes a turn that is unfavorable, they react… In frustration, in anger and in guilt.
Being active in relationships, is taking the time to find the person that has the qualities that are “right, true and important to you”. And not saying yes until they come into alignment with you.

* Trust: is the ability to say what hurts you, what concerns you, or what just needs to be said without the fear that they may leave you.

* It helps to have a partner who doesn’t have us up on a pedestal, where we can do no wrong, and instead one who can see our indifference and call us on our shit. The kind of guidance that helps us grow into our potential.

* Unfortunately most people who seek change in their relationships, seek it outside themselves. Hoping life will change without them ever having to Do anything about it [not being responsible with your part of the conflict]. All changes that create balance in a relationship, comes from within the self. Being responsible and looking into the mirror at one’s self for the answers can be difficult, however, believe it or not, it is the short-cut. In other words, in a conflict, the only person you can change… Is yourself. And if that is not enough, step away from the person and out of the situation… ASAP.

* If you want a relationship that’s deeper than a puddle, you’ll need the courage to venture into those dark corners and challenge those old ways of thinking… You’ll need to challenge the way you see the world. If you want to play it safe, then you will continue to have the quality relationships you’ve been having.
When you say “it’s rude to ask such things before a certain point”, who’s rules are you referring to, are you referring to those who are deeply wounded? Are you looking to continue to have relationships with those people!? Or are you ready to think outside of that box? To change the quality you want, you will have to believe that you deserve more. And once you create such trust within yourself, you will not only have the courage, you will have the integrity to ask any question of any person at any time.
You deserve the very best life has to offer, and the sooner you grasp this the sooner your life will fly. Empowerment only happens by choice. Daring to peer over the wall, and observing people living in empowerment. By experiencing empowerment we at that point know the difference, and at that point have crossed over… To which there’s no returning.

* The term sacrifice is a man-made idea, God’s intention is that no one should at any time sacrifice anything ever.

* When we love ourselves more than another person can, we learn our value, and that value becomes the standard by which all following relationships are navigated. [It’s not about self-righteousness, it’s about bringing in a prospective of personal balance.]

* The first thing we should be looking for in a possible relationship is, do they speak our spiritual language? Because as of now, the most of us do the mating dance backwards. We make sure everything else is in place first like sex, money, family, and when that all lines up perfectly the last to come along is… “Do they speak my spiritual language”? (Spiritual language that may not have anything to do with what church you go to.) And if for any reason that doesn’t line up, it is always a deal-breaker. So why not turn it around, and look for the spiritual part first. Because when we share our daily experiences with our lover, we do so using our spiritual language, and there’s no greater feeling to look at your lover, and know that they “get” you [completely understand you].
This may not seem very important when your young, however, when we get older and settle into those “more refined details of life”, it may become a valid issue.
* It’s amazing how one decision ripples into another…

Love is friendship a-blaze.

The five flirting styles, by Jeffrey Hall
* Physical flirting involves the expression of sexual interest through body language. People who scored high in this form of flirting often develop relationships quickly and have more sexual chemistry with their partners.
* The polite style of flirting focuses on proper manners and non-sexual communication. While polite flirts are less likely to come on to a potential partner and generally do not find flirting flattering, they tend to have longer, more meaningful romantic relationships.
* People with the playful flirting style flirt with little interest in romance. Flirting is fun and a boost to their self-esteem. They flirt for its own sake – no romantic strings attached.
* Sincere flirting involves creating an intense emotional connection and communicating sincere interest. Sincere flirts have meaningful romantic relationships that put emotional connection first and sexual chemistry second.
* Traditional flirts believe men should make the first move and women should not pursue men. By taking a more passive role in dating, women with this style are likely to report trouble getting men’s attention and are less likely to be direct. Likewise, traditional men often know a potential partner for a longer time before approaching them.

The Five Languages of Love, by Gary Chapman
* Acts of Service… Doing chores, running errands, or fixing her car, building flowerbeds, doing something special just for them.
* Quality Time… Special, set aside time. A night out on the town, a weekend without the kids…
* Words of Affirmation… Saying loving and encouraging things, saying “I love you” often. Constant reassurance and compliments.
* Physical Touch…  Holding hands or giving massages. Anything that would be as a loving, healing touch.
* Gifts… Bringing flowers, something special just for them, and just for the sake of giving.

* Being able to speak your partner’s love language needs to be something that comes easily to you, because if it doesn’t it will become a loud deal breaker, and the only reason the relationship flies apart.
It takes amazing trust with great understanding and gentle clarity to find ways to fill those needs elsewhere, and keep the original relationship in tacked. It can be done with a LOT of gentle and clear communication with your partner/spouse. Either that or simply step out.

For more in depth information check out Alison Armstrong’s work on “Relationships”, go to at the top her Home page in the menu bar click on Free Stuff. This is best done with your partner, so you can stop the video and have a discussion about it’s topic.

May love’s bountiful bliss be along the path you follow.

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