The Gift

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So much of our time spent praying to God for abundance in one form or another. Then we find ourselves in situations in which someone is offering something to us, and what do we often say? No thank you, I’m okay. By saying this we’re denying the goodness we’re asking for; we’re suppressing our authentic selves, and we’re becoming the successful victim by announcing our sense of undeserving. To live in empowerment is to embrace our inner sense of deserving, and awaken those life-affirming beliefs. Because in truth where the heck do we think it’s going to come from? Is it just going to magically appear in our hands?! In the physical realm all of God’s abundance comes through the generosity of people. So the next time someone offers you something… Anything, (for you can always pass it on) simply say yes thank youto the gift. Then whisper to God, thank you, more please. Living freely in this flow of abundance/love/joy… Is the natural order of who we are, because when in this flow we are the gift. However, because of the experience of ego we also get to experience fear, and through Free Will we get to choose one of those directions. If we go through life with an unchecked unbalanced ego, then that ego teaches us how to be very successful victims. That is the natural direction the ego will go in. It is the connection with the freedom of our spirit that changes that direction, and fills our experiences with abundance.
This action of love to ourselves, and to others is the flow of God’s grace. Whether we are setting a boundary for ourselves, being kind to someone on the street, or someone else is being generously kind to us, it is the flow of the gift that is our divine heritage. A river that is always within that field of Source Energy (Connections of the Self).

One of the many ways in which God is gifting us abundance, can be when we find a 20 dollar bill on the ground. Or if you’re remodeling a house you just bought, and found money in the walls. That is abundance that was meant for you by God.
The guilty victim wants to give it all back to the original owners, because they feel SO undeserving. That house became fully yours with everything in it the moment you were handed the keys for it.

When we often say: I can’t believe this is happening. This statement cuts off the natural flow of abundance. So that’s why when it does happen, it feels so unnatural. Turning this around comes from an inner desire to experience more of that joyful tickle, that which we get from giving generously of ourselves. In giving abundance of… We also receive it.
It may not be coming back to you from the person in which you want it to come from. However, if you carefully observe you will see that it is coming back to you in the same way in which you are giving it out.

My blessings to you…



The art and practice of forgiveness is so essential for releasing emotional attachments, and moving beyond those situations. This is NOT about forgetting, this is about releasing out of our emotional field the trauma that was performed, so we can better embrace what is life-affirming. Instead of allowing life to mold us in its angry state, and this is how we move beyond “that”.
Cutting cords of emotional attachment is the first step, because it opens a quiet space to forgive; a space free of entangled emotions. Forgiveness requires this open space, without it we just stay angry.
Forgiveness is a practice; it’s on-going because there will always be something to move beyond in becoming our potential. This practice can be for a person or a system of operation like government or war, or even ourselves for stepping into the mess of relationships or… Anything that pushes your emotional buttons. The idea is to catch ourselves sooner and sooner when we become angry, and instead practice this. Then return to our happy place. This form of spiritual gardening will cut down on conflict tremendously, as this healing will return us back into our authentic loving selves. Because this practice of forgiveness allows us the freedom to release the hurt without forgetting.

Quantum Forgiveness
To Self: “I am spirit, my body is only an illusion, it has nothing to do with what I really am”.
To Other: “You are spirit, whole and innocent, all is forgiven and released”.
Repeat this as often as the feelings arise, in a way that brings you back to compassion, and or back to an unemotional neutral space.
From the book collection -“Course in Miracles” by Helen Schucman, published by Foundation for Inner Peace.

When we forgive deep enough to see the other person as innocent, this release of emotions will untangle. This vision of their innocents through forgiveness erases the karmic issue or emotional connection all the way back to your beginning, and all the way forward into all the “what if’s” of all your possibilities. Insuring that, that lesson is completely finished, and no longer needs to be worried about.

“When you no longer have the need to be seen or heard, to be right or to be in control. When the other person is no longer “responsible” for your happiness, or any situation you’re both involved in, and that person no longer comes up in your heated conversations, then you’ve moved past that issue”.

My blessings to you…

Cutting Cords of Emotional Attachment


Cutting cords of emotional attachment is a way for us to become free of other peoples unsettled emotional connections with us. Say I had a heated exchange with my spouse, and as I walk out of the room I’m still feeling the strong grip of it. Cutting these cords allows me the freedom to slip back into my balance, then from here it becomes so much easier to forgive, which allows me the freedom to be myself.
Cutting cords with our spouse (or ex, or boss, or family, or…) often, means we’re not dragging preconceived unsettled emotions from a disagreement before, into this new moment, and keeping that slate clean. However the moment our mind goes back into it’s argument of the memory with that person, we are reconnecting that cord. So this is a practice of emotionally staying on our own side of the street; of doing our own inner healing work, and as a way of staying in our emotional freedoms, which is very profound in what brings balanced healed empowerment into relationships.
Cutting cords of emotional attachment will also relieve the stresses of karmic pressures, allowing us clarity for that moment, and space to breathe so we don’t feel as though we have to sit in this soup of a twisted emotional mess. Cutting cords gives us this freedom, just like clearing out the disturbed emotions from a home on the page House Clearing.
Every time we feel discord; anger, hurt, bullied, or…  With another person is the perfect time to cut that emotional cord, no matter who it is. If you feel like someone is sucking your precious energy, and you have a good sense of who it is, then cut the cord. If you don’t have a good sense who it is, then pull up your shields.
Sometimes after cutting cords with someone, that someone will call you as a subconscious way of recording, then simply cut again.
Some things need to be said in establishing emotional boundaries, however this is not one of them. This is a silent self declaration, and a way of emotional healing. By having the need to explain our emotional needs to that someone, we are cording with them, and that’s an act from the ego-self. Cutting cords is an act of our god-self, because we are moving away from discord, and into peace. And another tool in our toolbox for dealing with the world.

* If your having sex with multipal partners for the sake of sex, and not because you’re into them so much. This simple act of cutting cords will release you from those connections.
* Striving for an emotionally healthy life, the practice of cutting cords with everyone we come in contact with will keep us in bliss.

* One way of cutting cords of emotional attachment is with someone who understands psychic surgery: when we energetically look at the light-body, and more importantly the chakra system. These different zones, and places we become corded with will have different issues with different people. We begin to better understand the issues they have with us or we have with them, and this gives us a good direction to follow for the healing.

However, the way to do this by yourself is with a simple prayer to Archangel Michael. “Archangel Michael, I ask that you cut all my cords with (name or description of person)… Amen”. Let your guard down and open yourself up to him… Feel the release.
We can also cut cords with systems of business as if it was a person: politics, government, company policies, and so on. As a way to emotionally release ourselves from it.

My blessings to you…

Cutting Cords of Emotional Attachment and Forgiveness along with Boundaries and Manifesting One’s World and the Ego-less Relationship should all be on the same page, because technically they support each other as one action. The action of Self-love.

This post is in reflection of my practice with cutting cords. This action was handed down to me by someone who also has this practice. I’m not the one who originally came up with this format, Gary Renard did in one of his books. I’m currently into his book “The Lifetime of when Jesus and Buddha knew each other”. Good read.



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055There’s great power of trust, which leads to devotion in showing vulnerability in a relationship, and this becomes a blissful experience when the two of you are participating together. This is not something you want to show at a bar or pub, and this is not the kind of vulnerability that comes when we’re in the middle of the road. This is when we share our tender side to our lover. This activity has a completely new landscape when we learn to tone down the ego [I can’t begin to describe how destructive the ego can be in relationships]. Practicing this level of sharing becomes second nature when we learn to tone down the ego. Part of living in empowerment is to allow yourself to be vulnerable, to be willing to show and share your mental/emotional tenderness. It’s about sharing your inner truth… About what really turns you on. It’s about diving deep into our passions, and sharing what we think makes our lives tick. And sometimes sharing our vulnerability can be about revealing our imperfections. However, what deepens the connection is a willingness to learn the value of honesty, and how being transparent leaves no holes for miss-communications. Relationships that fall apart are ones that lack this essential ingredient, as an ongoing practice. When we fall into the rut of routine, of thinking with that “faults sense of security”, as in thinking a relationship is solid. That you think you know each other well enough to let go of the reins. When in truth relationships are fluid, they change and evolve as you grow, heal and become. So if we have the practice of being transparent moment by moment we become fluid as well. It’s when we lose touch with this flow and drift apart, and before you know it there’s nothing to connect with. We invest so much of our lives hiding from our feelings and our emotions, and where has it gotten us? Showing tender, sensitive places with your partner, and allowing yourself to be transparent can be a very powerful experience for the both of you, because it creates such warm trust. This action also creates a wonderful stage for self-discovery and self-realization. Which that in itself open doors of trust.

If we shut down vulnerability because we don’t want to experience fear, anger or guilt, we will also shut down love, joy and gratitude. Because they are all part of the wholeness that we are. By embracing the wholeness that we are, we are acknowledging a willingness to express what’s under the surface. That place where original wisdom emerges. When both lovers have this level of trust in sharing and supporting each other, and we learn how to tone down the ego, the relationship begins to loose its defining edges. Because trust becomes automatic [trusting completely, we show no feelings of jealously]. When we connect to this early in a relationship, we set the stage for knowing what’s to come in life’s quiet moments.
When men are able to walk this path they discover devoted women beside them, and women following this path find men that want to build *metaphoric castles around them. This path requires both to participate, so this takes two when expecting to find that deep rich connection that we’re told exists in long-term relationships. How important is it to be transparent in a relationship, well how far and how expansive do you want your relationship to be? Every step we take in opening to each other we find deeper levels of connection and intimacy.
Good communication is when we dive deep into emotional support and reassurance as the emotion occurs. Being present while processing what we feel in our core, and at the same time our partner is forgiving us lending reassurance that we no longer need to feel that way. Because they themselves see the value of this partnership, and choose to grow forward. Daring to become one’s highest integrity for our own inner growth, and for the support and nourishment of our partners growth.
The masculine isn’t strong unless he is also vulnerable. This means he can tell you what he wants, when he’s afraid, how you make him feel, what he did that he’s made amends for, what he’s overcome, or what brings him to his knees. And from this acknowledgement she learns the value of giving him space.
Without transparency, there can be no genuine intimacy, that ingredient that makes sex remain sexy when the initial high of infatuation dissipates.
The feminine shows her vulnerability by admitting her rough sharp edges, and from this reveal he learns where to be gentle.

Practicing and sharing a healthy vulnerability is one of those things that require focus and attention. In my journey through this, I discovered when I had the focus of toning down the ego. Therefore practicing an ego-less relationship my tender side had more freedom, and being transparent was no longer scary. Because when we overly identify with the ego everything is scary, even though we wouldn’t show it on the surface. It’s still the reason to hide. Remove the ego and the dance of transparent intimacy empowers your relationship into the infinite realms of light.

* Metaphoric castles: is intimate emotional support, or intimate spiritual support. Something intimate your lover does for you that no one else does. It’s something that is built upon, and becomes a quality of relating, a side dish or added ingredient in the relationship that is carefully constructed just for you by your partner.

My blessings to you…

I need to be very clear: Self empowerment happens because it’s coming from your choices; your self-awareness. When someone else needs you to behave a certain way to complete their needs, and you have to act outside of your comfort zone to make that possible. Then you need to know that, that kind of vulnerability comes from their control, and you’re stepping into their realm of domination if it serves you, or manipulation if it doesn’t serve you.
Out of this, I want you to act as if this is the only life you get to live. This is how we find empowerment.

Karmic Relationship?


ranch 1_08008#9542How do you know if you’re in a karmic relationship?
* Well if the attraction in the beginning was very Hot, so hot in fact that you forgot who you were and what your hopes and dreams were.
* If no matter what you do or they do, you can’t help it, and you keep going back for more.
* Impassable conflicts. Where things never really become resolved, and just become swept under the rug.
* One sided relationship, you love him even though he doesn’t see you. Or no matter how much you love them the connection just isn’t there.
* When he spends more money then he has, in trying to capture the attention of her eye. It’s a karmic attraction that drives you crazy in trying to get their attention.
* When she turns herself into an emotional pretzel, in trying to please him anyway she can. Obligation and intense “here we go again” dread.
* All the relationships that have heavy karma don’t have breathable space between the two of you.
* Karma can be those relationships in which we put that person so high on that pedestal, that if they fall they’ll never land. Where their needs matter much more than you do, and where it’s so far out of balance that you call it devotion. Dripping with sticky conditions.
* Your unending devotion for his love… As powerful as it is, is not seen by him, or is not as deeply expressed as yours is. And you know this, but you keep going back, hoping things will change… Yet they don’t.

You will cut off an arm to get his attention… Now how dysfunctional is that!!! So do you want out of this co-dependent mess?!
Karmic lessons are presented by Spirit from the light of Grace, and no two karmic relationships are quite the same. A karmic relationship is past life emotional history [cause and effect], that you are now at a crossroads with, and a choice for opportunities to bring it back into balance. These relationships are resulting from our inappropriate actions with people past and present. As we search for balance and learn to correct the pattern, we discover an opportunity to look at it differently. We have the choice now, to either respond from love or continue with anger.
Dharma or good karma is when we have acted from balance, and that beautiful energy going out comes back to us bringing prosperity’s abundance. When we’re in balance we’re in alignment with our true self, and therefore in alignment with God/Love/Gratitude/Wholeness. Both karma and dharma, are completely out of our control, as to how the lesson comes at us, this my friend is up to The Spirits. However, I can look at a situation and say “that will create karma”, and choose to avoid it all together. Deliberately hurting someone for personal gain creates steep karma. Like sexual drama, and or sexual trauma.

In a relationship, the stronger the physical attraction is, the stronger the karmic lesson will be. The physical attraction [chemistry] was designed by God to keep us with that person, so they could help us push through our issues. Because if I truly knew of the pain I’d go through with this person, then I’d run from the room screaming!!! Yet the strong physical attraction holds me steady, so the lesson can unfold. By having this experience and learning this lesson with this person, we’ve come out of this relationship a better person.

Karma, not always yet can be those sticky, bumpy, challenging and disagreeable places in a relationship. So karma shows us where in the relationship we need to be more responsible with our emotions, as in where we need to transform anger, resentment and shame, into love, gratitude and joy. It also shows us where our boundaries need to be, and why.
Karma creates a drive in us, that we don’t have much control over as in how our emotions flutter. It’s not something we can hide from, and to tell the truth, the only short cut is to turn and face it. What is it that will bring you back into balance, and back into alignment with your true authentic self? Returning to balance has some variation to do with taking back your power, or practicing forgiveness [for self and others], standing in your power and taking charge of your own life… Without controlling the other person. And it’s one thing to have in your mind the concept of Self empowerment, although the real work begins when we follow that thought with action, and put all that wonderful knowledge into practice. Every positive step you take, brings you closer to your true authentic Self, and freedom from karma with that person. Karma can be seen as the chains that hold us back from self empowerment in expression. The heavier the karma, the less freedom of authentic self-expression.

Resolving karma asks us to be responsible with our own personal balance. So it’s not what the other person is doing wrong. Stepping into empowerment is about what you are doing for yourself that keeps you healthy and whole. Karma reminds us of the incredible gift that we are as individuals, by showing us the dysfunction it’s also pointing back to balance, and if the relationship you’re in doesn’t reflect heart, then change it!
When Karma is resolved with another person, the heat of the attraction melts and softens, or it feels like you’re done or like the page has been turned. A weight has been lifted and it’s now easy to step away. The love is still there, it’s just not as sticky with damaging conditions. It’s transformed and has risen into those higher fields of spiritual love and deep compassion.
In removing yourself from a painful relationship, we do so for the reasons of self empowerment, as to keep from repeating painful situations.
When Karma is resolved with the self, life moves freely with little resistance.
The finer points of karma is to learn to overcome the obstacles of illusion, to break down the understanding that the physical realm is only illusion [this does not mean we stop caring for the physical body], and through compassion of all things we find “there is only God”.

For the extended version of this page go to: Can a Karmic Relationship Work?

* The meaning of life is “to grow into God”; to act freely from a guiltless mind.
* Karma comes from God’s law, it’s what keeps us accountable. Karma is everywhere and in everything, it’s about how to stand in Love while we’re in the midst of adversity. As White Eagle would put it, “keep on, keeping on”. As well as learning to identify what is sticky karma, well for starters it’s unnecessary drama with people, and then what is empowerment and how can we apply it to our every step? Well does this relationship / decision inspire and energize me”? And by following that “yes” we keep ourselves out of karma’s drama.
* The goal is to connect to your true authentic self through boundaries, and step into personal power. Which in itself puts you into self empowerment, far beyond what your partner can do for you.
Walking on emotional eggshells, and not being free to be yourself, is the opposite of being authentic. Being authentic [to speak and act from the guiltless mind] in your relationships is a sign that your on track. Again, being authentic is an important ingredient, so if you don’t have it… Find it. Being authentic is not about being a bully and getting your own way, it’s about having the space and freedom to breath, or freedom for self-expression through the well-spring of your own calling.
* The way out of a karmic relationships is forgiveness, both to the other person and to yourself.
* Quantum Forgiveness
To Self: I am spirit, my body is only an illusion, it has nothing to do with what I really am.
To Other: You are spirit, whole and innocent, all is forgiven and released.
–The book set * Course in Miracles. Repeat this every time you have unsettled feelings for yourself or others.
* Taking back your power is standing up for yourself, it’s identifying dysfunctional behaviors in others, and not engaging with them along those lines [if you can identify dysfunctional behaviors in others, you may also be able to see it in yourself as well]. It’s setting a high standard within yourself for your quality of life, and only allowing those who nurture and support this quality to come into your inner circle. To empower ourselves is to stand strong in our own conviction, without pushing those ideals on someone else. An inward declaration, for the self by the self… This is self empowerment.

If you’ve just discovered abuse 10 years into the marriage, it’s still important in that moment to stand strong in your empowerment, and without thinking, let them know that they have just crossed a line. History or no history… Your self-worth is greater than this!!! And it’s up to them to find their way back or chance loosing what they have. And if you cave-in, then your telling yourself you’re not worthy of love’s empowerment. Be the wisdom!!! And step out of karma and into empowerment.
Think of karma and incarnations like going to college… Going to class, learning the lessons and passing the course. “A soul mate is a classmate in the school of soul”. There’s a lot of unsettled emotions expressed, as you find yourself in your own dark corners. Then your pushed by your soulmate to overcome those issues, and you move beyond the issue as a more refined and better person.
And those of us who identify the intensity these karmic relationships bring, have great compassion for those going through it.
By perspective, this does not need to be a bad experience. Love is a state of mind, and karma is another adventure in this amazing life unfolding. Embrace personal growth, and the lesson won’t feel so scary.
Anything in a relationship that is difficult to push through is karmic. So each relationship has something that will push us to grow, and karma is a way of describing that growth. Karma is “that” part of the situation that you resist. So in looking at all the parts, remember to look at yourself, carefully.
However karma comes in ways other than just relationships. Many diseases like cancer is karmic, anytime there is something that can’t be avoided, and you have to go through the experience of it, is karmic.
Thinking you can run from a situation by entering a new relationship or moving to a new town, think again. We can’t hide from karma. The short-cut out of karma is to turn and face the issue, with ownership and forgiveness without judgement.

Questions and Answers:
* How do you know when a karmic relationship is bad for you? It’s when the attraction pulls you out of balance and away from yourself. Or on a darker note: it’s when the relationship turns toxic, and is no longer productive. It’s when it’s all about them and your feelings don’t count, and it’s when you become their emotional doormat. It’s when you’ve extended your personal growth as far as you can, and still the issue is unresolved. Then you own the freedom of stepping away from them.
* What creates a karmic relationship? Any time we hurt another for personal gain. Because we don’t want to be responsible for our own mental, emotional, physical and spiritual welfare and instead make someone else responsible for it. Bullying, forcing, killing…
* A karmic relationship by definition is not a bad thing? No it’s not. It is an opportunity to learn and overcome something new about yourself, and learning to look at life in a different way. If you can see what is broken, then you can express how to heal. Your healing is an action by you and for you. Another person can support you, they however can not do it for you. Your karma is your creation, by your design, therefor it’s yours to heal.
* What if we don’t learn from a karmic relationship? We don’t have the choice not to. Conscious or unconscious, big steps or little steps, in this life or the next… “We are always moving forward”. Conscious steps just insures not repeating it.
* When we have heart-ache or feel a heavy heart, that’s you not honoring yourself and not having healthy boundaries. The heavy feeling we call heart-break is the one time when we can physically feel the ego; ego that loud and obnoxious voice that creates separation between us and anything good in our lives. It’s that nagging voice in the back of the head that says: “you don’t deserve happiness”. To move out of this situation, we start by looking carefully at what is the dysfunctional ego; how does it rain chaos in our relationships. Then from there we begin to take ownership of that chaos and start the practice of boundaries, and from there the clarity of the ego-less relationship begins.
* How do you know if your attraction is karmic? If you have an attraction, passion and even devotion for someone other than God, then yes it is karmic in some fashion. It’s when we see more of God in the world then ego. Then from this action we find that we are with our partner simply because they are fun to be with, and not because we feel that they complete us. Karma is simply the journey of coming back to center; back to mental, emotional and spiritual balance, and when we arrive at that very center we then come into alignment with our god-self instead of our ego-self. And like the rose bud, we can’t force it. Each person’s journey of healing is completely unique onto them.
* How do karmic relationships end? It has that distinctive feeling of coming full cycle, as it becomes complete. It ends by you practicing forgiveness everyday until you no longer have the need to be in control of the situation; be the one who is right, have the need to be heard by them, or even have the need to be seen by them in any form. The intense attraction you had for them in the beginning has transformed into compassion. You’re no longer pulled and tugged at by the conditions of the relationship. You’ve found your wings.
* Do karmic relationships ever work? Sure they do, you just have to know which one you’re in. Do you have resentment more than 50% of the time? Do you have a difficult time being your authentic self. Do you have a love–hate relationship with this person? If so then I would say you’re in a challenging karmic relationship. If you have none of this, then you have been kissed by grace, and your karma comes through devotional service.
* Do karmic relationships ever end in love? Yes, when you have a loving heart toward your partner, even though you may have to go in separate ways. Karma ultimately teaches us to see and connect to “that of God in each of us”, including one’s self, and by doing so touch upon the essence of spiritual love and deep compassion for every one we meet.
Karma ends in love when the both of you are able to see, and speak out loud to each other about the space between you. That space being: time together, and time apart. As in knowing when your emotional needs are asking you for time apart, and this short gentle time apart is seen as something that nurtures the relationship. Because what ever bad feelings you may have, you will have processed out by the time you return.
* Karmic relationship! Now what?! Practice boundaries. Learn how to remove the dysfunctional ego, and by this we surround ourselves with self empowerment. Stand strong in the beautiful person you are, and when you fall out of balance learn what it was that tipped you over. Then correct it, and return to balance. When we learn to live in empowerment each relationship becomes rich and more vibrant than the last. “Especially when we match our new lover with the vibration of the empowerment that we are living”.
* Can karmic relationships improve?
Yes, when we learn to stay in balance within one’s self, and stay out of co-dependent behaviors. Then yes the relationship can improve. Whether we are conscious or unconscious about the lessons of the relationship, we are on some level working through to resolve. This is the nature of life, whether we like it or not, we are always moving forward.

*** What is Karma? it’s all those feelings and emotions that get stirred-up by people we love or hate. Karma is simply a way of describing unlearned lessons resulting from our own actions of cause and effect finding balance. It’s the soul’s journey of learning lessons that returns us home to The Loving God.
So why did the soul separate from God. Well, simply because for a moment it asked the question, “is there more than God”? And from that question the physical realm was created, and the long cycles of incarnations of karma. Earth is a class room, a training ground to teach and remind us that “there is only God”, and everything else is just an illusion.

My blessings to you…

Dancing Light


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Each breath that fills the heart, each step that is followed by the heart, and each expression that comes from the heart… Is the dance of your Spirit’s gift to the world.
The captivating beauty of your physical self, your engagement of the world around you, and the enchanted enlightenment of the quality you’re becoming is such a gift to the world… and all those lives you touch. No matter how great or small you “think” you are, we all bring glory to the table’s feast of life.


Making Space

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With all our crazy scheduling, running around to one appointment after another, where do we have time for a relationship? America’s work ethic is right next to China in terms of how much time we spend working, and our pursuit of happiness comes second. We think if we work hard happiness will come of it. That’s not so, if you have the joyful laughter inside you from the start, then it won’t matter how much money you make, you will always have a happy experience.
When choosing to get involved in a relationship in this crazy hectic world of ours, it’s very important to make space for that person. Unless of course you’re just interested in a date; a dinner party with friends and you need a date, or dinner, movie and sex with no real commitment. The moment commitment becomes the issue it’s SO important to make space: physical space, half the room is his. Emotional space, you check in with them about your plans with your coming’s and going’s. And spiritual space, freedom of expression.
So often we fill our time with activities, and think our lover is just going to magically fold into our scheduling, or be there when ever we need them. A healthy relationship needs us to slow down, and give it the nurturing support, so it has the space to become a joyful experience.


“Light Bulb”!?

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011When your young [in your teens and 20’s] sex tends to be that god like connection. We find sex is for exploring other people, is for exploring who you are, who you can be, and so on. Then in your 30′s it’s in finding who brings the most joy from it. And finally in the late 40′s and 50′s it’s all about transformation. We come full circle, in that through sex we reconnect to God. We find healing in sex, and we find the flow of abundance in the energy of the sexual orgasm. The irony in it all, is that women in their late 50′s and 60′s begin to move away from sex, while men are beginning to explore those more defined details in the qualities of intimacy through sexuality.
Two things men need in a relationship: sex and attention, and they need it ALL the way through their lives.
A women needs safe, nurturing emotional connections with her lover, all the way through her life
Women are at their prime from the 20’s to mid to late 40’s. Then they begin to lose interest and take the attention off of their husbands, and begin to focus more on themselves, as in career and quality of life.

Young men are all about themselves; adventures in self-discovery. Meanwhile, young women are giving their attention to the relationship with him, and to the family.
Older women shift their attention away from him and the family, and focusing in on their own self-discovery. Meanwhile, older men are settling down, and their focus is turned to the needs of her and family.
So there is a brief moment in the mid 30’s to mid 40’s where they match, and are in sync with each other. Then they become opposite once again.

A woman can have the belief system of the man being the financial provider, so she can be a stay-at-home housewife. Then the kids come along, and she no longer has as much time or energy to give him the attention he needs as he needs it.
Hence, the man cheats on his wife, and has an affair with a younger woman who has the time and energy for giving him the attention he so craves. And after all that he comes back to his wife, because she is the only one who truly knows and completely understands him, and in “that”, he finds her more attractive than the younger woman.

May your blessings be in that you understand this before…

* Why is the younger woman attracted to the older man? Because at this point in his development he has learned how to navigate his emotions, and therefore he’s more centered less reactionary. He’s learned the importance of being present and emotionally available. And he has more practice in understanding what it is that needs his physical attention from her communications, and what just needs to be heard. And that brings us to the other piece of irony in relationships, which is when women are having children in their 20’s and 30’s, they need a man who is emotionally centered, is settled into the home life, and has strong financial stability. All this describes the older man, because at that age the younger man is out chasing adventures.
All this shows us how men and women are so completely unique from each other.
“And I realize not ALL men fit into this description”.
Sometimes women are attracted to the security of the older man because they have “daddy” issues. There’s nothing wrong with that, it’s just a piece of their childhood experience that was missing, and it’s a process of having that experience that helps to move them forward.
Men can also have mommy issues , as in not letting go. This just means they need more time to process that experience, and for some that may be a lifetime.
There is absolutely nothing wrong about being attracted to an older man or woman, their just a bit more settled is all.

For some women, the moment they have him they want to change him. These are women that are unsatisfied within themselves, and they are trying to change their environment by changing the environment. When in fact what creates “real” change is shifting your personal perception, or modifying your own behavior. In any case it happens within you. He has absolutely nothing to do with it. It’s a hole in your heart that you need to heal. And if you want very specific qualities in a man, then look for the man that posses those qualities first, because he can’t create what he doesn’t have. Men will change only so far for a woman, before they start to crumble under that pressure, and if you persist the relationship will unravel faster than you can say “lickitty-split”.


Environmental Influence


Dec. 2013 012For every time it rains, snows or we see a rainbow is Spirit’s way of bringing environmental influences into our experiences, to give us opportunity to awaken. The perception within each of us is very individually unique, and moment by moment we have at our finger tips the opportunity for growth. We can choose to go whistling through our day without taking notice of spiritual intervention, or we can slow down and feel the excitement and rush of being influenced by it.
A shooting star, first by seeing it brings up feelings and associations in one’s mind that will shift our awareness, and then there is the physical matter that falls to earth and is added to the mixing pot of influence we like to call Gaia; Earth spirit. This continuously renewed energy feeding our vitality.
When we are out walking and come across a pond of still water, a stream that flows without resistance, or a large stone in a stoneless environment that can bring meaning and growth by reflection into our awareness. If we slow down and pay attention to nature there can be great meaning and acknowledgement in a simple encounter. Crossing paths with an animal, being snowed in, being acknowledged by someone beautiful, witnessing a forest fire and the unpredictability of fast change, standing at the edge of a volcano and reflecting upon one’s personality and seeing all forms of expression.
Rain by itself has its own influence. When we mix sun and rain, and the two elements merge in that moment it becomes very unique, just like lightning in a snowstorm. What brings it all together is your witness, what ever that is for you in that moment. Stories, legends and faerie tales are told in such a way for us to remember “our witness” of those events. What makes those experiences magical is your presence; your witness, and your perceptions will be very unique from the next person creating purpose with direction.
Everything about our environment is divinely designed in opportunity for reflection and growth. This form of spiritual gardening can be seen in relationship to an influence with the environment, and the beautiful partnership with your own mystery.

Other posts of interest: Energy Wheels

Closing a Sacred Site


Energy wheels023I had 4 Energy wheels set up in the middle of a large piece of property for 20 years, and it wasn’t until I took them apart and removed them did I realize how much they had changed the space. Activated Energy wheels will change the vibration of a space as it comes into alignment with love and harmony. When I took the wheels apart, as the energy collapsed it was nothing like I had ever experienced before. It was huge and nearly pushed me over. The energy came down from above like sheer winds from a storm, very powerful and very intense. The space returned to the rawness of nature, the contrast went from the influences of harmony to the taking essence of nature. Huge differences, animals behaving like wild animals instead of yielding, more threatening forest fires, and the change came flooding back in as the shields came crumbling down. This experience was very profound because it was so much in my face, as to the contrast between before and after. These wheels didn’t belong to a client, they were mine because I started off by living on location for other reasons, and these folks weren’t in the position to purchase these wheels.
Before disassembling each Energy wheel, I spent time giving thanks for all this wheel had taught and provided. When I was finished the location looked as untouched as when I had arrived.
It was an amazing experience to have that opportunity as I did, and I learned volumes in the process.
The love wheel with Montana aventurine and some rose quartz, for love

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