How That Path Moves and Sparkles


It’s amazing to me that in the beginning of life Spirit presents gifts, and in time we learn how to use them; how that path moves and sparkles. What’s amazing about it, is when we think we’ve gotten it all worked out. Understanding its rhythms, feeling good about the flow, and seeing the wrinkles get ironed out. Then Spirit steps in and presents new gifts, in a whole new environment, with a different flow, and the cycle begins all over again. Each gift is a stepping stone leading to the next.

The 2012 shift is an opportunity for a new perspective, and for gifts to come baring fruit. The key is: when your sky is falling, and your world is turned upside down… Are you paying attention? Gifts happen when we are on course, sky falls when we are not. 2012 and the years that follow will push us in moving forward. For those who are on course, it will be an exciting time indeed.


Unconditional Love


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People talk about unconditional love ALL the time, because it’s about as high as you can go in expressing the value of love to another person. However the notion of unconditional love is a concept and only a concept, it is NOT possible to express pure unconditional love. The moment the thought of love becomes an action, it becomes a condition. Love is a state of being. When you express what it is that love is for you, you are describing your conditions of love. Because we are talking about how we want to be treated. When we talk about deal-breakers in relationships, what we’re really doing is bringing into alignment our conditions, “are we a match”? The only place where we will find the expression of unconditional love is in the emotion of our heart, or the God realm, an environment without contrary. When we are in the Spirit world we are Gods, and when we are on Earth we are humans with very conditioned expressions. We don’t do something without a reason. So why promise something you know you can’t perform?!
To describe unconditional love: You are a stone, and your partner is the wind. The act of unconditional love sets your partner free to dance across the open field and over the hill never to be seen again, and your only thought is to bless them on their way. That is unconditional love. [A one-night-stand is not love, it’s just sex.] To keep someone close to you is conditioned love, because you’re asking them to stay in the box. “I want you to love me like…”, or “I will love you if…” that is a box.
If I love you unconditionally then I love you without boundaries, and that without boundaries and defining edges in this physical realm is chaos. We call this love? Love in the physical realm needs definition and boundaries. Then from there the ego-less relationship has permission to flourish.
Conditioned love has me backing you up especially if you are the one who stepped out of line. Unconditional love has me calling you on your issues; I don’t back you up if you’re the one who stepped out of line, because I want you to be a better person. I want you to grow from your mistakes; I don’t want to keep you stuck in them.
It’s all because of ego that we’re not able to fully express unconditional love. Animals don’t have ego, and their ability to act out unconditional love is finer tuned simply because they are fully present. Still it’s not complete unconditional love, because you can break an animal’s spirit and have them turn on you. Unconditional love won’t break; it is constant and an unlimited amount of it. And in the human experience everything has a contrary; an opposite. So in expressing unconditional love without its contrary sneaking up on you is quite impossible.
Say your partner is leaving you, so as they are going out the door, you are blessing them on their way because you are excited for their journey. You have always been excited about the success of their journey, as it takes them away from you. THAT is unconditional love!!! That is spiritual love. Spiritual love is more concerned with the inner personal development and growth as a spiritual being, then how we can stay together. Deeper than flesh and bone. God loves us unconditional, and the only reason you’ll say it’s not, is by your perception of what that definition is. Which again is all about conditions. Jesus was the only one who really mastered the art of unconditional love while in the physical body. No one was outside of his box, simply because he didn’t have a box. The closer we are to God the less conditions we hold. The less conditions we hold the further we remove ourselves from those who do. So, while outside of their physical space, the more we can love them unconditionally. (To be in their physical space, and love them unconditionally means participating in their karma with them, something love allows us to remove ourselves from.)
When we use the term unconditional love as an action, we are using it simply because we know of no higher expression for this immense feeling exploding inside us. The practice of selfless devotion brings us that much closer to the clarity of spiritual love. So with all honesty, speak truth to power; know the weight of your words, and act responsibly.


When we are unable to be honest in the moment about love, our character begins to wonder way out into left-field; when we describe our passionate love to our partner, and we do so by what we “think” the other person needs to hear. In so doing we create unusually dysfunctional situations. So when we are able to acknowledge the limitations of relationships, we can better talk about the things that are difficult to speak about, and forgive the inconsistencies that come with the egoic human experiences.
Love is creation, and when we speak truth to love we tap into it’s wellspring of prosperity’s abundance on multipal levels.
Understanding limitations gives us a clear perceptions of what we can do, and this is one of them. Passions of the Heart

As friends we share without holding back, however as lovers it’s quite the opposite. After marriage it becomes so clear that we need to be able to be open with each other as we once did as friends. To be able to move through issues easily and effortlessly. How we were as friends, and what we did to move into the stage of lovers, needs to continue through a marriage. Or you end up being two people living in the same house together, emotionally wandering away from each other.
Getting married does not mean that “you’ve made it, and have finely arrived”. Quite the opposite, it means that you have enough love and trust in this person, to continue this journey of growth out of ego, and toward our god-self as a couple. Most marriages fall apart do to this unaccountably. Because everything was going nice and smooth before the marriage. Then shortly after it seemed to just go away. All stages of relationships require focus and attention. EVERYTHING about this physical realm requires focus and attention if you want the best results.

Sexual Energy in Spiritual life


100_1394* When we start to combine the many different practices of spiritual healing, and moving subtle energy in the body, our partners experience of us begins to expand. Everything to do with spiritual healing happens through the atmosphere of love, and when we include spiritual guidance into that practice, the expression of love expands 1000 fold. Then the sexual experience is no longer just physical. You become aware of his Chi, he may become aware of her energy palpitations moving like waves. Sex is a format that allows us the space to discover the deeper mysteries of who we are and how we can be. Yoga, even walking is a practice that expands our sense of self-awareness, self-love and self-loyalty. So if you both have a similar practice, then the sexual experience becomes so much more. Pushing the boundaries of love, and the full scope of potential expressions to bring to fruition beyond the bedroom.
Open your listening ear to their needs, then provide that healing space. Become more of the nurturer you are.
When the masculine and feminine are in balance in supporting each other, that trust turns into bliss… Harmony of the Sexes.
All of this and others like it help to expand the sexual experience and the couples bond.

*  Sacred sex is one that slows down, where he is guided by the rhythm of her breathe. His excitement is stimulated by what brings her to climax. She is stimulated by his desire for rediscovery of her sexy details.
Slow down, talk to each other about what you like. For there to be a stimulating experience for the both of you, it helps for you both to slightly step outside of your comfort zone… For her to be clear about her needs, for him to actively listen, and for the both of you to be present for each other.

* What gets her excited takes a Lot more than what it does for him. And what stimulates her is Far more gentle, then how he would be for himself. If he is a 10 for himself, then she needs a 4 or less from him.

* Women need a lot of interest from men, and they need it all the way through their lives.
What ever their love-language is, needs to be consistently expressed, and that expression coming from you for them, needs to be an expression of your presence of light; your inner potential shining bright as you perform their love language.
Whatever he did to win her heart, he must continue to keep it. When we get caught up by routine and lost in life’s details, we often forget all so easily the emotional health and well-fair of those closest to us.

* There are two different kinds of people to be mindful of when attracting a mate. Those who are the married type [regardless of relationship status] and those who are the bachelor / bachelorette. Someone with the bachelor energy will last in a relationship about 6 months, Where with the energy of the married-one, their high level of contentment through easy commitment is on all the time.
A break-up with a bachelor is one that you see coming. Or if they don’t want to be seen as the “bad guy”, they will make the situation impossible for you to stay with. In any case, those relationships are short.
A break-up with a married-one comes as a surprise, because it’s so unlike them.

* People who find it easy to say “I love you”, are people who really know themselves, and where trust is not an issue. They will also say it consistently at times when you’re doing something in which they feel valued by. So if you’re someone who clearly needs trust in your relationship, this is how you can spot it. Still, use your sense of discernment. Ask yourself “does this relationship / decision inspire and energize me”, and following that yes we surround ourselves with empowerment.

* How to sense the next person: When we are between relationships, and we’re eager about the next person. How do we sense when they are near. A strong indicator is in your night-time dreams. The dreamscape is a reflection of the mental and emotional work that we work through during the day. The dreamscape will also reveal hidden tendencies. So if you’re conscious about pulling into your life a prosperous relationship, and start to put together a picture in your mind of what that means for you. As you move through this process, the dreamscape will show you how close or far off they are by presenting a faceless person in your dreams. More or less interaction with this person will reflect how close they are to finding you.

Intimacy and sex:
Most people have sex thinking they’re getting their intimacy issues fulfilled. Cuddling and verbal communications: “you’re going to be okay”, and helping to talk it through is much more effective than sex alone. Separate from intimacy, sex is always a two-way street. If he is there to complete his emotions for the day, and not there for her emotional reassurance. Then he is telling her that she’s not worth the effort.
Intimacy is not sex alone, intimacy is verbal and nonverbal communication, that part that is only transparent to your partner. It’s only shared to others in confidence, and only with permission. For intimacy comes with great trust and from a deeper level in the relationship.

* Anal sex for most men is a belief that they need something tight to come to climax. This belief comes from people who live in their minds instead of their feeling centers. When we live in our minds, we often get caught up in performance, and that creates issues around getting-it-up, or ejaculation issues.

* Childhood Sexual Development
Between the ages of 0 to 13 there are many behavioral demonstrations that are presented, that make or break healthy adult relationships of all kinds. It’s all about self-discovery, just like how we use toys for the practice of friendship (Teddy bear).
What creates healthy emotional interactions between couples and a good sex-life, is first being comfortable with our own sex, and this discovery happens as a young child. For the dad to kiss his boy on the lips is very natural, and the son will naturally shift away from this when the processing of this need is fulfilled, which is very subconscious. First we process these emotions in the safety of our own sex, then we cross the street. All this is very natural. It’s when we disrupt it does it create chaos all the way down the line.
As children our first sexual encounter is with ourselves, and then with our own sex as with a best friend. Kissing and touching. This experience is a one time thing, something that is sought out by the individual, and very instinctual. A very gentle one time experience is all that is needed to have a lifetime of healthy relationships with the opposite sex.
This vital part of our sexual development that is rarely experienced, largely do to either lack of opportunity, or parental interference.
When parents shame us to the core, it has a tendency of having us questioning our own sense of sexual self-worth when entering healthy adult relationships. Sexual shame is an emotional projection; a way for the parent / friend / sibling to pass on their emotional guilt, and something that has absolutely nothing to do with you.

* If we put a masculine man (he-man) and a feminine woman (girlie-girl) in the same room together, what happens in terms of relating is he will relate to her as the weaker sex, because to him she is a weak man. The woman will try to retrain him to be more like a woman, so she can better understand him. When applying this pattern of relating to the single parent, what we get is a one-sided child. It takes both the masculine and feminine guidance to get a well rounded child. All relationships require focus and attention. So by learning about him, and listening to her, then acting responsibly in the relationship that child’s emotional education will flourish.

Questions and Answers:
* What makes someone lose power when making love? The concept of “losing power”, comes from the limitations of the human mind. In truth there’s not a limited amount of energy or power/conscious awareness. If someone gets sleepy after sex, then “that” is just what they need to relax and let go, and they will wake up refreshed and renewed. Getting sleepy or being energized by sex, is a way the emotions get processed, and very natural.
* How does a psychic woman tune out messages about her boyfriend when they sleep next to each other? Don’t sleep in the same bed with him “every” night. Honor your psychic boundaries. My beloved and I are both psychics, and we don’t sleep in the same house together. Otherwise we’re on all the time; it takes a lot of energy to be clairvoyantly on all the time. So we value time together and time apart.
Transforming love to spiritual energy? Raise your awareness, and just become your highest ethical value. Stay in this space regardless of where you find yourself. Be mindful of how we are for ourselves, and not pushing those ideals on other people.
* How do I protect myself energetically during sex? Read my post on Energy Shielding.
* Cleansing sexual energy from a partner who sleeps with other woman. This is not something one person can do for another without their permission. You’re at a “crossroads” lesson. Either you accept that you are sharing your partner with another, or you gather up and step out.
Healing another person of their misconduct because it makes you feel uncomfortable, that’s an emotional projection. You want them to change so you can be happy, when in truth “you need to change for you” so you can be happy. So either accept what’s going on, or leave the relationship. We can hold the space and provide a nurturing environment for them to heal. However in this situation, this is their threshold of healing to cross. They either accept your care, and use that environment to heal or you move on. We can’t do this for them.
If they accept your support: then look for someone who can “cut cords of emotional attachment” or someone familiar with psychic surgery, for the maintenance of your own emotional welfare.
* How to make sex more spiritual? What makes sex more spiritual is when we focus on what couples find sexy beyond the bedroom.
What she finds sexy is when he has that “can do, want to do” attitude. It’s his confidence in knowing his strengths, and acting on them, because she will know instinctively when he’s being real or not.
What he finds sexy in her, is when she gives him the space to provide; the space to create *metaphoric castles around her.
When it’s natural and easy for him to act out her love language, as it is for her then the relationship moves on silk.
When we click in this fashion we will have a stronger bond as a married couple, because what he does naturally feeds her,  as she does for him. For couples who don’t have this, they can shift their behavior into this action. Because this action feeds you in such a way that has you wanting more.
However if you’re in a relationship with someone who is very controlling, or someone with a big ego, or someone with very low confidence issues, it may take more energy to shift them out of that then you want to give. These are qualities to look for before saying “I do”.

*Metaphoric castles: is intimate emotional support, or intimate spiritual support. Something intimate your lover does for you that no one else does. It’s something that is built upon, and becomes a quality of relating, a side dish or added ingredient in the relationship that is carefully constructed just for you.

May your blessings be the experience of touch.

“I Love You”


The phrase “I love you” can create both positive and indifferent qualities, depending upon the emotion behind it. The term “I love you” is used nearly everywhere, and not always in a nice way. She says it, so he feels obligated to say it back, and if he doesn’t say it she feels rejected. Or when he says “you know I love you”, and the words and the look in his eyes tell two different stories. When we use the term loosely it begins to lose it’s luster.
Part of knowing how to provide a nurturing relationship is knowing when it’s the perfect time to say “I love you”. The best time is when the other person is doing, or saying something that nurtures and supports the gift that you are. When our actions are in alignment with our words, we come face to face with purpose. “And like a light kindled from a leaping spark, finds it’s way into the heart, and the world starts making sense”. This becomes god in action in you, because this gives the relationship / marriage shape.

* While he is taking out the garbage, shoveling the driveway, hauling firewood, fixing that squeaky door,  she says “I love you”, because she values that “can do”, “want to do” energy about him.
Or when he stops what he is doing, and gives her his undivided attention. Or he helps her to process through an emotional issue, without he himself engaging in emotion…
We only need to say it when we feel valued in that moment. By saying it every time, it loses that sparkle.
* While she is cooking an amazing meal, when he returns to a warm inviting home, knows his needs before he does, has the clarity and understanding to help him to navigate his emotional world…
This is apart of the action of sacred sex; giving purpose which sculptures the landscape of the wisdom that is performed.

Saying “I love you” can be a very powerful thing, especially when it’s said from the response of the action that produced it. You’re no longer just wondering through life, and trying to guess what your partner’s needs are. They are giving you direct feedback, and a great sense of what it is that they love about you. This in turn gives you direction and purpose. Providing grace and ease in an otherwise unpredictable environment.

My blessings to you…

* Sometimes explaining what an “I love you” means can be helpful as well, because what it means to you, and how they may be perceiving it maybe two very different things. Especially in the beginning of relationships where you’re getting to know each other.

A Path of Light


When looking at the ego all we see is darkness. When I look out across humanity, and see people fighting with “what is”, I see people choosing the path of darkness. Everything that is negative, that produces the feelings of pain, shame, guilt, mistrust, losing ground, anger is the darkness of ego. This darkness is what it looks and feels like to be off our life-path. Because our true life-path is life affirming, pure joyful experiences, and bountiful abundance. Most are choosing to fight against this, instead of owning it. When something doesn’t easily come together, that means it’s out of alignment with what is life affirming and essential for your life to flourish.
When we sit in the mud of this darkness, and stare at what doesn’t work, we are choosing to dwell in that darkness. Instead of being revengeful, and choosing to hurt that person. Choose to forgive them, and bless them on their way, then step out of that situation. Remove ourselves from everything negative. Be very selective about how we program our minds. The art of discernment (the art of seeing beyond, and therefor make better choices) is a personal relationship we have with our environment, and a constructive tool when practicing boundaries.

“There is no wrong direction, only choices”. However, it is wise to say at some point we either learn the difference between the path that leads to darkness, or the path that leads to light, and somewhere in there hopefully we learn that we do have a choice.
When we feel frustrated, angry, shame, guilt… we are in the mud of darkness. We’ve all been there, so we all know all so well what darkness is. So when we are feeling frustrated, the way out of that space is to look straight at light and laughter, and what that is. Then choose to dwell in that environment. Or we look at the situation/activity we were in, and choose not to participate in that again. Or we go as far as to look at the people we surround ourselves with that either bring joy or sadness.
When we ask ourselves “does this inspire and energize me”, for situations we’re thinking about engaging in, or people to to be involved with, and by following the “yes” of this question we surround ourselves with joyful abundance.

As we go through the process of doing our inner work (as in changing fear into love), we remove all the junk that clogs the channels for that abundance to flow freely. Darkness holds back our abundant life, holding it in limbo until we wake up from the illusion of fear; the illusion that this is all there is, and step out into the light and life affirming self awareness; finding that space within yourself that is joyful, feeding your mind with something that makes you laugh, instead of angry. So when you’re feeling down find something to laugh at, shift that ugly awareness into joy… Change the channel.
In the beginning it may take a while to get out of that mud. However with practice we learn to catch it sooner: “oh I’m doing it again”, then shift the pattern. The faster we bounce back from this, the less and less time we spend in darkness, and the more joyful abundance fills our experiences. Being able to think yourself out of that maze; solving  these problems happens more readily when we choose to be light-hearted.

So notice the difference when something that is a challenge to overcome, or something that comes easily and effortlessly to you. If I want to buy a new something and the money is not coming easily for it, then it’s simply not meant to be at this time. Or if I want to say something to her, and the words aren’t coming clear, then I’m not meant to share this at this time, or this kind of information is not for her to understand, and I must rephrase my words. Discover what comes into alignment easily and what does not, then give your precious attention to what does, and watch your life flourish.
This has nothing to do with your “comfort zone”, this has everything to do with the construction of your life-path, as it comes to you, and your involvement in that unfolding.
Your life is waiting for you to come into alignment with this understanding for the joy that life is.

My blessings to you…

Why Fight It

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When we “fight” against anything, we loose. We get exactly what it is that we are fighting (we have that genie in the bottle experience). We fight against drugs, we become addicted to pharmaceutical drugs. We fight for our freedoms, we lose our freedoms at a staggering rate.
When we fight against something, then we are reacting from a place of fear, and therefor we set ourselves up for an experience of restriction. In the law of attraction the word “fight” is just as powerful as the word “love”, as in creating one’s direction.
So, why fight it, instead “create” what it is that we do want, and we’ll have a far more positive outcome.
In the world of ranching: if you have the belief that if you keep spraying weeds eventually they will all die off. In truth this is not so. By spraying, the growth of the succession rate of the plants is withheld; by killing one weed another simply takes its place.
In truth, if we plant the grasses that we “do want”, then “that” will choke out the weeds. The creation supplies more of what we want to see. By only seeing the weed, we only see the problem, and therefor we only react. If we look beyond the problem of the weeds to the grasses that want to grow, and support them, we get a win win.


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In Marriage, What Are We Looking For?


021What draws us together and has us fall in love with a person? In observing my fellow bloggers, I see the attraction being very sexual. Then I watch them trying to carve out a practical, functioning relationship that is based on hot, steamy sexuality. What makes a relationship work is temperament in personality, and something that is nearly ignored because the sex is so great. Sex is the bonus and should be the last thing on the list when looking for a quality life-mate. More importantly what we need to experience with our mate, before we say “I do”, is their disagreeable side. Everyone has one, and it’s so important to have a strong grasp on whether or not that is something you can handle for a lifetime.
* How they deal with anger, and more importantly, how they “deal with you” while angry.
* With the conflict: are they responsible with their own emotional reactions by practicing boundaries, or do they insist that it’s all your fault for their unhappiness.
* In the area of sex, some people have a very crude understanding of the sensitivities that need to be shared in sexuality.
* Marriage in the 18 and 1900’s made complete sense, simply because things moved at a slower pace, and it took us a lifetime to process through our emotional issues with our partner. Today, things move so much faster, we process through our emotional issues so much more quickly. Staying in a marriage requires us to have eyes wide open, to build our communicative skills, and to learn as much or more about ourselves then we do about our partner. These are a few of the responses you want to experience before marriage.
* Relationships have a modal that they follow: first is the lustful romance; pure chemistry, hot and steamy yet extremely fragile, and designed to pull you both together. Then that shifts into partnership, where 78% of the chemistry fades, and honest love shines it’s radiance. And for some, in our latter years companionship shows it’s true colors. Then there is spiritual love, which about one percent of the worlds population will experience.
An amazing amount of people get married before the relationship has a chance to shift into partnership [up to 9 months], because when it does the intensity really changes; really softens those edges. If you’re someone who loves change, then this will be fun for you.
Very few people have the Will of heart to see beyond love, beyond sex, to see if and where a relationship is sturdy. If it’s not working, then simply bless them and let them go, and continue the search for the right one. Asking the right questions, patiently waiting for the response, and having the courage to only say “yes” to the one that passes the grade.
Every single relation/connection with people has an alignment: if your angry with the world, your alignment with this person is one in which they will mirror to you what needs to be healed. If you fall in love with someone in which “you feel” is not quite right and you do it anyway, the connection will show you why it’s so important to give attention to your intuition/gut feeling/inner voice. Alignment made manifest, and so it is.
A healthy and meaningful marriage today requires eyes wide open. This is not just a concept in one’s mind, this is seeing them act it out. If (he) does not shift his awareness, and curb his actions to match your needs, then it may not be in him to do so. Having eyes wide open means less will take you by surprise.

May your search be swift and true.

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