Love, to me is…


“Love”, to me is not hard work. It is where I have done the inner work of disengaging with the ego, and from that void bubbles up the joy of love. Without ego, I find love has given me permission to flourish in my own potential, by the act of trust’s clear and precise boundaries. Beyond the stage of romance, love and trust become one, and not before then. Real love is sown together with trust in a way that you can’t tell them apart. And real trust is “that” without jealousy. Even when you’re angry with each other, you don’t loose that sense of being in love. This love has gifted to me the clarity of balance between time together and time apart, as well as the gift of honesty. No locks, no bars, and no holes for miss communications.

True Love


True Love is something in you to express, it’s earned by the practice of devotion. It doesn’t happen between two people, it happens within you and therefore it flows out of you.
Within the human heart is the god seed, which has multipal functions. Intuition is one; the knowing of love to be true. Then when you find another person who is as passionate about this as you are, then you have bliss.

If the love and fascination of the other person has the momentum to carry you beyond romance, then it has a profound chance of becoming love. Romance will last about nine months, then it transforms into partnership, and in partnership is where we find staying power.
If you can joyfully get beyond 4 years your chances are better than most for a long term relationship. Unfortunately most people see romance and chemistry as being complete compatibility, when in fact your compatibility happens when you can stay steady while the other person is showing their disagreeable side, as they will with you. If his anger is more than you can tolerate, than it would be said that you’re not compatible.
Everyone has a disagreeable side, and for some reason most people completely avoid it. When in fact that is what you want to see and experience before committing your life to them.

Take the time to “know thy self”. Know where your tolerances are, the quality of relationships you desire, and have the integrity to hold steady to what you want to accomplish in the course of your own life.

True love happens when we know, understand and honestly take responsibility for our own dysfunctional ego. Love is the polar opposite of ego. So if we are expressing love, and we call it true, it simply means we clearly understand that we are not expressing anything associated with ego. Ego is described on the Page Boundaries and Personal Power.


Valentine’s Day is “Romance on Demand”


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On Valentines day you would think that love’s expressions would be in abundance, and for some reason it’s not. Valentines has become a day of high expectations of receiving gifts not in the privacy of your home, yet out in the view of the public eye. It all started off simple as in a note of appreciation, something as simple as in a symbol of affection, and today it may take many hundreds of dollars to express that symbol. And this has become a one way street that men have to perform.
It’s men’s least favorite holiday of the year over all. Men by nature are very romantic beings. However, to be romantic we have to be given the space and freedom to be spontaneous in our own timely fashion. Valentines day is “romance on demand”, and when all the men in the world are doing the very same thing on that same day, how is it to be special?! If you communicate to your man that Valentines Day is important to you and why, and you give him the freedom of choosing what day of the year that falls on. You may be surprised at how much more creative he can be, or how the year fills up with lots of little Valentines.
Celebrate Valentines and Christmas every day of the year; become the essence those days teach, and learn your partners love language.

The secret thing women want from men, is they want a hero, and the secret thing men want to be for women… is a hero. This inner nature can only flow through spontaneity, nurture this natural flow. When we open up to the truth that is hidden behind the veil of secrets, we find common ground and deeper intimacy.
So as Valentines day draws near, drop the symbols of affection, and express the real thing.
{Thank you to Alison for your encouragements}

The Five Languages of Love
* Words of affirmation
* Acts of service
* Affection
* Quality time
* Gifts
Take the time to talk with your lover about your love-language, so they have a clear view of what tickles your happy bone.

There are so many places where we fight against who we are, and get less than perfect results. Where we think we know how the world works, yet we couldn’t be further from the truth.
This is one of them, where we’ve let our heads believe in something that only the heart knows the truth of.
Let the quiet waters of our heart’s inner stillness, speak the wisdom of our colorful direction, and create a smooth roadway along the mountainous landscape of your relationships.

My blessing to you… and may your Valentines be a daily experience.

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