Lost and Found

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As a woman is looking for a new partner, what she is looking for is a man that will fulfill every need, and heal every wound. And to her she believes he should already instinctively know that he is here to provide this.
This creates huge discord in relationships! Because 1) whether she likes it or not this is completely off his radar, and 2) she is being completely irresponsible with her hurt emotional needs… Conscious or unconscious. Men and women are SO incredibly different from each other, that when we come together that joining needs to be so very gentle.
This is something all women do that can be very subconscious. Younger women do this, however by the time they reach their 3rd part of their lives they’ve started to move away from this.
Men need to learn this about women, because this is 90 percent of the reason why at the end of relationships she is so mad that she is taking most of what he owns, and is shredding his character for all to see. All because she will never speak out loud of this. Women are incredibly secretive, even to themselves.

(I know I’m repeating myself) A healthy balanced relationship is one in which she or he is responsible by following their own happiness, and the other person is along for the fun. A hurtful wound can ONLY be healed by the person in pain. Through communication the other partner can facilitate the emotional support. However they can not ever DO it for you, you will have to cross that threshold for yourself.
This practice of being the master of your own direction will also give her more vital energy, and focused attention longer into her life, because her precious energy won’t be spent on so much dread, and “here we go again” failed expectations.

Men need to read this, then process this, then reread and process deeper. Men need to know why there is such a thing as a “dog house”. For it should be seen as a blazing red flag that something is amiss; some discord in the relationship that needs immediate attention FOR BOTH PARTNERS TO LOOK AT!
Digging into lost and found, and adopting this lifestyle with this practice of always being the one in control of one’s own happiness (regardless of relationship status). This will in itself heal, and naturally take care of it. Because for me my pursuit of happiness is always my first thought, and it is this action that produces the consistent empowerment in all my relationships, more so than anything else that I can think of… Well maybe more with my practice with God.
This practice is best learned from our parents, something that has been taught and become natural, and is continued as we step out onto the world stage.

Blessings…

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Loving What Is…

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ranch '14 003Loving what is, is a practice of bringing light into our dark corners, and choosing to see life in a different way. Dropping old beliefs that no longer serve, and stepping into new beginnings can be very liberating, even though it maybe the scariest thing we’ll ever do. Loving what is gives our life permission to change in a direction that’s for our highest good.

For me it has been a life-long personal devotion to love what is and move me beyond where it all started. Heal the wounds and strengthen the heart. And not only do I heal the wounds of past hurt, I also want to see beyond the mental, emotional limitations and conditioning that where set upon me by family and society. I want to wonder through God’s wilderness, and experience the freedom of the guiltless mind. Where magic and the supernatural become natural. To do this I will need to rewrite everything I’ve been taught, and step into an environment that supports this clarity of thought.
In loving what is, I find it important to get past the things that I see as impassible  imperfections, and the only way to move around it is to find that place within me where it no longer pushes me in disagreeable ways. As a pursuit of happiness loving what is creates a practice of turning off the conditions of the world, so I can enjoy the freedoms of personal happiness. Loving what is helps me around the imperfections of myself, while the pursuit of happiness has me customizing the way the outside world influences me. The paths less traveled are the landscapes I venture for.

What stands between you and your sense of personal happiness, and how far will you go to acquire it?

Making Space

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With all our crazy scheduling, running around to one appointment after another, where do we have time for a relationship? America’s work ethic is right next to China in terms of how much time we spend working, and our pursuit of happiness comes second. We think if we work hard happiness will come of it. That’s not so, if you have the joyful laughter inside you from the start, then it won’t matter how much money you make, you will always have a happy experience.
When choosing to get involved in a relationship in this crazy hectic world of ours, it’s very important to make space for that person. Unless of course you’re just interested in a date; a dinner party with friends and you need a date, or dinner, movie and sex with no real commitment. The moment commitment becomes the issue it’s SO important to make space: physical space, half the room is his. Emotional space, you check in with them about your plans with your coming’s and going’s. And spiritual space, freedom of expression.
So often we fill our time with activities, and think our lover is just going to magically fold into our scheduling, or be there when ever we need them. A healthy relationship needs us to slow down, and give it the nurturing support, so it has the space to become a joyful experience.

Blessings…

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