June 2014 004When we think of starting a new relationship, what is it that we want to create? Most people will seek out beauty, then hope they want what we want, as in the game of roulette.
Who are we, and what is the uniqueness that we bring to the table? Instead of looking for something wonderful in someone else, look first at yourself for what it is that you bring to the table of this relationship. Because in that moment in-between relationships, is a good time to redefine and fine-tune that magical essence you are. Beauty doesn’t last for ever, so in looking deeper for something you have that is an asset for relationships. This may also be something your friends can help you with, because sometimes it helps to have another set of eyes outside of your bubble, looking in to see what is hidden. This talent needs to be something you already have, because becoming something you’re not creates great mistrust when the truth comes out.
Take time in-between relationships and heal the wounds of the past. So we don’t drag preconceived notions into a new relationship. Know who you are, be the light you’re cultivating. Know what you bring and look for someone who complements you; your weaknesses are his strengths and his weaknesses are your strengths. Do what you can to not be reactive, and instead be active in your search for a quality partnership.
When “quality of heart” is more pronounced than looks, your true authentic self-will have more space to shine, be seen and validated.

My blessings to you…