We have a fixation on there only being one mate for each of us. Hollywood created a sensation from fiction; that without truth, something Hollywood does a lot. Hollywood and the movie industry is all about fantasy and not fact, and more than not we buy into this belief hook, line and sinker. The belief that there’s only one person emotionally compatible to each of us, is a belief that we are living from lack… The opposite of abundance. When in fact, world wide, there are about five hundred thousand to one, to which you’re compatible with.
Soulmate is another distortion. By definition, a soulmate is someone that shows up in our life, to help us push through our most difficult times. It’s a relationship that may not be easy, yet with their persistence, we come out a better person for it. A soulmate is a classmate in the school of soul. What we think of as a soulmate is really meant to be a twin flame, someone to whom our compatibility is high.
Blessings…
LonelyAngel
Jan 22, 2012 @ 19:24:27
Perhaps he was a soulmate, in the sense that you suggest. He certainly helped me become a better person in the short space of time we were together. He gave me the courage to understand that I can cope without a significant other and to enjoy being who I am.
As for compatible mates, I’m sure there are many for me, its just that it might take me some time to recover from what has happened.
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witchingwildwood
Jul 08, 2013 @ 23:29:13
I absolutely agree with you and have found that believing in the myth of only one person meant for us can be destructive. I truly thought my first love (I was 13 when we began dating) was my soul mate and because of that I put up with horrible things and let fruitful relationships die. It wasn’t until I was in my twenties that I let go of the idea (and him) and have been blessed in relationships ever since. 🙂
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Christopher Snell
Jul 09, 2013 @ 00:35:07
Your first love is “a” soul mate [because we can have many]. Anytime someone pushes your emotional buttons, where the relationship is pulled and stretched is a relationship with a soul mate; a person who will go to Great lengths to push us to grow… in ALL ways.
A relationship in which you feel a great connection, where you finish each others sentences, is one where you have a strong telepathic connection. When seeking love’s bountiful bliss, the journey will open your heart wider, and bring you closer to that of your wildest dreams.
Blessings…
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witchingwildwood
Jul 09, 2013 @ 02:08:43
Thanks for your input! The relationship I have with my husband is one of a telepathic connection, from our first date we have always been on the same brain wave it seems. We got married young seven years ago and after overcoming many hurdles in the beginning I feel like we are growing more and more with love in a mature, strong way. Very blessed indeed.
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Nandigama
Aug 30, 2021 @ 11:46:17
Dear Christopher, Thank you for your insightful articles. I do keep reading them..In the past too, many of your articles have helped me heal myself and make an informed decison.
Could you please guide me on this topic: if two souls have made soul binding contract/ vow- say marriage and were not able to make good the promise in at least two life times. Now, they meet in the current life time, not as lovers but as a mentor and mentee. How would the pulls and pushes from last life times influence their present journey?
I hope my question is not unclear, tried to put it in a gist. Thank you…
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Christopher Snell
Aug 30, 2021 @ 16:17:47
We are Born Again, pushing us into a loving resolve; into our personal, loving, full potential.
This sounds to me more like a sexual attraction than a Soul Contract, and it’s trying to justify itself.
See it for what it is, and act responsibly.
My blessings to you both.
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