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All of our freedoms in life come from responsibility; the more freedom we get the more responsibility comes with it. Respect is a byproduct of the action of responsibility. Respect is what the world sees, and what draws other responsible people to you; other people with more freedoms to offer.
Respect also shows maturity, which gives us a clear avenue of how much we want to participate with them.
In the practice of boundaries, we get to look at all these little pieces as we assemble our puzzle of who and how or what is our inner circle, and why it’s so important to be active, and in charge of that circle.
Remember, a healthy relationship is fluid, and in the constant movement of change. The honor of being in someone’s inner circle is shown by physical respect, emotional respect… “That” which builds trust in all its forms.


Deep Water


“When we find ourselves in deep water, become the diver”.

When we push against something like loneliness, we can come across to other people as being needy. Yet when we lean into the idea of loneliness, and become secure in being alone the idea of loneliness is gone forever.
So sometimes it’s not the fight against the world that is bringing us down, it’s our own inner acceptance that will win the battle.

The Lesson of Duality


The lesson of duality is actually the lesson of growing into God, or what ever your language is for that. Duality and God are polar opposites. So when we are looking at God, we are looking and acting out of our god-self, and when we are experiencing duality we are looking or acting from our ego-self.
The influence of the physical realm is duality, and duality are opposites like: cause and effect, war and peace, and so on. Example: you said something to them, and they hit you in the mouth. That is cause and effect. The lesson of duality is learning how to transcend it, and this is simply done by the focus of God. So in one hand we have ego, and in the duality of that we have God. The one we give our attention to is the one that unfolds the circumstances of our life. We can’t have two masters, either we’re experiencing duality or we’re experiencing God. Because God is “that” without contrary.
Duality shows itself as the hardships of this world. Duality is in our face when our relationships fall apart, when we loose our job or when the car breaks down. Bringing God into our experiences means listening to the relationship and feeding it in the same way that we would listen to God and feed that relationship. Or listening to our performance on the job, and finding ways to improve it as we would a car. God is creation. We give quality attention to God, and in-turn God gives quality to our lives.
So when we look at God we see perfection, and with duality we see dysfunction. The human natural state of being is of God’s kindness; likeness. Violence is the absence of God (in this expression we’re talking about God, and not about religion). How do we bring God into the room? We find that place in ourselves in which we are like God… We are His likeness; we become “that” creator. Jesus walked on water as a demonstration that shows us what we’re capable of when we focus solely on God; the way of learning the lesson of transcending duality. Jesus said “I am the way”, as in follow me. Say as I say, do as I do… Become me, and you too will be in God’s grace.
The violence of the wars of today keeps us from thinking that this is possible. It’s sad to think that this violence is man-made as a belief that fear will profit those who keep us down. However, this focus in the presence of God  keeps us shielded from this violence; keeps us invisible from the eye of Sauron (from the movie “Lord of the Rings).

My life has changed so dramatically in the past 10 years because of this simple focus. I am doing things now that once I only dreamed of, and nothing I dare share on this page, for it’s clear to me that not everyone is open to this stuff. This post comes from my experiences with God, and not from any scripture. Although it is true that ANYTHING is possible with the fullness of eyes on God.

My blessings to you all.

Ego-less Relationship


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Practicing boundaries with anyone, will show you in a very short time, if and where a relationship / partnership is sturdy, and what the two of you truly have in common as in personal values. The intensity of the union in romantic love, gives little room to find and act from your separate self. We give up our trust and look to them to make us happy, then we become lost in the other person all so easily. Or to become enmeshed in the other person; moving as one.
Healthy boundaries creates room to breath, enough-so to allow your own individual passions and interests separate from them to flourish. By removing the ego, we find a love for our partner that has soft edges. As in wanting to do special things with this person because they’re fun, and not “needing” them to complete us.

Relationship is to romance, as partnership is to companionship. Romance has a shelf-life, and that life may last up to two years or until you finally let your guard down, then it all matures into partnership. A lot of changes happen during that shift. Our chemistry quiets and softens, and the authentic self comes out to shine. The practice of the ego-less relationship creates incredible meaning and depth, however for it to do so we must show up, pay attention and participate.

When confronted with an issue men have a tendency to pound it into the ground, and women have a tendency to be submissive. Neither one is being emotionally responsible.
Mature responsibility comes from your inner conviction or integrity; where you state your direction in a “matter of fact” manner. There’s no need to be aggressive or submissive, it’s an action, and not a reaction from an opinion. Your acting from your inner declaration, which is independent from anyone outside of yourself.

Following our own happiness/excitement while practicing the ego-less relationship transforms our awareness, gives our life more permission to want to remove the dysfunctional ego, which in itself clears our perceptions. By being realistic about who’s in control of our happiness, and keeping our ego in check we’re not getting lost in the other person. So the other person is not responsible for making us happy, we are, and when we follow and stay in control of our own happiness, then our life is empowered. We’re following our own happiness and our lover is along for the fun, as we are for them. If at any time we step into and be apart of the decision of another person or our lover (just because you’re now lovers, doesn’t mean you stop thinking for yourself), we ask ourselves “does this inspire and energize me”? A simple yes or no, and by following that “yes” we surround ourselves with empowerment, which fills our self-love tank, and that keeps us clear of drama! For this to work for us, we have to show up and pay attention, and truly be honest as we hold ourselves in balance.
The ego-less relationship is one in which you have become aware of the incredible drama, that an unbalanced ego can create. As we pull away from the dysfunctional ego, we find support in the nurturing of the wholeness with one’s self. Taking time to learn what a dark ego looks like, then what wholeness looks like, is time well spent (ego is described in detail on the page Boundaries and Personal Power). Because there’s no space like free space in a drama-free relationship. Each person’s sense of “wholeness” is different from the next. It’s that inner feeling of completion, where the inner balance is fed by self-awareness / self-love / self-loyalty, and we no longer need another person to fill that void. Spirit/God connection is another place that can fill that void better than a person can, because there’s not all that failed expectations, and drama around conditions of love.
Unfortunately most people don’t understand what balance without drama even looks like, because drama is such a natural way of relating for them.
Drama: is attaching emotional story to any situation. Pointing fingers, as in “he said… she said…”. An excuse is a story. Or what the other person is not doing “right”, is a story.
Without drama: the past is gone and the future’s not here yet. All that’s worth living for, happens right now, and the only person in control of that moment is you.
* Ego is you jumping into my face about issues you want me to change, when in fact the only thing you have control over is “you”.

The ego is apart of the Self; very much apart of the physical experience. When the human body dies, the ego stays with the body. Because the ego is the personality of the mind, in the same sense that your heart’s character is the personality of your Spirit.
The ego and the heart both want to be in control of the body, and the ego will manipulate your feelings to do so. The ego and the heart cannot control the body at the same time, you have to consciously choose who is going to run the show. The one you give the most attention to-love or fear, is the one that unfolds the circumstances of your life.
Ego is not something we can turn off completely, we can however learn how to tone it down, and this is done by turning and facing it. “I see you and understand you. I have received and learned the lessons from you, but I am done now. You are no longer in control of this body. I release you now”. Then open the heart to yourself, and learn how to think and process life through the heart center. The lessons of the heart may start with self-love, however over-all it teaches self-value. How wonderful you are, and that you deserve…
With your finger: draw a lite center line from the top of the rib cage to the bottom, and where you feel the most sensitive is where your heart chakra is. Sometimes putting a small piece of tape on that location will draw your attention to that location when doing heart meditations, or when you want to shift the thinking to the heart instead of the mind.

When looking at this for the first time we think it’s completely crazy! “At what point does the other person take responsibility for what hurts me”?! Anything that hurts me: “This is a boundary of mine, please don’t do that again”. If it continues, you give them space, and you let them know your giving them space by consequences of your happiness. If telling them is not enough, then more space is given. Even if you end up moving out of the house. It’s not about you teaching them to be responsible for their own emotions, it’s about you following your own happiness. Otherwise you become their emotional doormat and babysitter. [If someone says they’re going to change for you, that is not possible. It takes a huge amount of energy to hold the line of change for someone else, and we tend to change back to our old self easily and effortlessly because it is for someone else. It takes little to no effort when changing for yourself.]
This also goes both ways as you are responsible for your emotions, by which they are to theirs. Your emotions came from you, you created them, and through responsibility you get to decide what to do with them. If you have a “feeling” that the world is out to get you, it is still “your” feeling, your creation, and your opportunity for change. “This is what I mean by inner work”.
“The healing power of positive thoughts, stimulates motivating words, sprouts persistent actions, and therefore creates the amazing environment around you”.

Living with ego is addictive, because it’s very easy to point fingers and say “you’re the reason why my life is a living hell”!!! To point fingers is instant emotional gratification. However this does not build trust, it shreds it, and the relationship begins to unravel. Your partner is no longer someone you share love with, they’re someone you share complaints with, and the fun goes right out the window!
If I want different results in myself or in a relationship, I know I have to be different to get something different. I can’t behave the same way and get different results.
Looking at this with eyes wide open is time well spent. [The same goes for running a business.]

When we’re dumping our hurt feelings on someone, because we’re in denial of our own responsibility for our own feelings. All this comes because we have dropped our guard and our boundaries, and from this have given up our power. By taking back our power and our responsibility for these feelings, we discover that our lives go back to a form that brings us meaning and depth.
Anger, resentment, guilt, shame… Come because we have crossed a boundary in ourselves that should have been there to protect us. Now we can choose to either dump those feeling on them, and chance losing them. Or own those feelings, and take a little time to understand why we’re having those feelings. Then heal that place, and create a boundary so this doesn’t happen again.
Choosing this path, and acting from healthy boundaries restructures the relationship a bit. Because now we have to act from real honesty, as in being verbally clear about what our needs are, and not just guessing what that grunt means.
When we discover that our own fear and hurt IS our own creation, then the relationship with the other person changes. Because self-discipline on personal issues is what gives depth to the relationship. It’s self-discipline in the beginning, and turns into self-acceptance with this practice.

Acting out control is a fear response, and many haven’t quite learned the difference between that and boundaries. Control is something that I do to another person outside of myself. A boundary is something that comes from my inner conviction, as a way of protecting myself from the ill will of others. A boundary may or may not be something that is spoken out loud. Most of the time it’s simply something we act out without discussing it with the other person. It becomes apart of the character of our integrity.

The ego-less relationship is one of transparency; nothing is hidden, nothing is secret, and their business becomes your concern. The only thing you may keep to yourself is your inner relationship with (God); prayer and the way in which you pull in ($) abundance into your life.
Hiding daily details from our partner has a tendency to breakdown trust and creates walls of anxiety and dread. The ego-less relationship shatters all those walls, and the empowerment of transparency shines through. Honesty has to be open; honest actions, different from telling them every single little detail about one’s life. It’s when honesty partners with loyalty; it’s more in “the action of it” than in the word of it. As in, “from this moment forward my actions with her will reflect the integrity I am”. If I tell you I’m having a good day when I’m really not, then it’s my discretion, and not a lie. Different from the action of being considerate about all your coming’s and going’s, which creates strong bonds. Or having the courage to work through with them what hurts. This level of transparency gives permission for love to penetrate all corners of this relationship.
Sharing the details of cheating with our partner is where we have crossed a line into too much sharing. Confessing such darkness creates such darkness. The Cave of Darkness

* When we are sharing or talking to our partner about what hurts us, we have to be coming from the place of ourselves. We cannot be pointing our fingers at them; we cannot be yelling about what they are doing wrong! Instead, “I” discuss what it is that I am feeling, and there for I’m discovering more of what my needs are. So I’m changing myself, clearly staying on my own side of the street, and asking myself what it is that “I” can do to bring peace and balance to this situation? Or what do I need to do to protect myself if this happens again? It’s my feelings; my need for change, and my opportunity for growth. My partner is simply here as a mirror to reflect back to me what line my healing needs to follow.

* The ego-less relationship puts us in the driver’s seat, so-much-so that we become completely comfortable in being responsible for the direction and well-being of our own life, love, financial wealth, and emotional freedoms. We find joy in the responsibility because for the first time we are experiencing an emotional freedom with another person.
* Our responsibility extends well into every emotional reaction that can possibly be thought of, or even something that happens to you by the consequences of what another person is doing. It’s your responsibility to pick and choose your interactions with others, or your level of involvement-how much of your precious attention you give. If someone is mistreating you, it’s your responsibility to state a boundary, or step away from them. Because only you know how much you can handle. Stepping away from them is a way of announcing a physical boundary. It’s not important to always say out loud your boundaries, instead you can keep them to yourself, and just act them out.
* When you have an emotional reaction towards someone or a situation, and you process those emotions on your own through exercise, or an unemotional activity. Then you don’t engage in the drama with your partner, while stumbling through in trying to navigate your own happiness. (Boundaries and Personal Power, the section on Processing)
Say (he) is yelling at you about what you did that made him angry, he is talking about his anger, and because he’s not being responsible with his emotions he’s dumping it on you. Truth is, all that stuff is his. Out of many, he chose “this” response. So you have a choice to either take on what they are dumping, or simply create a boundary for them to process somewhere else other than on you. This keeps the relationship clean of all ego distortions. If you are blaming the other person for your unhappiness, either change your ways or chance loosing what you have. Instead of blaming the other person for our unhappiness, we take ownership of those feelings, and therefore what is expressed to our partner is always clean.

If we took time at the end of the day to process all the feelings, of all the experiences of the day’s events, without dumping it on each other, we would have a much better sleep. A bad night’s sleep happens simply because the subconscious is processing all of the day’s emotions in the dreamscape, and sometimes those wild emotions can keep us awake. A 20 minute walk will clear out of the body an entire day of stress, while disconnecting from story, so walk it off, and as you do so let go of that story. So by getting to the end of that walk you feel clear and refreshed. Everyone especially teenagers need a daily event of physical activity.
“I had a woodpile to get me through my emotions. Cut, spit and stacked 14 cord of firewood a year, and that got me through the emotional chaos of high school”.   

* Friends are here to help with the processing of life’s emotions, or we process while exercising, yoga or meditation. Anything that feeds our quality of life that doesn’t require another person or too much heavy thinking is a healthy avenue for processing.
When processing life: our lover is not an emotional dumping ground. Your partner maybe there to hold the metaphysical garbage bucket for you to dump the day’s stress into, they are however, not there to become the bucket (it’s one thing to hold the bucket they are throwing-up into, and another for them to throw-up on you). Those charged emotions are dealt with someplace else other than face to face with them. If for some reason we can’t get past an issue with somebody or any given situation, then we go off by ourselves for a walk or anything that keeps the mind idle and the hands busy. Then give that person or situation a little space so we can process through it, and come back to clarity. Processing back to clarity effectively happens mostly through the subconscious mind. To do this it helps to turn off the emotional story; disconnect from the story, and stay connected to feelings. When we mentally turn off the story, we also mentally tone down the ego, because story is the ego’s emotional justification, and or judgemental dumping ground.
That’s why we “walk it off”, or any activity that gives that emotion a constructive instead of destructive expression. This direction really does keep the relationship clean.
If you need help in understanding an approach to a situation, it’s appropriate to talk about it, without emotion. As in talking about the facts about how “you feel”, different from what the other person is doing or not doing. Talk about the situation from your side and ask “what can I do today that is positively different from yesterday”. The moment emotion comes into it, it becomes an emotional dumping ground, and that is drama and very destructive on relationships. By taking drama out of a relationship, what is naturally replaced, is support that comes from your god-self instead of your ego-self.

Self-love is enriched by the ownership of the clarity in understanding that your bad feelings about someone else are still your feelings, and therefore your responsibility to control. They don’t do it to you. You allow it to happen to yourself. The art of boundaries allows a person to create a protective shield around one’s self, that gives the other person space for expressing themselves without it effecting you. Your self-love tank becomes full with self-worth, and “that” is what keeps you from being emotionally effected by others. This boundary is a statement that you make to yourself: if someone is mistreating you, this inner need; this emotional boundary, this physical boundary… Is created by you to protect yourself from the ill will of others.

All your feelings belong to you, they are your responsibility to manage, and all his feelings belong to him. A boundary is created to protect yourself from the ill will of others. If he is angry with you and dumping his ill will on you, you create a boundary that says “stop, you go deal with those feelings through a different avenue than through me”. Even if you were wrong, he doesn’t have the right to dump on you. He is upset about something you did, and it is up to him to create a boundary so that doesn’t happen to him again. Besides, if he is making demands upon you, it is really his need for change within himself that needs action, and in his emotional discharge (anger) he is not able to see this in himself. Again this is all because it’s so easy to dump our emotional discord on someone else than it is to be responsible.
Through this process we either end the relationship or we look closely at the ego, and learn to park our pride. When choosing to own and manage our dysfunctional ego, we open the door to the trust of transparency and the ego-less relationship begins.
We find that when we spend more time in the focus of being responsible with our emotions, and acting out of love instead of anger we discover just how much energy it takes to stay angry. Love is our natural state of being, and it’s what keeps us young. Ego’s anger, aggression, fear, regret, shame, guilt… All this makes us age faster.

The action of boundaries pulls up our shields; our emotional shields that keeps out the angry and emotionally dysfunctional issues of others. This action of holding this space is the personal power that we experience as part of the action of boundaries. This action grants us the ability to stand steady while someone like our partner crashes emotionally, and we don’t fall with them. Then we are in a better place to process our way into resolve more quickly.

This kind of communication only works if the both of you play together, because if this practice is one sided the both of you will grow apart very quickly. An ego-less relationship requires a willingness for inner growth, along with a persistence for follow-through. And the rewards are very liberating and have everything to do with living in empowerment. Because by empowering yourself, you also empower your partner with the same enthusiasm, and life affirming affirmations.
In stripping away the responses of the ego, we rekindle an expressive connection with the heart. The qualities of this freedom will be slightly different for each person, and the quality of relationship you choose to lead. Making the defining edges of the relationship fuzzy, because trust becomes automatic. Where love and trust become so entwined that we can’t tell them apart.

Most relationships operate with love through love, which becomes almost unbearably sweet, and it’s loaded with conditions. An ego-less relationship operates with love through trust, where trust becomes the pivot point. When trust becomes automatic, then there’s no jealously, and no withholding in anticipation of something falling apart. Then the relationship supports an environment where it’s safe for expressing vulnerability. And because of trust, love now has space to breathe, and room for deeper expressions.
The ego-less relationship and spiritual love are one in the same thing. Spiritual love is a breath of fresh air, we step into the relationship because it feels right, true and important. Not at all like that uncontrollable hot and steamy attraction felt in high school. And if for any reason we need to change course with that person, we thank them for the adventure and move on to the next. There’s not all that drama in the separation of parting ways, because spiritual love really doesn’t experience separation. Parting ways is a gratitude for the experience, lessons and adventure of time well spent. (Besides, our high school definition of love is one in which “I will back you up even if you where the one who messed up. True love will not enable you to stay stuck, true love will hold your balls to the fire, and will insist on healthy change.)
When expressing spiritual love to everyone, then people like your Ex is someone you remain friends with, because we can continue to see the value beyond what doesn’t work. And the same goes for a failed proposal. If he stays with her beyond a failed proposal, he is well on his way to understanding the ego-less relationship.
The quality of communication with a couple who practice the ego-less relationship is very transparent, creating no loopholes for miss-communications. It naturally removes 98% of the emotional pain that drama drags into relationships. Because healing your past hurt is your responsibility, and not theirs.

If we start boundaries part way into a relationship, it helps to have a good foundation of trust and communication, because the dynamics of the relationship are about to change. (When we are young we are more flexible to change behavioral patterns. Because (if we’re not in the healing process) when we get older we tend to allow hurt to harden our edges.)When (he) is use to having the final decision for the family’s direction, it will be quite a change for him to shift into a co-created relationship. Sharing that control may bring up all sorts of push-me pull-you’s in the dynamics of an established relationship, especially in a relationship where one is more dominate than the other. So tread softly, work into it slowly, persistently talking about your needs, and what brings you happiness.
It’s not the fault of anyone for wanting more. Disrupting the dynamics of an established relationship every now and again is a good thing. For it keeps the relationship from going stale, and getting lost in those routines. It reminds us that relationships without trust are rigid, and ones with trust are very fluid and transforming.

Most people live on the edge of trust. As in using the word “trust”, without  fully understanding what it’s like to actually do it. When we express jealousy, we are showing to the world that we don’t trust, and how fragile our love really is. How many people do you know who talk about trust-and express jealousy? Trust is the backbone in an ego-less relationship; it’s the keystone that holds it all together. Jealousy is a red flag telling us that they don’t fully understand how to remove ego’s (fear) control, and replace it with trust.

When something comes to us easily and effortlessly, then we’re in alignment for it. Or if we’re fighting for that connection, then we’re out of alignment with it. Misalignment should be a Red Flag as to the appropriate timing of something, or simply a step in the wrong direction.
So when a person takes the time to understand what a dysfunctional ego looks like through the practice of boundaries, and the patience to come into that alignment. This person will then gain a better insight into who they are, and therefor the more they’ll know what partner will fit them better. We gain the clarity of eyes that see and a mind that understands, and from that a standard is born. By which our reactions with others have more meaningful depth, “it’s no longer just because they’re cute”.
* Understanding alignment, and how it feels when it’s correct will teach us volumes about living in empowerment. Most people don’t wait for that alignment to come into play, they just pounce on an idea. It’s when we have that sense of timing, does that alignment pay off in such a way that is golden; in other words it will not need to be fixed, for it will not break. When pouncing on an idea before it’s time, we find we often have to go back and re-tune it. So by waiting for the alignment where all the pieces all come together smoothly, then there’s nothing to fix.

The ego-less relationship brightens the path by reminding us of what it is that we are bringing to the table in this relationship. It becomes the depth and breath of our own presence, and from that we find something deeper like the ability to hear, and understand what one’s partner’s needs are moment by moment to grow and blossom, without loosing that sense of our own self. It becomes a win-win. “This is the path less traveled”.

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My blessings to you…

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The Reviewing Room


When we die and pass from this world and into the Spirit World, we enter the reviewing room where we (without ego) get to view the consequences of every action taken, and every word spoken or unspoken both to ourselves and to other people. Every person goes through this, there are no exceptions. We get to look carefully at everything that is of God, and everything that is separate from God. Loving actions, and fearful reactions. Everything that is not brought back into balance from this life, and or forgiven by us, we get to review carefully, and sort out that pile . So that of which is separate from God gets cataloged into the karma pile.
As we look out across humanity, and see those who deliberately hurt people for personal gain. Those people are creating a mountain of karma, and for some the darkness is so great that they will return to the mineral kingdom for extended review (a place where humans will never physically touch).
We’ve been told that we can heal this mountain of karma in an instant, or throughout a thousand lifetimes. It is resolved through forgiveness while in devotion to God (or whatever your language is for that), deeper and more profound than just once a week. When we relinquish our obedience to our higher-self/god-self/higher-power, we overcome great spiritual discords in leaps and bounds. This form of spiritual gardening can teach us many layers of light and dark, as we release our sense of self and ego, and connecting to become apart of God.
So think carefully before speaking, and take time and special care to heal the anger we carry deep inside, while still standing on this ground.

My blessings to you…

The Rod and the Staff


The world is at such unrest. What we hear is the expressions of fear, because it’s loud with anger, which is unbalanced ego. Love is quiet, and responds from the unemotional quiet waters of clarity.
All religions have extremes. The one’s who have gone beyond balance and into the extremes, are the one’s that yell the loudest, and who have the most unsettled emotions to express. Many religions have split into many forms, and some of those forms are louder than others. When these churches become loud, they begin to teach separation from God. They are more about what is not of “The Loving God” than what is, creating imbalance and falling into extremes.
So when we speak ill-will of other religions around the world, or people of difference, we are speaking from separation; which is dark ego, and not of “God’s Truth”; which is everyone is my brother, my sister.

Finding a group to be apart of is easy, just listen to what that group of people are passionate about. Are they loud and expressing separation, as in “us and them”? Or are they quiet and looking for ways to bring people together? One speaks from clarity and points to Truth, the other speaks from separation and points to illusion.
The one that you are drawn to, is the one that you are here to learn through.
First we learn restriction through separation. Then we learn freedom through abundance.

Go in peace…

* One of the few things that can’t be taught is Truth. It is something you feel through the act of doing your inner work.
* What are we feeding our experiences with, ego-consciousness or god-consciousness?

* For the first 300 years after the passing of Jesus, people had the ability to heal themselves of anything. That was part of the teachings of Jesus, “that” connection with God/Source is the understanding that we are God(s), and any act of healing is a co-creation.
Then the church came forward and announced that the only person who could heal like that was Jesus. Soon every church was taking the power, and as people began to believe, and this belief gathered in the Collective Mind. And that was the time when the word sin was invented, as a terrible tool of manipulation. In the language Jesus spoke, “Aramaic”, there was no such word as “sin”, there was the idea of a person missing the mark, and that issue was between them and God. Today, sin is a punishment by humans, stated in public, and they call it divine intervention?!
The very moment the church took away this power, they began teaching separation.

How did Jesus heal the blind man: first of all, the blind man only believed that he was blind. The same way that we believe we are walking on earth. (Truth is “we are curled up in the lap of God, having a dream of walking on earth”.) Jesus helped him to see through the awareness of his own innocents, that there is only God, and by forgiveness he was able to change his belief. All healing that happens through God happens spontaneously. When the forgiveness of all things is to the point of all things being fully innocent, no matter the crime.

Passions of the Heart


000_0006In the beginning of a relationship we give up our heart so easily, “here take my heart, do with it as you wish”. How easily we give up our trust, how easily we forget who we are and get so completely lost in the other person. Romantic love is so bright, and so blinding. The contrast is so great between the beginning, where we give it up freely in the eyes of the world, and the end, where we are so mad that we are shredding the other person’s character in the eyes of the world.
As friends we can tell each other ANYTHING, talk about all the little secrets that turn us on, and those that turn us off. What kind of people make the best relationships and why. However, the moment sex crosses that line, and we go from friends into lovers ALL that changes. All of a sudden we don’t want to say anything that might imply rejection of any kind. And what was something as solid as a rock, is now more fragile than an egg. And that is why we suffer!!!
Love is such a primal reaction, it’s that need for security, and the other end of that is the complete fear of rejection. Which can be heavier in women than men, simply because of children.
When we give it up so easily, and have those feelings of “forever”. All that comes from spiritual memory, of the time spent in the Spirit World. Where that memory is so potent, that’s why it’s so easy to have those feelings of “happiness forever”. However, that’s also the reason why we clash so hard during the difficult times or at the end of relationships. We are here on earth in the physical realm, which deals with the lessons of duality. So if we were smart, we would go into a relationship with the clarity of knowing that all relationships are limited. Everything in this realm has a beginning, middle and an end. “Forever” does not exist on earth, even though we would like it to. The sexual orgasm is a physical reminder of the Spirit World, because the feeling of being in the presences of God is just like a continuous orgasm. And as much as we would love for that depth of connection with our lover, it’s just not possible because of duality and ego.

So if we have the clarity when entering a relationship of the limitations of it, the heart-break at the end will be much, much less. Especially if it’s spoken of often throughout the relationship. Strength of character always comes through when life gets pinched. Take away something of value and you find yourself in the midst of adversity, and still your response is of love. How to find someone who also has that, means walking into it with “eyes wide open“. There will be times when love can sweep you away, and there will be times when it’s important to be awake, alert and paying attention. The lessons of duality can be quite harsh when we’re not paying attention. So be honest about limitations, and embrace the sexy details of the present moment.
“Forever does exist in the ego-less relationship“. If we want loving balance in our intimate relationships, it will require inner work. Toning down the ego is on-going inner emotional work. However, it is what creates harmony… Having courage to own your egoic emotions, taking ownership of all your own feelings, and changing your perceptions to look at it in a new light requires on-going focus. The more practice the better you get at it, however the moment you let go, it’ll come up and bite you in the butt. It is an on-going thing. This is the path less traveled, because less than one percent of the world population will understand this well enough to put it into action. Most will think this is too big and too scary to confront. They love it when it’s words on a page, however that’s as far as they go.
Be one of those that has passions of the heart, and the courage to act from a new direction. For every step we take in a new direction, we change the world.

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